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How can I stop worrying about my mom.

My mother raised me and my two brothers by herself. One brother has graduated college and moved out of state. My other brother and I will both be leaving for college in August. I'm excited about going and I know my mother is excited for me. But I worry about her being by herself and having to cut the grass and shovel snow and take care of the cats without us. How can I stop worrying?

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Kim’s Answer

Nia,

Relax! If your Mom has made it this far, she will be just fine! It's actually easier being a single person and doing it all yourself, than it is trying to parent two or three kids PLUS run a household! Trust me on this one. Depending on finances, and where you live, you might talk to her and plant the suggestion that she consider hiring a "yard guy" or someone to shovel snow, or even someone to clean the house.


The cats will keep your Mom company, so I'm happy to hear that she has them. While there will be some adjusting, for both you and her, it is something many families experience, and most come out okay! Send her a periodic text and let her know you are thinking of her. It's sweet that you are thinking about how it will affect her, rather than just thinking of yourself - you must be a special daughter!
Thank you comment icon Thank you Ms. Kim. Nia
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Lindsey’s Answer

I bet your mom is SO proud of you Nia!! The best thing you can do is to make the most of your college years. I'm sure going from several kids in the house to none will be a bit of a shock to your mom at first, but that will quickly subside when she hears how well you're all doing at school. Do your best to make her proud! I also agree with Kim, make checking in on her and visiting her often a priority. The more you worry the more she'll worry, so try to put your mind at ease. She'll miss you both A TON but she'll be fine!!

Lindsey recommends the following next steps:

Have a conversation with your mom about how you're feeling about you and your brother leaving for school and her by herself. My guess is you'll feel much better walking away from that discussion:)
Make a note to send your mom something thoughtful periodically while you're away (like a card or book or something of the sort)
Encourage your siblings to check in with her as much as you are!
Recommend she look into services like TaskRabbit.com to help her with the things you guys were used to doing around the house.
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