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Jonathon
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What is the transition like between living with parents to living in a dorm #Spring25?
I am a senior about to graduate and I'm nervous about moving into a dorm. I've been camping with friends before so I have some experience away from home, but living on my own for a whole school year seems daunting and nerve-wracking.
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Atiya kamal
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Kolkata, West Bengal, India
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Atiya’s Answer
Hi Jonathan, Living with parents and living in a dorm are definitely significant differences that a person faces at one point if it happens in his life. When we live with our parents, we don't need to think about numerous things. Basically, we are carefree of ourselves, but soon we end up in a dorm, and even if we don't want to, we become responsible for our own things and work.
I think before shifting into a dorm, you should first start taking responsibility for your own affairs 2 to 3 months prior.
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Layne Buckley
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Great question, Jonathan! There are definitely pros and cons to both, and one is not necessarily better than the other. You have to consider what would be best for you in your situation. The pros of living with parents are many: you save money on expenses related to room and board, you have the support infrastructure of your family, it is a known, comfortable environment and may be less distracting. The cons are that you may feel less connected to your college or university, and may take more time to build college relationships if you are commuter. The pros of living in a dorm are having the experience in living with and interacting with a variety of people, having more freedom around your time and living preferences and are close to your classes. The cons of living in a dorm may include the expenses, possible distractions from your schooling, and maybe not enjoying living in a large group. I would reflect on what you would like your experience to be like and consider what would be best for you. Also, keep in mind, you can always change later. I know people that went from living at home, to living in a dorm, to living in an apartment during their time in college. At each step they decided what was going to be best for them in that given year to be successful.
Consider the pros and cons of each
Reflect on what will be better for your situation in that year
Keep in mind you can always change later, and many people do
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Amanda Brown
Director of Quality and Regulatory
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Amanda’s Answer
Hi Jonathon,
I can totally understand this. I was also nervous to live in a dorm with people i never met before. However i have to say that my experience entering the dorms as a freshman, what i learned was that my roommates (i had 3) were all feeling the same. There is something about that new experience and nervousness that bonds you together- and i ended up making new friends, that I'm still friends with today, 20 years later.
You will also meet people based on your interests- whether its clubs, or intramural sports, or band- try to get involved in activities you like when you get to college. This will also help you make friends that will all be going through the same thing as you.
And remember to have fun! You got this!
Amanda
I can totally understand this. I was also nervous to live in a dorm with people i never met before. However i have to say that my experience entering the dorms as a freshman, what i learned was that my roommates (i had 3) were all feeling the same. There is something about that new experience and nervousness that bonds you together- and i ended up making new friends, that I'm still friends with today, 20 years later.
You will also meet people based on your interests- whether its clubs, or intramural sports, or band- try to get involved in activities you like when you get to college. This will also help you make friends that will all be going through the same thing as you.
And remember to have fun! You got this!
Amanda
Dino Ubalde
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Dino’s Answer
Hi Jonathon, thank you for reaching out to us. We believe you'll find clarity with your intriguing question about moving from living with family to living in a dorm. This is an important topic for both parents and students during child-rearing. Some kids find it easy to adjust and thrive when they move out to live in a dorm. If parents have taught life skills like making the bed, cooking meals, doing laundry, cleaning, managing money, and treating oneself and others well, then children are better prepared for dorm life.
It's a big decision for both parents and children, but when parents have done their job well, they can confidently say, "I trust my child to do well on their own." These skills help children live independently and adapt to new environments. Even if parents missed teaching something, kids can learn and fit into their new surroundings. If you feel ready and answer "Yes" to these questions, then you're all set! You can handle life's challenges. You've got this!
It's a big decision for both parents and children, but when parents have done their job well, they can confidently say, "I trust my child to do well on their own." These skills help children live independently and adapt to new environments. Even if parents missed teaching something, kids can learn and fit into their new surroundings. If you feel ready and answer "Yes" to these questions, then you're all set! You can handle life's challenges. You've got this!
C Venkat
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Tampa, Florida
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C’s Answer
Transitioning to college is a big change. So it is natural that you feel anxious. Your outlook will make a big difference to how you adjust.
Remember that like you, every other freshman is also transitioning, so you are not alone. Rather than be intimidated, here are some suggestions on making this a positive experience:
1. Plan ahead for everything that you can do now - dorm, supplies and other essentials. If budget & schedule will allow it, try to visit the campus, the dorm, nearby grocery stores etc. once before you move - familiarizing yourself with the environment ahead of time will help a lot.
2. Connect with your cohort and roommate via the school's slack or other channels - it's a great way to introduce yourself to others. Seeing familiar faces from these groups when you arrive will make you feel more at home.
3. Learn to cook, managing your finances, cleaning your room & surroundings and doing laundry while you are still at home (If you don't do one or more of these things already, start now). Being self-sufficient is a huge plus when you live by yourself.
4. College is the time to explore new hobbies, meet people from all over the world and learn about yourself as an independent person - lean in and try new clubs, extracurriculars and volunteering in the community.
5. Have a goal to meet at least 3 new people every week - soon you will find familiar faces everywhere on campus!
6. Learn to adjust to others. In other words, try to view every situation from the other person's point of view. Help others when you can.
7. Have fun, but be sensible about the choices you make and set boundaries for yourself.
8. Work hard on your courses and learn as much as you can. Electives are a great way to try a new subject or course that may be outside your major.
9. Use campus resources for coursework such as office hours, TA sessions. If you are feeling overwhelmed, try group study or find a study buddy.
10. This can be a time of reflection - what are your goals 2 years from now? 5 years from now? 10 years from now? Write these down & make a plan for how to achieve them. Start with small steps. Revisit your plan every 3 months and see how you are doing & adjust the plan if needed.
11. Don't be hard on yourself if things don't go exactly as you had planned or imagined. You can do this!
12. Start using a calendar (online calendars like Google calendar work great) to get your day organized. Allow time for relaxation and self care. Sleep & good nutrition are important to sustain in college.
College is a time to have fun, develop who you are as an individual, see the world through a new lens. Make the most of it!
Good luck!
Remember that like you, every other freshman is also transitioning, so you are not alone. Rather than be intimidated, here are some suggestions on making this a positive experience:
1. Plan ahead for everything that you can do now - dorm, supplies and other essentials. If budget & schedule will allow it, try to visit the campus, the dorm, nearby grocery stores etc. once before you move - familiarizing yourself with the environment ahead of time will help a lot.
2. Connect with your cohort and roommate via the school's slack or other channels - it's a great way to introduce yourself to others. Seeing familiar faces from these groups when you arrive will make you feel more at home.
3. Learn to cook, managing your finances, cleaning your room & surroundings and doing laundry while you are still at home (If you don't do one or more of these things already, start now). Being self-sufficient is a huge plus when you live by yourself.
4. College is the time to explore new hobbies, meet people from all over the world and learn about yourself as an independent person - lean in and try new clubs, extracurriculars and volunteering in the community.
5. Have a goal to meet at least 3 new people every week - soon you will find familiar faces everywhere on campus!
6. Learn to adjust to others. In other words, try to view every situation from the other person's point of view. Help others when you can.
7. Have fun, but be sensible about the choices you make and set boundaries for yourself.
8. Work hard on your courses and learn as much as you can. Electives are a great way to try a new subject or course that may be outside your major.
9. Use campus resources for coursework such as office hours, TA sessions. If you are feeling overwhelmed, try group study or find a study buddy.
10. This can be a time of reflection - what are your goals 2 years from now? 5 years from now? 10 years from now? Write these down & make a plan for how to achieve them. Start with small steps. Revisit your plan every 3 months and see how you are doing & adjust the plan if needed.
11. Don't be hard on yourself if things don't go exactly as you had planned or imagined. You can do this!
12. Start using a calendar (online calendars like Google calendar work great) to get your day organized. Allow time for relaxation and self care. Sleep & good nutrition are important to sustain in college.
College is a time to have fun, develop who you are as an individual, see the world through a new lens. Make the most of it!
Good luck!
Kate Wang
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Dalian, Liaoning, China
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Kate’s Answer
It's totally normal you feel nervous!!!! It's really a big change in your life.
But think of it as an exciting step toward independence. You’ll still have support around you, and many people will be going through the same transition. Since you’ve camped with friends, you already know how to manage shared spaces and being away from home. Dorm life has its challenges, but it also brings new friends, fun memories, and personal growth. You’ve got this!
But think of it as an exciting step toward independence. You’ll still have support around you, and many people will be going through the same transition. Since you’ve camped with friends, you already know how to manage shared spaces and being away from home. Dorm life has its challenges, but it also brings new friends, fun memories, and personal growth. You’ve got this!
Mariem Limam
Solution Management Center Representative
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Tunis, Tunisia
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Mariem’s Answer
Hi Jonathon, :)
When I moved from living with my parents to a dorm, it was definitely a big change. I suddenly had a lot more freedom, which felt exciting but also meant I had to take care of things I didn’t think much about before, like laundry, budgeting, and managing my own schedule.
Living with other people was a new experience too. It was fun being surrounded by friends all the time, but I also had to get used to less privacy and sharing space. I missed home at first, especially the comfort of family and home-cooked meals but over time, I started to enjoy the independence.
Eventually, I found my rhythm and started growing in ways I didn’t expect. It really helped me become more confident and self-reliant. :
When I moved from living with my parents to a dorm, it was definitely a big change. I suddenly had a lot more freedom, which felt exciting but also meant I had to take care of things I didn’t think much about before, like laundry, budgeting, and managing my own schedule.
Living with other people was a new experience too. It was fun being surrounded by friends all the time, but I also had to get used to less privacy and sharing space. I missed home at first, especially the comfort of family and home-cooked meals but over time, I started to enjoy the independence.
Eventually, I found my rhythm and started growing in ways I didn’t expect. It really helped me become more confident and self-reliant. :
Gina Cabrera, MPS
EC
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Tampa, Florida
Updated
Gina’s Answer
It’s completely normal to feel nervous about the transition from living with your parents to living in a dorm, especially when it’s your first time living away from home for an extended period. Here's a quick breakdown of what you can expect and some tips to help you adjust:
What to Expect:
Independence:
Moving into a dorm means you’ll have more freedom to manage your time and space, but with that freedom comes new responsibilities (like managing your meals, laundry, and schedule).
Community and Socializing:
Dorm life offers plenty of opportunities to meet new people, and while that can be exciting, it can also feel overwhelming at first. Many students experience initial homesickness but quickly adjust as they make new friends and get involved in dorm activities.
Shared Spaces:
Unlike living at home, you’ll likely share a room, bathroom, and common areas. This can require a bit of adjustment in terms of privacy and respect for others' habits, but it’s a great opportunity to develop your cohabitation skills.
Different Pace:
College life, especially in a dorm, often moves at a faster pace. There are plenty of activities, events, and academic responsibilities, so it’s important to stay organized and manage your time well.
Tips for a Smooth Transition:
Start Small:
If you’ve already been camping, you know how it feels to adjust to a different routine. Think of the dorm as a new adventure, but this time with more comforts. Start by getting familiar with your dorm and the people around you before the semester fully kicks off.
Create a Comfortable Space:
Make your dorm room your own. Bring things from home like photos, decorations, or a cozy blanket to help you feel more comfortable and less homesick.
Reach Out:
Don’t be afraid to connect with your roommates or dorm neighbors before you move in. Many people feel nervous, and a little pre-dorm communication can ease the nerves.
Manage Your Time:
Dorm life is busy! Set up a routine and stick to it. Having a structured day will help reduce feelings of being overwhelmed. Be sure to balance studying, socializing, and taking time for yourself.
Stay in Touch with Family:
While living on your own is exciting, staying in touch with your parents or family can help combat any feelings of isolation. You don’t have to call every day, but regular check-ins will help maintain that support network.
Embrace the Experience:
Living in a dorm is a unique part of the college experience. You’ll learn a lot about yourself and gain new skills in self-sufficiency, responsibility, and social interaction.
You’ve already proven you can manage being away from home by camping with friends, so living on your own in a dorm will be another exciting milestone! As the semester goes on, you’ll get more comfortable and confident in your new environment. You've got this! 🌟
What to Expect:
Independence:
Moving into a dorm means you’ll have more freedom to manage your time and space, but with that freedom comes new responsibilities (like managing your meals, laundry, and schedule).
Community and Socializing:
Dorm life offers plenty of opportunities to meet new people, and while that can be exciting, it can also feel overwhelming at first. Many students experience initial homesickness but quickly adjust as they make new friends and get involved in dorm activities.
Shared Spaces:
Unlike living at home, you’ll likely share a room, bathroom, and common areas. This can require a bit of adjustment in terms of privacy and respect for others' habits, but it’s a great opportunity to develop your cohabitation skills.
Different Pace:
College life, especially in a dorm, often moves at a faster pace. There are plenty of activities, events, and academic responsibilities, so it’s important to stay organized and manage your time well.
Tips for a Smooth Transition:
Start Small:
If you’ve already been camping, you know how it feels to adjust to a different routine. Think of the dorm as a new adventure, but this time with more comforts. Start by getting familiar with your dorm and the people around you before the semester fully kicks off.
Create a Comfortable Space:
Make your dorm room your own. Bring things from home like photos, decorations, or a cozy blanket to help you feel more comfortable and less homesick.
Reach Out:
Don’t be afraid to connect with your roommates or dorm neighbors before you move in. Many people feel nervous, and a little pre-dorm communication can ease the nerves.
Manage Your Time:
Dorm life is busy! Set up a routine and stick to it. Having a structured day will help reduce feelings of being overwhelmed. Be sure to balance studying, socializing, and taking time for yourself.
Stay in Touch with Family:
While living on your own is exciting, staying in touch with your parents or family can help combat any feelings of isolation. You don’t have to call every day, but regular check-ins will help maintain that support network.
Embrace the Experience:
Living in a dorm is a unique part of the college experience. You’ll learn a lot about yourself and gain new skills in self-sufficiency, responsibility, and social interaction.
You’ve already proven you can manage being away from home by camping with friends, so living on your own in a dorm will be another exciting milestone! As the semester goes on, you’ll get more comfortable and confident in your new environment. You've got this! 🌟