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Brandy
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Is it possible to go from a failing, disappointing seventh-grader to a smart, happy-go-lucky eighth grader who passed all of her classes?
I've had a really tough school year. I've gone from having all A's to failing ELA, and I'd be lying if I told you it hasn't been taking a big toll on my mental health... because what can I say? My parents are disappointed in me, and I was basically their only hope for having a successful kid... any tips on having good grades next year? Or just being a better student? I think it would improve my quality of life drastically.
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Roujean Sabouri
Director of Sales Enablement
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Los Angeles, California
Updated
Roujean’s Answer
First, I just want to say: I’m really sorry it feels like your parents aren’t supporting you right now. That’s a hard weight to carry, especially when you’re already being hard on yourself.
There’s a motto I use when I’m going through tough stuff, especially when other people’s reactions feel heavy:
“You can’t control their reaction. You can only control yours.”
You can decide how you treat yourself right now — and I hope you choose to give yourself some kindness and grace. You’re not broken. You’re not a failure. You’re just going through something hard, and that doesn’t define who you are or who you’re becoming.
Now, let’s talk about how to turn things around — because YES, it’s absolutely possible to bounce back in eighth grade.
Here’s something you can try:
1. Look back at the year when things went well — when you got good grades. What helped? Did you have more time to study? Did you like the subject more? Did you ask questions when you needed help? Write that down.
2. Now look at this past year. What made it harder? Was it tougher topics? Less support? Not enough sleep? Too much pressure?
3. Compare the two lists. What worked before that you can bring back? You don’t need to fix everything. Just focus on doing a few of those helpful things again.
This isn’t just about school — this is about building a muscle that will help you your whole life. In middle school, high school, jobs, friendships… we all have up years and down years. Learning how to come back from a tough time is one of the strongest things you can do. And you’re already on your way, just by asking this question.
You’re not behind. You’re not too late. And you’re absolutely not alone.
Rooting for you so hard 💛
(And feel free to message me on LinkedIn if you ever need encouragement or support.)
There’s a motto I use when I’m going through tough stuff, especially when other people’s reactions feel heavy:
“You can’t control their reaction. You can only control yours.”
You can decide how you treat yourself right now — and I hope you choose to give yourself some kindness and grace. You’re not broken. You’re not a failure. You’re just going through something hard, and that doesn’t define who you are or who you’re becoming.
Now, let’s talk about how to turn things around — because YES, it’s absolutely possible to bounce back in eighth grade.
Here’s something you can try:
1. Look back at the year when things went well — when you got good grades. What helped? Did you have more time to study? Did you like the subject more? Did you ask questions when you needed help? Write that down.
2. Now look at this past year. What made it harder? Was it tougher topics? Less support? Not enough sleep? Too much pressure?
3. Compare the two lists. What worked before that you can bring back? You don’t need to fix everything. Just focus on doing a few of those helpful things again.
This isn’t just about school — this is about building a muscle that will help you your whole life. In middle school, high school, jobs, friendships… we all have up years and down years. Learning how to come back from a tough time is one of the strongest things you can do. And you’re already on your way, just by asking this question.
You’re not behind. You’re not too late. And you’re absolutely not alone.
Rooting for you so hard 💛
(And feel free to message me on LinkedIn if you ever need encouragement or support.)
Dear Roujean Sabouri,
Thank you, thank you, THANK you for your response. All of these responses made me feel so supported and inspired! I feel like I can do anything! The second I read your response I got down a pen and paper and compared sixth grade to this year (it also gave me an excuse to write in my new journal, so thank you for that). I figured out what worked for me, and what I could've done to have avoided having bad grades in the first place. I added a list of what I need to work on in order to accomplish my goals. I also reminded myself that these tough times are temporary and will pass eventually.
Thank you again for your response and know that I truly, truly appreciated it. I'm totally ready to get all A's next year, AND be my best self!
Brandy
Jocelyne Greco, MHRM
Human Resources
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Katy, Texas
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Jocelyne’s Answer
Hello Brandy,
I'm so sorry that you are experiencing this. It is absolutely possible to turn things around, and I believe in you! Tough years happen, but they don’t define you. It's my hope that this guidance will help you feel stronger and more confident next year:
1. Start Fresh: Eighth grade is a new beginning. Make small goals—like organizing your schoolwork or asking for help when you need it. Every little win counts.
2. Build a Support Team: Talk to a trusted teacher, counselor, or adult about how you’re feeling. You don’t have to carry it all alone.
3. Find What Works for You: Everyone learns differently. Try new study habits—like using flashcards, setting timers, or studying with a friend.
Brandy, your worth isn’t measured by grades. You’re already showing strength by asking for help. You can grow, heal, and thrive—one step at a time. You’ve got this, and brighter days are coming!
I'm so sorry that you are experiencing this. It is absolutely possible to turn things around, and I believe in you! Tough years happen, but they don’t define you. It's my hope that this guidance will help you feel stronger and more confident next year:
1. Start Fresh: Eighth grade is a new beginning. Make small goals—like organizing your schoolwork or asking for help when you need it. Every little win counts.
2. Build a Support Team: Talk to a trusted teacher, counselor, or adult about how you’re feeling. You don’t have to carry it all alone.
3. Find What Works for You: Everyone learns differently. Try new study habits—like using flashcards, setting timers, or studying with a friend.
Brandy, your worth isn’t measured by grades. You’re already showing strength by asking for help. You can grow, heal, and thrive—one step at a time. You’ve got this, and brighter days are coming!
Dear Jocelyn,
Thank you sooooo much for taking the time to write this response. It really means a lot. And you're totally right. I was so set on just trying to get my grades up that I didn't really have a specific goal to work towards other than that. I also simply didn't feel very motivated to get my grades up in the first place. Next year, every 100% on a test, every worksheet turned in on time, every assignment I get an "A" on- it's a mini celebration. Even something as simple as getting my HOMEWORK done- mini celebration. A little something to work towards every day. A little something that can have a BIG impact on not only my grades... but my well-being. Again, thank you so, so much for writing this response. I'm going to have the best year ever next year!
Brandy
You are most welcome!
Jocelyne Greco, MHRM
Karen Kitchel
Community Volunteer
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Saint Paul, Minnesota
Updated
Karen’s Answer
Great you are thinking about improving your life. While grades are important, they won't necessarily determine your future success. Try making a list of things that are important to you like faith, family, friends, hobbies, sports, helping others, flowers, birds, etc. Then rank them according to importance to you. After that look for more things that align with your priorities. For example, if faith is number one, try joining a church group or prayer team. If helping others is important, look for volunteer opportunities such as serving meals to the homeless or randomly do something for a neighbor. Even spending time watching birds can increase your happiness.
Would be good if you could have a real heart-to-heart talk with your parents about how much you want to do well and ask for their help. If your school offers tutors or mentors, you might find someone who can guide you during the summer to be ready for next school year.
Each night try to think back about one thing you did that made you feel good.
With every good wish and many blessings,
Karen
Would be good if you could have a real heart-to-heart talk with your parents about how much you want to do well and ask for their help. If your school offers tutors or mentors, you might find someone who can guide you during the summer to be ready for next school year.
Each night try to think back about one thing you did that made you feel good.
With every good wish and many blessings,
Karen
Dear Karen, thank you so much for taking the time to write this response! I REALLY appreciate it. I filled up another page in my notebook with things that are important to me: My friends, my pets, my family, etc. I could certainly work on connecting with them a bit more. And also, the second I can- I'll ask my parents if they can help me achieve my goals and help provide me the tools I need to get there (like a quiet study space, summer school, etc.) Anyways, thank you again. I really like your advice and I'm totally applying to real-life, especially the "Each night try to think back about one thing you did that made you feel good" stuff. That's a new step in my nighttime routine, now. Thank you, thank you!
Brandy
Brandy, thank You for taking the time to acknowledge my comments and those of others. While everyone enjoys trying to help those who ask, it really makes us feel special to know that the advice we are offering is being considered and used.
You made my day today, and tonight I'll be thinking back about your comments and asking for blessings upon you.
Karen
Karen Kitchel
Josephine Birdsall
Nanny
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Sacramento, California
Updated
Josephine’s Answer
Hi Brandy! That's a great question, and I hope I can help.
The first thing I would say (and this might make some people a little angry at me but I'm gonna say it anyway) is that grades aren't everything. Now, I'm not saying that to tell you to stop trying or stop caring. I'm saying it to highlight that there are a lot of different aspects of your life that are also important, and giving them attention can help you improve in many different areas, including school. Maybe grades aren't the problem. I've learned that a person needs balance in their life, specifically in the following four categories: Physical, Social, Intellectual, and Spiritual. (I'm a person of faith, but if you're not you can see the last category as just connecting with your inner self.)
School would be mostly intellectual in nature, and if that's all you're focusing on it can overload your brain. Think about your life, and how you're doing in the other categories. Make some goals to help with the categories you're lacking in. Maybe you need to take a minute every day to text a friend, or take a walk, or journal. They don't have to be big things. Most of all, though, do what brings you joy.
I grew up homeschooled, with terrible grades in math and skyrocketing grades in literature arts. I decided to stick with what I love, and now I'm in college and I recently published my first fiction novel. To me, grades aren't about making other people proud. The grades I got (and am still getting) were the grades that made me happy, and the grades that would propel me towards the path in life that I wanted.
Make sure you're taking care of yourself. Do what makes you tick. Don't be too hard on yourself, because you deserve to be happy.
The first thing I would say (and this might make some people a little angry at me but I'm gonna say it anyway) is that grades aren't everything. Now, I'm not saying that to tell you to stop trying or stop caring. I'm saying it to highlight that there are a lot of different aspects of your life that are also important, and giving them attention can help you improve in many different areas, including school. Maybe grades aren't the problem. I've learned that a person needs balance in their life, specifically in the following four categories: Physical, Social, Intellectual, and Spiritual. (I'm a person of faith, but if you're not you can see the last category as just connecting with your inner self.)
School would be mostly intellectual in nature, and if that's all you're focusing on it can overload your brain. Think about your life, and how you're doing in the other categories. Make some goals to help with the categories you're lacking in. Maybe you need to take a minute every day to text a friend, or take a walk, or journal. They don't have to be big things. Most of all, though, do what brings you joy.
I grew up homeschooled, with terrible grades in math and skyrocketing grades in literature arts. I decided to stick with what I love, and now I'm in college and I recently published my first fiction novel. To me, grades aren't about making other people proud. The grades I got (and am still getting) were the grades that made me happy, and the grades that would propel me towards the path in life that I wanted.
Make sure you're taking care of yourself. Do what makes you tick. Don't be too hard on yourself, because you deserve to be happy.
Thank you so much for taking time to write this response! And you're totally right, grades aren't the end-all-be-all and they are NOT definitive of future success (but by all means, they do matter). Like you, I love writing. The book I'm working on is science fiction (I'm on page 125, and it's going so wonderfully)! I think I should dedicate a little bit of time each day to work on it, to avoid stressing myself out with too much schoolwork- but also carving out so me-time and incentivising myself to get my homework done so I can work on it. Congrats on publishing your novel! That's like, my dream! And I can see you're not just good at writing fiction, but really good at writing responses/advice, too! Thank you, thank you, thank you so, so much!
Brandy
J C.
7
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Wood Village, OR
Updated
J’s Answer
Hey Brandy ,
Yeah, it’s totally possible to turn things around! You went from getting A’s to struggling, and now you’re looking to bounce back. That’s awesome! Here’s the thing: grades don’t define you, and one tough year doesn’t dictate your future. You can definitely improve your grades and become a better student with some strategies and mindset shifts.
Here’s How You Can Start:
1. *Identify What Went Wrong:* Think about what caused your grades to slip. Was it the workload, distractions, or maybe not understanding the material? Knowing the root cause will help you tackle it.
2. *Create a Plan:* Set specific, achievable goals for each subject. Break down your study sessions into smaller chunks, and make a schedule that works for you. Consistency is key!
3. *Find Your Study Style:* Experiment with different study methods—flashcards, summarizing notes, teaching someone else what you’ve learned, or even drawing diagrams. Find what clicks for you!
4. *Ask for Help:* Don’t hesitate to reach out to teachers, classmates, or tutors if you’re struggling with a subject. They can provide extra support and clarify things for you.
5. *Take Care of Yourself:* Make sure you’re getting enough sleep, eating well, and taking breaks. A healthy body and mind can make a huge difference in your focus and productivity.
6. *Celebrate Small Wins:* Don’t just focus on the end goal. Celebrate when you understand a tough concept or get a good grade on a test. These small victories add up!
7. *Talk to Your Parents:* Have an open conversation with them about how you’re feeling. They might be more understanding than you think, and they can offer support or resources to help you improve.
8. *Be Kind to Yourself:* Remember that everyone has ups and downs. You’re not defined by one bad year. You’re capable of growth and change, and that’s something to be proud of!
You Got This! :)
Yeah, it’s totally possible to turn things around! You went from getting A’s to struggling, and now you’re looking to bounce back. That’s awesome! Here’s the thing: grades don’t define you, and one tough year doesn’t dictate your future. You can definitely improve your grades and become a better student with some strategies and mindset shifts.
Here’s How You Can Start:
1. *Identify What Went Wrong:* Think about what caused your grades to slip. Was it the workload, distractions, or maybe not understanding the material? Knowing the root cause will help you tackle it.
2. *Create a Plan:* Set specific, achievable goals for each subject. Break down your study sessions into smaller chunks, and make a schedule that works for you. Consistency is key!
3. *Find Your Study Style:* Experiment with different study methods—flashcards, summarizing notes, teaching someone else what you’ve learned, or even drawing diagrams. Find what clicks for you!
4. *Ask for Help:* Don’t hesitate to reach out to teachers, classmates, or tutors if you’re struggling with a subject. They can provide extra support and clarify things for you.
5. *Take Care of Yourself:* Make sure you’re getting enough sleep, eating well, and taking breaks. A healthy body and mind can make a huge difference in your focus and productivity.
6. *Celebrate Small Wins:* Don’t just focus on the end goal. Celebrate when you understand a tough concept or get a good grade on a test. These small victories add up!
7. *Talk to Your Parents:* Have an open conversation with them about how you’re feeling. They might be more understanding than you think, and they can offer support or resources to help you improve.
8. *Be Kind to Yourself:* Remember that everyone has ups and downs. You’re not defined by one bad year. You’re capable of growth and change, and that’s something to be proud of!
You Got This! :)
Dear J.C,
Thank you so much for taking the time to write this response! I truly appreciate every reply. I’ve figured out how to maximize my study time, avoid getting distracted, and get my work done efficiently while also being a happier person—skills I’ll need not just for good grades but until the day I die. Being smart isn’t enough without good work ethic and time management. Looking back, I see things I could’ve done differently to avoid poor performance, and I probably wouldn’t have realized that without everyone's advice. So again, thank you and thanks to everyone who responded.
Best regards,
Brandy
Brandy