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When do you do it stop stressing about little things and crying inside ?And how do you stop it? How do you stop or calm down anxiety?LMK

When do you tell yourself it's ok and no one else can you do it??I was like 9 and up and stop caring about myself and my health so When do I tell myself yes what helps you please let me know

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Jerome’s Answer

I have a question I ask myself all of the time “can I change it, can I control it”. If the answer is no to both, I try my best to not hyper focus on it- especially since the energy I will expend won’t have any benefit.

I’ve been homeless for a short time and had a rough childhood growing up in west Oakland (child protective services and other experiences that weren’t great). Know that you are here for a reason, you have something unique to offer the world and you can choose (although harder during certain times) to be positive.

I recommend looking for three good or positive things in your life and writing those down for the next 7 days. Focus on those and what you can control, it helps.
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Ashleigh’s Answer

First just want to say, these are completely normal feelings many of us have and struggle with at different points. This is honestly something that takes practice and while it gets easier with more life experience, you never quite finish mastering it. If you are someone who is very in your head, trying to control your inner narrative is key. And it's not about being lying to yourself about what you're feeling/experiencing, it's more about being aware of the language you use to talk to and about yourself. Sometimes the words in our head can be what limiting us from getting out of a rut. If you're telling yourself things like a feeling will never end, you may end up believing it. When the better approach is to acknowledge and feel your feelings and not give them any more power than they deserve. Oftentimes trying to avoid our feelings can just make things feel worse. If we're lucky enough to live a long life, we end up going through many seasons where some are easier than others. And it's the really tough seasons of life that give us wisdom.

When I am really down and feel like giving up though, I will give myself 24 hours to be in my feelings about it and then I start reminding myself of other people I admire who have overcome far more adversity and trauma than I personally have. Often just a little perspective and getting out of my head is helpful. There's a quote I always come back to when I am feeling this way though: "No about of anxiety will change the future, and no about of guilt can change the past."
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