Should I strive to be competitive at the expense of my own happiness?
I'm a high school junior that has straight A's and I'm involved in many extracurricular activities. I have a goal to become a rocket engineer because I excel in math, however, I sometimes think that I'd be much happier being a gardener or a janitor. #engineering #environmental-engineering #gardening #rocket-science #astrophysics #math
As this is not a U.S. specific question, I feel entitled to reply too.
I think you know, you can't go back in time and if you could, the next question would be, how far would you go back in order to start over? Always assuming, you could take all your knowledge and experience with you.
If you don't want to feel sorrow to have chosen the wrong path in the future, then you should consider two things.
1. I see so many people, being almost 40 years old, being unhappy with their profession and recognizing, they did what their parents expected them to do.
2. When choosing my own 'calling' it was helpful to imagine I'm a billionaire who already visited all the interesting places in the world. After having a long sleep and being served breakfast by my butler on my motor yacht, what would I do with the rest of the day? One of my answers was 'Make computers talk to each other.'
Now I'm 50 years old and I still like doing what I do. I'd do it, even if I wouldn't get payed! But: I' like doing what I do. As I like what I do, I'm doing it good. As I'm doing it good, I get paid. Lo and behold! Two problems solved. :-) First, make sure I like what I do, second make a living.
Greetings from Germany.
Sven-Oliver recommends the following next steps:
- Imagine you are a billionaire already.
hmmm...Being competitive at the expense of your Happiness?...I have heard this often from folks testing their limits in life. My short answer...YES. I could have padded a longer answer but not to consume valuable time with circumlocution. This question, IMHO, is more about your destination versus your journey. When I read Douglas' fantastic advice to you and reflected on advice I gave my own young people, I made me think. I wanted my own to fully maximize their given talents as those talents do have an expiration date. After you have pushed and maximized your gifts, you will have gained the benefit of two things: (1) you will have learned how (and what it feels like) to apply maximum effort to achieve a goal and (2) afterwards you will have a broader range of options from which to choose in terms of a career. The way it came out to my own kids was as follows.."After you push yourself and your talents as far as they can go you will see that you will ultimately have the option to be engineer/scientist or dig holes....both respectable vocations...but at least you won't be relegated to just one end of that continuum when it's all said and done. Keep pushin' Jada...and you might just enjoy the journey as well. :)