4 answers

How to find a better sense of self?

Asked Pennsylvania, Pennsylvania

I feel like sometimes I don't know myself. How do I find myself? Also how will this elp me find a profession? #counselor #professional

4 answers

Rebecca’s Answer

Updated Portland, Oregon

We spend our whole lives trying to figure this out, kids, adults, all of us! I love the advice the others provided here, and I would also add that there is no need to "know" yourself. You are an ever changing and evolving being and do not need to know everything about yourself. When we spend time putting ourselves in a box and calling it "me," we forget to continue to learn about ourselves. Every day, I can surprise myself with my strength and courage and other days, I'm the most afraid person I've ever seen! But, all of it is "me" and it doesn't mean anything at all.

I think the most honest input I can provide here is to spend time watching yourself, your reactions, the people you tend to gravitate toward, the decisions you make. I found incredible help through some tools I've listed below for you, as well. I find that silence can be an incredible helper in slowing down and seeing yourself more clearly. The best thing I've learned is to be open to myself and patient. I'm never going to know myself 100% and that is part of the journey of life. :) Enjoy it!

www.thework.com by Byron Katie

https://ejlavine.com/ by Elizabeth Lavine

Scott’s Answer

Finding yourself is a continuous process. It takes a commitment to learning new things of all kinds: intellectual, physical and professional pursuits. To start I'd recommend build a better understanding of your inner voice through meditation. Then I'd want to plot a direction for myself and conduct a clear path of self discovery through experiences. This should give you a great start! Good luck!

Scott recommends the following next steps:

  • https://www.gaiam.com/blogs/discover/meditation-101-techniques-benefits-and-a-beginner-s-how-to
  • https://experiencemattersaz.org/explore-your-future-blog-series/

Raymond’s Answer

Updated Springfield, Virginia

I struggled a great deal with this when I was in my late teens, and through my 20's


Figuring out who you are is something that is difficult for many people.


It's important to give yourself an honest evaluation about where you are in life and where you want to be.


I found for me, it helped to think about what I am passionate about. What are my views on various issues? What experiences shaped those views? Are they rational or emotional responses to what occurred? Am I moving in a direction I want to go? Or am I going in a direction In feel obligated to go in?


As you question yourself make sure to answer how you are, not how you wish you were. You may be surprised at how you answer some of those questions. But the more you question yourself the more you get to know yourself.


This worked for me and I hope it helps you out a bit as well


Juan David’s Answer

Updated Maracaibo, Zulia, Venezuela

I encourage you to read about Ayn Rand, The Virtue of Selfishness. By reading you can constrast yourself in other ways of thinking so you can improve to be capable of give yourself an answer.