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Kyra
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How does one be a mom but also a woman with a career ?
Which should I do first or is it possible to do both at the same time?
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Dorina Protea
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Hi!
If you’re trying to balance both motherhood and your career, my biggest advice is to stay organized and give yourself permission to do both. It's not always easy, but it’s possible.
One thing I’ve learned is that there’s no such thing as a “perfect” choice when it comes to being a mom. Every decision is about doing the best you can in the moment. Whenever you start to feel down or doubt yourself, try to remind yourself of that. You’re doing great, even when it doesn’t feel like it.
For instance, if you’re balancing a career and your child is really sick, don’t hesitate to take the time to nurture them. A little extra cuddling and care can go a long way — sometimes, love and attention make all the difference. Usually, a few tough days is all it takes, especially when they have both love and the proper care.
Remember, you’ll find a way to juggle it all. It’s something we’re built to do. Your career will still be there when you’re ready, so don’t be too hard on yourself.
Take it one day at a time — you’ve got this!
If you’re trying to balance both motherhood and your career, my biggest advice is to stay organized and give yourself permission to do both. It's not always easy, but it’s possible.
One thing I’ve learned is that there’s no such thing as a “perfect” choice when it comes to being a mom. Every decision is about doing the best you can in the moment. Whenever you start to feel down or doubt yourself, try to remind yourself of that. You’re doing great, even when it doesn’t feel like it.
For instance, if you’re balancing a career and your child is really sick, don’t hesitate to take the time to nurture them. A little extra cuddling and care can go a long way — sometimes, love and attention make all the difference. Usually, a few tough days is all it takes, especially when they have both love and the proper care.
Remember, you’ll find a way to juggle it all. It’s something we’re built to do. Your career will still be there when you’re ready, so don’t be too hard on yourself.
Take it one day at a time — you’ve got this!
Dr H
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Hey Kyra!
Your question hit home for me! It actually reminded me of when I was in high school, and one day my mom came home with a brand new little alien... my baby sister! It was wild. My mom is a total superhero — she’s a doctor, and now she’s got 7 kids, including a 3-year-old son, and still works as a specialist surgeon. She did have nanies taking care of us when she had go for surgeries or meetings but she handled everything herself most of the time.
But here’s the thing, having a career means you gotta prioritize what’s important to you but then again you can ultimately make one that gives u priority over both. firstly, You can’t be everything to everyone at once, and you’re gonna have to give up some things along the way. It’s totally possible to do both, but you’ll be sacrificing time in one area or another. For example, when I was getting ready for uni, I ended up taking care of my baby sister a lot. I became like her second mom so I could tell it was a lot of work but the connection I made with her is beyond anything I can compare.
Also, I didn’t have the typical high school experience where you hang out with friends all the time, I was either studying or juggling sports. So, I didn’t see my parents much because they have careers, but I did get a lot of life experience. It was tough sometimes, but I learned a lot, do I would say our bond of parent and child was kinda not strong.
So Kyra, when it comes to whether you should start with your career or have the baby first, honestly, it’s up to you. I think you can do both at the same time, but just be prepared for the sacrifices. If you choose to have a baby first, you might miss out on certain career opportunities initially because you’ll be more focused on being a mom. But if you start your career first, you’ll have a bit more time for yourself and your professional growth, but later you’ll have to juggle it all once the baby comes. So, here’s the breakdown:
Option 1: Be a mom first, then start your career.
Pros: You get to enjoy those first precious years with your baby, and you can set things up slowly. You get to bond more deeply with your little one.
Cons: You may feel like you’re putting your career on hold for a bit. You’ll miss out on the early stages of your professional journey, and it could be a bit harder to dive back into work after a break.
Option 2: Start your career first, then have a baby.
Pros: You’ll build some solid career momentum, you’ll get to grow professionally first, and you’ll feel more secure when you decide to become a mom.
Cons: You’ll likely miss some of the early moments with your baby because work will take priority. Plus, there’s the balancing act later when you try to manage both.
Option 3: Be a mom and pursue your career at the same time.
Pros:You get to have it all! You get to experience motherhood and career growth simultaneously, which can give you a unique perspective on both. It’s challenging, but it’s possible.
Cons: It’s going to be hard. You’ll have to sacrifice a lot of personal time, and there will be moments where you feel overwhelmed or like you’re not giving enough to either side. But hey, you’ll also grow stronger from it!
Or you could go option 4, your own idea and way aye!
Ultimately, whatever path you take, you’ve gotta know that it’s gonna come with its challenges. But if you stay true to what you want and keep adjusting when things don’t go as planned, you’ll find your way. No matter what, you’re gonna be amazing at both. Trust me. ❤️ And before I end just let me tell youmy mom missed a lot of career opportunities in different countries, she was invited and she had to stall them for us, but she doesn't regret it at all. Now she is having to make those opportunities again and she is a proud mom and I can say if she managed to make it so can you. To just say bye, I had say making connections with your child can never be undone, but making those career opportunities you can always make it succeed.
So, Good luck, and I would love to see u roar like a rising mom and a proud woman in her career. Wishing you all the best out there Kyra.🙌
Your question hit home for me! It actually reminded me of when I was in high school, and one day my mom came home with a brand new little alien... my baby sister! It was wild. My mom is a total superhero — she’s a doctor, and now she’s got 7 kids, including a 3-year-old son, and still works as a specialist surgeon. She did have nanies taking care of us when she had go for surgeries or meetings but she handled everything herself most of the time.
But here’s the thing, having a career means you gotta prioritize what’s important to you but then again you can ultimately make one that gives u priority over both. firstly, You can’t be everything to everyone at once, and you’re gonna have to give up some things along the way. It’s totally possible to do both, but you’ll be sacrificing time in one area or another. For example, when I was getting ready for uni, I ended up taking care of my baby sister a lot. I became like her second mom so I could tell it was a lot of work but the connection I made with her is beyond anything I can compare.
Also, I didn’t have the typical high school experience where you hang out with friends all the time, I was either studying or juggling sports. So, I didn’t see my parents much because they have careers, but I did get a lot of life experience. It was tough sometimes, but I learned a lot, do I would say our bond of parent and child was kinda not strong.
So Kyra, when it comes to whether you should start with your career or have the baby first, honestly, it’s up to you. I think you can do both at the same time, but just be prepared for the sacrifices. If you choose to have a baby first, you might miss out on certain career opportunities initially because you’ll be more focused on being a mom. But if you start your career first, you’ll have a bit more time for yourself and your professional growth, but later you’ll have to juggle it all once the baby comes. So, here’s the breakdown:
Option 1: Be a mom first, then start your career.
Pros: You get to enjoy those first precious years with your baby, and you can set things up slowly. You get to bond more deeply with your little one.
Cons: You may feel like you’re putting your career on hold for a bit. You’ll miss out on the early stages of your professional journey, and it could be a bit harder to dive back into work after a break.
Option 2: Start your career first, then have a baby.
Pros: You’ll build some solid career momentum, you’ll get to grow professionally first, and you’ll feel more secure when you decide to become a mom.
Cons: You’ll likely miss some of the early moments with your baby because work will take priority. Plus, there’s the balancing act later when you try to manage both.
Option 3: Be a mom and pursue your career at the same time.
Pros:You get to have it all! You get to experience motherhood and career growth simultaneously, which can give you a unique perspective on both. It’s challenging, but it’s possible.
Cons: It’s going to be hard. You’ll have to sacrifice a lot of personal time, and there will be moments where you feel overwhelmed or like you’re not giving enough to either side. But hey, you’ll also grow stronger from it!
Or you could go option 4, your own idea and way aye!
Ultimately, whatever path you take, you’ve gotta know that it’s gonna come with its challenges. But if you stay true to what you want and keep adjusting when things don’t go as planned, you’ll find your way. No matter what, you’re gonna be amazing at both. Trust me. ❤️ And before I end just let me tell youmy mom missed a lot of career opportunities in different countries, she was invited and she had to stall them for us, but she doesn't regret it at all. Now she is having to make those opportunities again and she is a proud mom and I can say if she managed to make it so can you. To just say bye, I had say making connections with your child can never be undone, but making those career opportunities you can always make it succeed.
So, Good luck, and I would love to see u roar like a rising mom and a proud woman in her career. Wishing you all the best out there Kyra.🙌