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Evan
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What creates a man?
In what part does someone's life change where they grow and mature?
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Anthony Hitchcock (US)
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Hi Evan,
Interesting question.
1) What creates a man?
If I understand the question correctly, you're asking about what makes someone manly/masculine. I don't think there is a one-size-fits-all definition, but I'll answer from my own perspective/share what my idea of a man is for myself. I think a man is resilient, strong (mentally and physically), cares about and defends his values, and is loyal to his family and friends (especially during times of need). Someone who is strong enough to be there for others. I think these are the defining qualities of masculinity (and that isn't to say that women can't have these traits). However, I'll also say that being a man isn't about being unfeeling either. Being a man, and a great man, requires all of the above, but also the ability to connect with people, be a gentleman, be able to show love. That is the balance - be able to power through anything on the one hand, but gentle enough to take care of a woman and children on the other hand. I'm a little short on time, but I think that sums up my opinion.
2) In what part does someone's life change where they grow and mature?
I won't go into details, but in my experience, there were a few difficult moments where I had hard resets and really had to think about who I was. You will likely have similar experiences, I'm sure of it - life will 100% throw you a curveball at some point. I believe it is in these difficult moments that you grow, and your growth happens when you respond with resilience and get up after you are knocked down. I think this is because you are fighting even harder just to be back where you were, and once you're back to where you were, your intensity just continues with your momentum - I think that is where key, philosophical and deeply meaningful growth happens. But I'll also say this - other growth also happens every day. Every day you choose to work out, or read a book, or talk to one more person, you are getting better. And this kind of growth is as significant as the growth you experience after difficult moments, it is just not as visible. I'd say the first type of growth (after you get knocked down), at least in my experience, increases maturity and is probably involuntary. The second (everyday growth) can increase maturity as well, but in a different way - maturity in work ethic, discipline, or skill. Both types, however, unequivocally make you into a better, more rounded, more effective person.
Best of luck with your self-improvement journey (given your questions, I am sure you are on one)!
-Anthony
Interesting question.
1) What creates a man?
If I understand the question correctly, you're asking about what makes someone manly/masculine. I don't think there is a one-size-fits-all definition, but I'll answer from my own perspective/share what my idea of a man is for myself. I think a man is resilient, strong (mentally and physically), cares about and defends his values, and is loyal to his family and friends (especially during times of need). Someone who is strong enough to be there for others. I think these are the defining qualities of masculinity (and that isn't to say that women can't have these traits). However, I'll also say that being a man isn't about being unfeeling either. Being a man, and a great man, requires all of the above, but also the ability to connect with people, be a gentleman, be able to show love. That is the balance - be able to power through anything on the one hand, but gentle enough to take care of a woman and children on the other hand. I'm a little short on time, but I think that sums up my opinion.
2) In what part does someone's life change where they grow and mature?
I won't go into details, but in my experience, there were a few difficult moments where I had hard resets and really had to think about who I was. You will likely have similar experiences, I'm sure of it - life will 100% throw you a curveball at some point. I believe it is in these difficult moments that you grow, and your growth happens when you respond with resilience and get up after you are knocked down. I think this is because you are fighting even harder just to be back where you were, and once you're back to where you were, your intensity just continues with your momentum - I think that is where key, philosophical and deeply meaningful growth happens. But I'll also say this - other growth also happens every day. Every day you choose to work out, or read a book, or talk to one more person, you are getting better. And this kind of growth is as significant as the growth you experience after difficult moments, it is just not as visible. I'd say the first type of growth (after you get knocked down), at least in my experience, increases maturity and is probably involuntary. The second (everyday growth) can increase maturity as well, but in a different way - maturity in work ethic, discipline, or skill. Both types, however, unequivocally make you into a better, more rounded, more effective person.
Best of luck with your self-improvement journey (given your questions, I am sure you are on one)!
-Anthony