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Leo Isaac
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How to be emotionally, mentally ready of a bad situation?
My mother's life is threatened by serious diseases. #healthcare
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Rebecca Tang
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I am sorry to hear your mum situation. I can image how your feel. You have concern on her situation indeed. You may also feel sad, desperate, etc. sometimes. On the other hand, you may not prefer to show these feelings in front of you mum and have to her your biggest support.
Everyone has the emotion. That's normal. However, you should not hide these feelings. I suggest you could talk to someone who understands your situation to release your emotion. If you really want to cry (sometimes), you can do it. That' nothing wrong.
In case you cannot find friends or relatives you can talk, you can consider to talk to counsellor in your school or seek for their guidance. I believe they are happy to help you.
You are always welcome to come to this forum to seek assistance too.
Be Strong! May Almighty God bless you, your mum and your family!
Everyone has the emotion. That's normal. However, you should not hide these feelings. I suggest you could talk to someone who understands your situation to release your emotion. If you really want to cry (sometimes), you can do it. That' nothing wrong.
In case you cannot find friends or relatives you can talk, you can consider to talk to counsellor in your school or seek for their guidance. I believe they are happy to help you.
You are always welcome to come to this forum to seek assistance too.
Be Strong! May Almighty God bless you, your mum and your family!
Emily Bentley
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Hi Leo,
I'm very sorry to hear about your mother. I can't even imagine how tough this must be. While I may not be in your shoes, I have dealt with situations that have impacted my mental and physical help. What I've learned from reading countless articles, watching videos, talking to therapists, and finding methods of self-soothing, is everyone is different, and dealing with difficult situations can also be different for everyone. It's also okay to have emotions and feelings about what is happening right now.
What's good to know are the resources available to you. Do you have family members or friends you can talk to so you can let out any emotions this may make you feel(which keep in mind can change and fluctuate from day-to-day and that's okay)? If so, it may be good to open up to them about the situation if you haven't already. If you feel yourself starting to feel down, maybe setting up a time once a week for you to talk or meet can help. I would definitely start talking to them sooner than later. You can even come up with a code word for you to text them when you're feeling down if it's hard for you to reach out to people when that happens. It's important to keep a support system around you during this. It can be very easy to isolate, which can be good to do in moderation, but still is very important to have people to talk to.
If you feel you don't have many people in your friends and family to reach out to for this, I would try setting up an appointment with a school counselor or therapist. They will be able to give you more tools on how to manage your emotions around this. If you're nervous about this, or feel you can't do this, there are online resources, some of them anonymous, that may be better depending on what you need and what you're comfortable with. Be sure to let your support system know if you're feeling very down. If needed, they'll be able to get you more resources to help make sure you stay safe.
Another way to help verbalize or express your emotions could be to start a journal. What's good to keep in mind if you do this is you can take this in whatever direction you want. You can write to yourself, write poems/lyrics, write letters to someone else(that you can send or not send), or turn this into a journal both you and your mom can use. If journaling isn't your thing, that's okay too, there are other ways like music or art that could be a cathartic release. You can even make something for or with your mom. Alternatively, if all of that feels like it will take too much energy or isn't something you'd like to do, try reading or listening to podcasts. In my journey, I became a huge fan of meditative works, self-help, Stoicism, and philosophy, but find what interests you.
I would also recommend finding activities that can help take your mind off of what's going on. If you like running, try to do this often whenever you start to feel down, or find another physical activity to do. Try yoga, meditation, or go on walks. Develop breathing techniques for if you start to feel stressed. Try something new. Join a club or a team you have been interested in but haven't tried yet. Meeting new people can also help your support system grow, and you can continue these activities when times get hard.
I'm sure being there for your mom may be hard to do at times given your own emotions you feel about this. It's still important that you're there for her through this. If able, maybe you can also find an activity like cooking, coloring, puzzles, reading something together, or even just watching shows together. It could be a good release to have these times and to talk during them as well about what's going on, or about completely different things; I'm sure she will appreciate this time with you.
I've given a lot of examples, but again keep in mind everyone is different, and you may need to think about what will be best for you and your family. It could be some or all of the above. Or, it could be something totally different. Keep in mind it's okay to have rough days where you don't get anything done. It's okay to feel down. If you feel yourself get into a feeling like this, let yourself feel, and then try to use the above or whatever works for you to help get moving again. For me, I have to write myself to-do lists as I struggle with depression and tend to sit around and do nothing when given the opportunity.
Hang in there and stay strong. I wish you and your family well.
I'm very sorry to hear about your mother. I can't even imagine how tough this must be. While I may not be in your shoes, I have dealt with situations that have impacted my mental and physical help. What I've learned from reading countless articles, watching videos, talking to therapists, and finding methods of self-soothing, is everyone is different, and dealing with difficult situations can also be different for everyone. It's also okay to have emotions and feelings about what is happening right now.
What's good to know are the resources available to you. Do you have family members or friends you can talk to so you can let out any emotions this may make you feel(which keep in mind can change and fluctuate from day-to-day and that's okay)? If so, it may be good to open up to them about the situation if you haven't already. If you feel yourself starting to feel down, maybe setting up a time once a week for you to talk or meet can help. I would definitely start talking to them sooner than later. You can even come up with a code word for you to text them when you're feeling down if it's hard for you to reach out to people when that happens. It's important to keep a support system around you during this. It can be very easy to isolate, which can be good to do in moderation, but still is very important to have people to talk to.
If you feel you don't have many people in your friends and family to reach out to for this, I would try setting up an appointment with a school counselor or therapist. They will be able to give you more tools on how to manage your emotions around this. If you're nervous about this, or feel you can't do this, there are online resources, some of them anonymous, that may be better depending on what you need and what you're comfortable with. Be sure to let your support system know if you're feeling very down. If needed, they'll be able to get you more resources to help make sure you stay safe.
Another way to help verbalize or express your emotions could be to start a journal. What's good to keep in mind if you do this is you can take this in whatever direction you want. You can write to yourself, write poems/lyrics, write letters to someone else(that you can send or not send), or turn this into a journal both you and your mom can use. If journaling isn't your thing, that's okay too, there are other ways like music or art that could be a cathartic release. You can even make something for or with your mom. Alternatively, if all of that feels like it will take too much energy or isn't something you'd like to do, try reading or listening to podcasts. In my journey, I became a huge fan of meditative works, self-help, Stoicism, and philosophy, but find what interests you.
I would also recommend finding activities that can help take your mind off of what's going on. If you like running, try to do this often whenever you start to feel down, or find another physical activity to do. Try yoga, meditation, or go on walks. Develop breathing techniques for if you start to feel stressed. Try something new. Join a club or a team you have been interested in but haven't tried yet. Meeting new people can also help your support system grow, and you can continue these activities when times get hard.
I'm sure being there for your mom may be hard to do at times given your own emotions you feel about this. It's still important that you're there for her through this. If able, maybe you can also find an activity like cooking, coloring, puzzles, reading something together, or even just watching shows together. It could be a good release to have these times and to talk during them as well about what's going on, or about completely different things; I'm sure she will appreciate this time with you.
I've given a lot of examples, but again keep in mind everyone is different, and you may need to think about what will be best for you and your family. It could be some or all of the above. Or, it could be something totally different. Keep in mind it's okay to have rough days where you don't get anything done. It's okay to feel down. If you feel yourself get into a feeling like this, let yourself feel, and then try to use the above or whatever works for you to help get moving again. For me, I have to write myself to-do lists as I struggle with depression and tend to sit around and do nothing when given the opportunity.
Hang in there and stay strong. I wish you and your family well.