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Should I make friends in college?
There are people that say you shouldn't be close to others because one day we would all split up, no matter how close you are. There's others that say that you should make friends so that your college life wouldn't be as lonely and not fun as it should be. What do you think?
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Jerome’s Answer
The simple answer is yes. Do you want to connect with others in your class which will allow you to potentially create study groups. You also never know where life will take you.
I am sure you had friends growing up that you don’t talk to anymore, that doesn’t mean those friends were not valuable at the time. You might very well connect with someone who becomes a lifelong friend.
I am sure you had friends growing up that you don’t talk to anymore, that doesn’t mean those friends were not valuable at the time. You might very well connect with someone who becomes a lifelong friend.
You're right! I do have friends that I don't talk to anymore. I like working in groups so I can try to connect with others! I will try to connect with someone who will become my long life friend just like you said!
Thank you so much for your time and wisdom!
Vanesa
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Steve’s Answer
It's good that your thinking about these types of things and I will give you my opinion as a college graduate, 40 year professional and a father of 3 college graduates.
I will start with all 3 of my children 25 through 31 are still friends with some of their college friends, my youngest: 2 of her best friends to this day were college friends and she is fairly close to a lot of them. My Middle daughter who is more introverted and is the type that only has a few friends but they are very close friends, she has stayed very close to her best friend in college (was just maid of Honor in her wedding) and my oldest son who has travelled around the country decided to settle down where he went to school and one of the major factors was due to friends he made in college. My wife and I met in college and have been married for more than 30 years. All this is to say while some people do not stay close to friends that they make in various stages of their lives do not stay close to them after but many do, friendship can be work and some people are willing to put in the effort and some people do not put as high a value on it so it really depends on how you are and what you want out of the experience.
College while is definitely about learning and knowledge but it is an experience. It is that transition from being a dependent kid to being an independent adult and like any journey (I believe) it is always easier to traverse it with friends that are also going through it.
I am also going to give you a little general advice about friends and getting close to people from my experience, I wish I had understood how important people in school, in organizations, at work were and I had learned to foster those relationships earlier. I look back and I spent a lot of my time in school and my early career trying to prove I was superior, smarter, faster, harder working, etc. Later in my career I realize that the most of my biggest accomplishments and contributions to my organization and definitely my most fulfilling have been those that I did either working with or leading others. Your generation has the advantage that you grew up with social media and have a better understanding of connectedness to others my generation had to learn that because we grew up with more of a self-reliance concept.
I can only speak from my experience other people (good people) make everything better, more fulfilling and richer.
Hope this helps and good luck in your journey.
I will start with all 3 of my children 25 through 31 are still friends with some of their college friends, my youngest: 2 of her best friends to this day were college friends and she is fairly close to a lot of them. My Middle daughter who is more introverted and is the type that only has a few friends but they are very close friends, she has stayed very close to her best friend in college (was just maid of Honor in her wedding) and my oldest son who has travelled around the country decided to settle down where he went to school and one of the major factors was due to friends he made in college. My wife and I met in college and have been married for more than 30 years. All this is to say while some people do not stay close to friends that they make in various stages of their lives do not stay close to them after but many do, friendship can be work and some people are willing to put in the effort and some people do not put as high a value on it so it really depends on how you are and what you want out of the experience.
College while is definitely about learning and knowledge but it is an experience. It is that transition from being a dependent kid to being an independent adult and like any journey (I believe) it is always easier to traverse it with friends that are also going through it.
I am also going to give you a little general advice about friends and getting close to people from my experience, I wish I had understood how important people in school, in organizations, at work were and I had learned to foster those relationships earlier. I look back and I spent a lot of my time in school and my early career trying to prove I was superior, smarter, faster, harder working, etc. Later in my career I realize that the most of my biggest accomplishments and contributions to my organization and definitely my most fulfilling have been those that I did either working with or leading others. Your generation has the advantage that you grew up with social media and have a better understanding of connectedness to others my generation had to learn that because we grew up with more of a self-reliance concept.
I can only speak from my experience other people (good people) make everything better, more fulfilling and richer.
Hope this helps and good luck in your journey.
This question has been unanswered for me for years because of the thought of being in college being either lonely or having others by your side. By your response, It seems like having friends in college is indeed useful and fun! I'm very proud of you and your children! Your response helped me a lot!
Thank you so much for your time and helpfulness!
I really appreciate you!
Vanesa
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Olga’s Answer
Make Friends at College!
Some of my best friends are those I met in college. They have been my emotional support, career guides, and life coaches. We faced many challenges together and grew our values along the way. Good luck, and enjoy your college journey!
Some of my best friends are those I met in college. They have been my emotional support, career guides, and life coaches. We faced many challenges together and grew our values along the way. Good luck, and enjoy your college journey!
I'm so proud of you! Having friends in college doesn't sound too bad. Thank you so much for your time and wisdom!
Vanesa
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Jessica Marie’s Answer
It's really important to make friends in college or wherever you can. Friends play a big role in life, offering chances to learn and have new experiences. Some friends might only be around for a short time, and that's perfectly fine. Those who stay with you through various stages of life will make you value them even more. Best of luck!
Thank you so much! Your feedback really helps me!
I appreciate you giving up your time for my question!
Thank you!
Vanesa