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What would be the best way(s) find possible roommates?
I'm a 18 year old high school senior preparing for my first year of college! I'm a first-gen college student, so I have been feeling pretty lost with some things. I'm planning on living on-campus with at least 1 roommate (maybe 3). I have gone to my school's open house events, but haven't really connected with anyone yet. What other events or experiences should I be looking out for? Any other first roommate experience tips are welcome.
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Sam’s Answer
Absolutely—picking the right college roommate can make or break your living experience. Here are some smart tips to help you choose a good one:
1. Match Lifestyles, Not Just Personalities
You don’t have to be best friends—you just need to live well together. Consider:
- Sleep schedule: Night owl vs. early riser?
- Cleanliness: Tidy freak or messy genius?
- Study habits: Do they study in the room or prefer the library?
- Noise level: Do they like music, movies, or quiet time?
2. Have the “Dealbreaker” Talk Early
Before committing, talk about:
- Guests/overnight visitors
- Partying or drinking habits
- Sharing food or clothes
- Chores & cleanliness standards
- Pet peeves (seriously—it matters)
3. Communicate Expectations Clearly
- Set ground rules before problems arise.
- Agree on how you’ll handle conflicts if they come up.
- Respect goes both ways—be honest and listen.
4. Don’t Rush the Decision
- Take time to get to know the person (especially if you’re meeting online).
- Message, call, or even FaceTime before committing.
- Trust your instincts—if something feels off, it probably is.
5. Be Honest on Matching Forms
- If you’re using a college roommate match tool, answer truthfully.
- Trying to look “easygoing” can backfire if you end up with someone totally incompatible.
6. Remember It’s OK if You Don’t Become BFFs
- A good roommate is someone you can coexist with peacefully.
- You’ll make other friends elsewhere—don’t force closeness if it’s not there.
1. Match Lifestyles, Not Just Personalities
You don’t have to be best friends—you just need to live well together. Consider:
- Sleep schedule: Night owl vs. early riser?
- Cleanliness: Tidy freak or messy genius?
- Study habits: Do they study in the room or prefer the library?
- Noise level: Do they like music, movies, or quiet time?
2. Have the “Dealbreaker” Talk Early
Before committing, talk about:
- Guests/overnight visitors
- Partying or drinking habits
- Sharing food or clothes
- Chores & cleanliness standards
- Pet peeves (seriously—it matters)
3. Communicate Expectations Clearly
- Set ground rules before problems arise.
- Agree on how you’ll handle conflicts if they come up.
- Respect goes both ways—be honest and listen.
4. Don’t Rush the Decision
- Take time to get to know the person (especially if you’re meeting online).
- Message, call, or even FaceTime before committing.
- Trust your instincts—if something feels off, it probably is.
5. Be Honest on Matching Forms
- If you’re using a college roommate match tool, answer truthfully.
- Trying to look “easygoing” can backfire if you end up with someone totally incompatible.
6. Remember It’s OK if You Don’t Become BFFs
- A good roommate is someone you can coexist with peacefully.
- You’ll make other friends elsewhere—don’t force closeness if it’s not there.
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Tyler’s Answer
First, try reaching out to anyone you know who's going to the same school.
Next, look at online forums to find people who share your interests and vibe.
My college roommates were three random people, and now, ten years later, they're my best friends. It's normal to feel a bit anxious about the unknown. I wish you the best of luck and hope you have an amazing first year in college!
Next, look at online forums to find people who share your interests and vibe.
My college roommates were three random people, and now, ten years later, they're my best friends. It's normal to feel a bit anxious about the unknown. I wish you the best of luck and hope you have an amazing first year in college!
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Kara’s Answer
I went to a college out of state and didn't know anyone before I stepped on campus. I left my freshman roommate selection up to the college, and looking back I'm glad I did. My freshman roommate ended up being someone who I was friendly with, but we were never close friends. The friend group I ended up getting very close with were in a different dorm and having the freedom to go back to my room was a true blessing at times, especially when I needed to get work done, or when there was friction within the friend group.