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How do you develop a goal for yourself, and then push that goal to your main priority?

I describe my self as loving but hate to not get the same back. All in my 17 years of living it's still hard for me to believe if I work hard enough I can be something great in life. I got in my depression state and develop how I view things. I don't like it but it shows me who's actually here for me or not. This day that I'm typing this is I really just been by myself in this game called life. I hope I get through it and know how to deal with it and become the hard worker I always knew I could be. #child-development

Hi Akarrus. Thanks again for your question on CareerVillage. I hope you will continue asking questions in 2021 and seeking advice from others who want to help you succeed. I like Theresa’s answer shared, especially about setting small goals you can achieve and then working on bigger goals. Stay safe and well and best wishes to you as you begin another year. Stay encouraged. You are not alone. Melisa Cameron

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Theresa’s Answer

Melisa's answer was very helpful and insightful with really good practical tips.
I would like to add to her answer:
First off you need to acknowledge that you are constantly trying and working towards your goals, which is really difficult if you are struggling with depression. Give yourself the credit for being willing to get up every day and and working at your goals.

Secondly, be careful of comparing yourself to anyone else with regards to goals achievement or accomplishment. Also be mindful that many people only achieve their big dreams and goals later on in life. I definitely did not do anything awesome or amazing when I was a teenager, and only really started realising my dreams when I was in my early 30's, so don't be too harsh on yourself or critical.

Thirdly, set small goals that you can achieve and build up to bigger and bigger goals. We often set really big goals, which is difficult when you are depressed.

Also for very practical advice watch: https://melrobbins.com/

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Melisa’s Answer

Hi Akkarus,

Hello and thank you for your question. I’m sure you are not alone in asking for help in developing goals you can attain and learning good habits or traits for sticking to your goals.

I wanted to share just a few things I find helpful in setting and accomplishing my goals.

I find it helpful to prioritize things, in order of what is important to you most and what you need to get done first. For me, faith and family come first. And for career goals, I feel that a great work ethic, showing up on time, doing your job well and collaborating with others can be helpful traits to have in any situation.

Caring for yourself is vital so you can in turn help others, set realistic priorities and more. I also use checklists or my phone to schedule reminders and block times on my calendar for reading, studying, eating lunch, taking walks, etc. These reminders help me stay on track and remember what I want to accomplish in a day, week or month.

On days where it can seem overwhelming, especially with everything going on this year, I try to take mini-breaks and just step away for a few minutes and walk our dogs, or sit in a quiet room and just breathe or meditate, sit or walk outside if it’s nice, etc.

I keep a “Gratitude Journal” so I can reflect on my day or week and the things I am thankful for in my life. No matter what happens in life, I always find something to be thankful for.

I've also included a couple of links below, in case you want to check them out.

Thanks for your question and best wishes for success in your future goals.


Melisa recommends the following next steps:

Check out this helpful video and article on essential tips for achieving your goals. https://nefeoguntoye.com/2020/11/11/essential-tips-to-achieving-your-goals/
Here are some helpful TED Talks on managing stress https://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=managing+stress+TED+Talks&qpvt=managing+stress+TED+Talks&FORM=VDRE
Do you have a mentor? Find a mentor or supporter who can help you achiever your goals and talk with you about your career interests.
Take time to volunteer. Volunteering to help others can often be a fun way to relieve stress, take a break from work or schoolwork and make an impact in your community at the same time.