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Bianca
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How does one attain a healthy work/school/relationship balance?
As a returning college student I find in extremely difficult to maintain relationships with friends and family while going to college and working full time. I feel like I have to make sacrifices. For example, I have to constantly deny family time due to work or school. My family tells me that they understand but I still feel a sense of guilt.
Missing work isn't an option because I have to support myself and pay for school. I'm starting to feel burnt out and I'm starting to believe that there is no balance.
I would be grateful for any advise or tips!
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Laura P
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Laura’s Answer
I love that you're asking this question. Simply being aware that a balance is the goal will help you prioritize what feels right to you. I didn't have a concept of balance when I was in college twenty years ago. I was burning the candle at both ends. When it comes to family, give yourself permission to allow them to take a back seat to your studies, just for now. Your priority is your academic career. When they say they understand, believe them! And even if they don't understand, have the courage to put yourself first. After all, your family will not always be there to support you, whereas your degree will never expire.
Ce Ji
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First off, I want to say: you're doing amazing! Balancing school, work, and life takes a lot of courage and strength. You're setting the stage for your future, and every step you take is something to be proud of. It's normal to feel tired and tangled up in it all.
When it comes to balance, try focusing on "small gestures" instead of "perfect togetherness." Spend a few minutes each day sending a voice message to your family or making a quick call to a friend while commuting. Letting your loved ones know you're thinking of them, even when busy, can ease feelings of guilt more than trying to make up for lost time later. Also, talk openly with your family about your schedule and plan special moments together, like a monthly family breakfast, so you both have something to look forward to.
Think of your energy and time as "limited resources" and focus them on what's most important right now. Cut down on unnecessary social activities for a while. True friends will understand if you're not around as much, and taking care of your health is key to keeping long-term relationships strong. If you're feeling overwhelmed, try the "10-minute rule" to take a break—close your eyes, take a deep breath, or listen to a song to give yourself a moment to recharge.
You're not alone: many students returning to school face similar challenges. Consider joining a campus support group or using your school's counseling services. Lastly, be kind to yourself—this tough time won't last forever, and you're building a bright future as you go.
When it comes to balance, try focusing on "small gestures" instead of "perfect togetherness." Spend a few minutes each day sending a voice message to your family or making a quick call to a friend while commuting. Letting your loved ones know you're thinking of them, even when busy, can ease feelings of guilt more than trying to make up for lost time later. Also, talk openly with your family about your schedule and plan special moments together, like a monthly family breakfast, so you both have something to look forward to.
Think of your energy and time as "limited resources" and focus them on what's most important right now. Cut down on unnecessary social activities for a while. True friends will understand if you're not around as much, and taking care of your health is key to keeping long-term relationships strong. If you're feeling overwhelmed, try the "10-minute rule" to take a break—close your eyes, take a deep breath, or listen to a song to give yourself a moment to recharge.
You're not alone: many students returning to school face similar challenges. Consider joining a campus support group or using your school's counseling services. Lastly, be kind to yourself—this tough time won't last forever, and you're building a bright future as you go.