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What if my roommate and I don't get along?

I'm struggling to find a roommate who has similar interests. I'm all for meeting someone new, but I don't want someone who has a personalty contradictory to my own. I want to be open and social but I'm scared I won't be like the other students. #college #roommate

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Thank you comment icon It is good to establish initial boundaries such as room tidiness, asking before inviting friends over, or what kind of activities you're into during your free time. All colleges come with all kinds of personalities so you will definitely meet many people who are similar to you and have many of the same interests. You may even become friends with people you thought you wouldn't normally be friends with. As long as you are putting yourself out there then you will meet some really awesome people. You can't expect to have the perfect match roommate but you may be surprised that your roommate introduces you to something new that you enjoy! Hope that helps :) Anntaylor
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Sheila’s Answer

Hi Amanda:

Your freshman year can be scary to live with a person you've never met before. As others have already shared great comments try to see if you could get to know your roommate in advance. I have several nieces that are attending college for the first time and they've already made contact with their roommates by talking on the phone, Facebook, etc. I hope this was helpful. Best of luck to you!

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Michael’s Answer

Life's too short to hold a grudge or not get to know others....get a beer, understand each other and live happily ever after!!

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Emily’s Answer

Living with a new person you don't know your freshman year can certainly be scary! But remember that they are in the same position as you! While they may not be your best friend (and believe me that's not uncommon), there are certain things you can do to ensure you're civil with each other and enjoy your time at college. Be respectful of their belongings and their space. If you'd rather not spend time in the room while they are also in the room, take your studies to a common room or hit the on campus gym or join some extracurriculars! Joining extra activities will not only get you out of your dorm room but will allow you to make very good friends who could be candidates for future roommates!
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Karen’s Answer

While a roommate with similar interests might be the easiest way to adapt, you may find that you will learn more life lessons with someone who has different ideas than you because when you are out in the work world you will find others who are not like you in values or how they respond to situations. Over all try to stay open minded even when you don't agree with them and your roommate doesn't need to be your best friend. You have the option to choose the friends you wish to spend most of your time with and activities where you will be surrounded with those who you relate to the best.


If you're currently in a situation where you don't get along with your roommate, you can first try talking to them to agree on plans that might work for both of you such having certain times of day when you each have private time in your room or how you handle taking care of room chores. You can also talk to a college counselor for their advice.


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