Hi Starlen. I love that both Laura and Jason also mentioned "purpose" in their answer and I totally agree. I have a plaque on my desk that reads, "The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life I to give it away." - Pablo Picasso
I also feel we are here for a purpose. Everything happens to us for a reason and sometimes it can take a while to feel confident and find what you truly want to do, are good at doing and can be paid to do, And in time, confidence can grow. But with any change, like taking on a new job, moving someplace new, etc., there's going to be an adjustment period until you find confidence again.
When it comes to confidence, no matter what your goal is, practice, practice, practice! This is something I continue to find very helpful. Whether it's speaking in front of groups of all sizes, from small meetings to large presentations. Start with small settings and build your way to larger groups. When I first went to college I majored in music and I play piano. It took me a while to feel comfortable performing solo pieces of classical music, from memory, in front of others for recitals, but I slowly built my confidence by performing for family and small groups first.
And, as Jason also mentioned, if and when you make mistakes, the important thing is to learn from them and move on - keep trying. Learning from our failures and not dwelling on them helps us grow.
There's also a lot of free resources online you can checkout for insight and ideas from others, on how to build confidence. Best wishes to you in your future goals.
Melisa recommends the following next steps:
- Check out these videos on gaining confidence https://blog.hubspot.com/marketing/ted-talks-confidence-boost
- Whatever your goal for gaining confidence, practice, practice, practice!
- Pass it on. When you find something that works for you, pass it along to someone else.