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How do you deal with comparing yourself with your fellow classmates?

I feel as though I've begun doing this ever since I've started college. I always hear that my fellow classmates are coming to school and working a part time job, and for some, they may even have a family to provide for. It makes me wonder how they manage all of that but then it makes me think, "Why haven't I done that either?" How do you deal with those thoughts in your head where you begin to compare yourself to the people you encounter everyday at school? #college #self-esteem #self-improvement


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Amrinder’s Answer

I think everyone has unique abilities and ideally we should not try to compare our-self with others, however if you take it as a learning as to how they could do so much, you just need to check what are their responsibilities, and burdens, because I feel when you get the responsibility you will be able to manage things by utilizing the time which you spend in activities which are consuming most of your time and are not very satisfactory for your mind.
Now do not wait for someone to give you responsibility, that is not what i mean, You need to take the responsibility of your own actions and the decisions that you make in life. Think wisely and explore your interest and try to make it your profession.


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Ken’s Answer

Hi Amnda!


You asked a very important question. Here are some thoughts on the subject:


https://www.themuse.com/advice/the-3-most-insane-ways-youre-comparing-yourself-to-othersplus-how-to-snap-out-of-it
https://www.themuse.com/advice/6-reasons-you-really-need-to-stop-comparing-your-career-to-everyone-elses
http://www.fastcompany.com/3060994/your-most-productive-self/you-should-probably-compare-yourself-to-others-more-not-less


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Ly’s Answer

Hi Amanda,


I agree with Amrinder. Everybody has their own story and we may never know the full picture and what it really feels like to be in other people's shoes. I went through college feeling the very same thing, and still do sometimes. The truth is, every single one of us has our very own set of unique strengths and weaknesses. Nobody is "perfect". Just because you "haven't done that" does not mean you won't, can't, and CERTAINLY not because you are any less capable. I have learned so much from my classmates and coworkers. They are not your competitors. They are your source of knowledge. Figure out what you want to learn/do, and go for it. Don't let these thoughts stop you from being the best version of you there is.


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Simeon’s Answer

One of the big things to remember is that the metrics for success will change dramatically post-education. Life has a way of constantly changing who's ahead and behind. That being said, you'll have to find a way to be satisfied with your own journey at some point. Have you been reaching your own goals? Don't let yourself slow down from your own journey by spending your time looking at everyone else's journey.

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