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How can I make the best out of networking with people. I'm not a shy person.

I'm a recent graduate whose life goal is to experience people around the world through event proxy brand.
I recently got on a call with a big professional and I want to be able to make something out of it do the connection doesn't just pass.

#edit: without crossing the line of professionalism

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Johnson’s Answer

Hi Layo,

Many people see networking as a single chat, but it's really the start of a relationship. Since you've already spoken to someone you admire, send a quick follow-up. Thank them for their time and mention something they said that stood out to you.

Keep in touch occasionally. You don't need to ask for favors every time. Share updates, ask a smart question, or let them know how you used their advice. People are more likely to help when they see you're working hard and growing.

To connect globally, keep your network diverse. Talk to event planners, marketers, founders, and creatives. You never know where a conversation might lead.

Shift your mindset from "What can I get?" to "How can I help?" Share interesting articles, introduce them to useful contacts, or support their work.

Be patient. Building strong professional relationships takes time. You're already ahead by being outgoing and proactive. Stay curious and genuine, and everything will fall into place.
Thank you comment icon Thank you very much. I appreciate this and I'd like to add more context in case you could advise me on that. I connected with someone big and the conversation is no longer professional from our last call and now I know I have to cut them off to keep my self respect but I'm worried it'll make me appear weak. Layo
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Johnson’s Answer

Hi Layo,

Trust your gut on this. Networking is supposed to help you get ahead, not make you feel weird. If someone’s crossing a line, it’s totally fine to back off—even if they've been helpful or offered you something.

You can be polite without being a pushover. You could just say something like:

"Thank you for your guidance and support. I've decided to focus on other opportunities at this time, but I appreciate the advice you've shared and wish you all the best."

You don't need to give them a whole autobiography or a detailed explanation of why you're stepping back. Real professional respect is a two-way street, and setting a boundary doesn't make you unprofessional—it actually does the opposite.

Good luck!
Thank you comment icon Aw, thank you so much Johnson. I have taken that step back and will respect the line I've drawn as well.. It's difficult cause I kept thinking "what if I don't find another connection like them?" But now I feel grounded like I've made the right choice.. Thank you once again Layo
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Toby’s Answer

Hi Layo,

I agree with what others have said and want to add a few thoughts.

In the working world, having a strong LinkedIn profile helps you stay connected with people you've met. It's a good way to keep in touch. To make your connections even more memorable, send them a handwritten note. It's rare these days, so it will make you stand out!

It's important to keep in touch so they know what you're doing in your career. Many professionals like helping newcomers, so don't hesitate to ask questions. As you advance, remember to help those who are starting out too.

Good luck!
Toby
Thank you comment icon By keeping in touch, do you mean I can ask for other things like an upgrade on their blog? Layo
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A drive to learn, adapt and grow. Many job-specific skills can be taught during onboarding and training, but the soft skills you posess are what set you apart from other candidates. Anyone can learn the lingo of a job description. Strong candidates know how to communicate, problem solve and know when to ask questions to learn more.

Be knowledgeable, confident. Being a good listener with respectful attitude and high emotional intelligence goes long way. One of the biggest mistakes is approaching an event with the mindset: “I need to convince someone to hire me.” A better mindset would be: “I want this person to remember what I’m good at, what motivates me, and why it was worthwhile talking to me.” Introducing yourself clearly, highlighting your strengths and qualities, and taking the time to learn about the company you are interested in working for are some of the basic but essential first steps to making a strong impression. These elements can help you build a confident and authentic initial pitch, demonstrate genuine interest in the company, and create a meaningful connection with recruiters and potential employers.
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Douglas’s Answer

Layo,

honestly the biggest thing with networking is following up and giving the person a reason to remember you. A good conversation is great but if you never talk again then most of the time the connection is gonna die out.

After a call I would send them a short message thanking them and mention one specific thing you talked about. Then maybe a couple weeks later reach out again if you have a reason to. Could be asking a quick question, updating them on something you did because of their advice, or sending them something related to what you talked about.

I also wouldn't overdo it. You don't need to message them every week. I think a lot of people mess up networking by trying too hard and making it feel forced. Just stay in touch every once in awhile and make the conversations actually have a reason.

Another thing that has helped me is asking people who else they think I should talk to. If the call went well you can say something like "is there anyone else you think I should connect with who works in this area?" One good connection can turn into like 3 or 4 more pretty fast.

Since you're already not shy, thats honestly a huge advantage. Just focus on being normal, asking good questions and staying in touch. Networking is really just getting people to know you over time, not trying to get something out of every single conversation right away.
Thank you comment icon Now this is one way I haven't thought about it. Thanks for your insight. Usually it goes well and when it starts to fizzle out I only remembered them in my mind and don't do follow ups. I'll remember to stay in touch henceforth and with other past connections Layo
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Brandy’s Answer

Layo.... First, congratulations on taking the initiative to connect with someone established in your field. Many opportunities start with a single conversation, but what turns that conversation into a lasting connection is what happens afterward.

My advice is to follow up with a thoughtful message thanking them for their time and sharing one or two specific things you learned from the conversation. This shows that you were engaged and genuinely valued their insights. If there was something discussed that you can act on, let them know what step you're taking.

Remember that networking is not about getting something immediately from every interaction. The strongest professional relationships are built over time. Stay in touch occasionally by sharing updates on your progress, asking thoughtful questions, or letting them know when you achieve a milestone they helped inspire.

Since your goal is to connect with people around the world through your event proxy brand, think about how this profession might fit into that journey. Is there a way to collaborate, seek advice on a specific challenge, or learn from their experience? Focus on building a relationship rather than trying to secure an immediate opportunity.

Most importantly, don't underestimate yourself as a recent graduate. You don't need to have everything figured out to provide value in a professional relationship. Curiosity, follow-through, and genuine interest in others can open many doors.

Keep the momentum going. One meaningful follow-up can turn a brief call into a long-term mentorship, partnership, or opportunity. You've already taken the hardest step by making the connection. Now nurture it. You got this!
Thank you comment icon Thank you so much for your advice and encouragement. Now should I still try to keep in touch if lines get crossed? I'd appreciate your insightful feedback. Thanks once again. Layo
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Kelly’s Answer

To build a strong connection with this professional without overstepping, try turning your initial chat into an easy-going mentorship. Since you're naturally outgoing, your main task is to keep the right pace so you stay memorable without being too much. Here’s how you can grow this connection to boost your event proxy brand.

1. Send a Follow-Up Message Quickly Don't wait for them to reach out. Within 24 hours, send a short email or LinkedIn message. Say thanks, mention something specific you learned from the chat, and share how you're using their advice. This shows you listened and value their time.

2. Use the "Action-and-Update" Approach Instead of just asking if you can keep in touch, give them a reason. Choose a piece of advice they gave, work on it for 2 to 3 weeks, and then send them a quick update. For example, say, "Hi [Name], thanks for suggesting I look into [X]. I've spent the last few weeks on it and achieved [a small result]. Your advice changed my approach!"

3. Share Useful Information Since professionalism is a two-way street, share insights that might interest them. If you find an article or report about international events or global trends that relates to their work, send it over. Say something like, "I found this article about [Event X] and thought of our chat. No need to reply, just thought you might find it interesting!"

4. Respect Their Time Be mindful of their response times. If they don't reply, don't send another message right away. Busy professionals see your updates even if they can't respond immediately. Stick to text first, and don't ask for another call too soon. Show your growth over the next few months to earn the next call.
Thank you comment icon This way I can always keep a relationship and rely on them without being a burden. Thank you. Layo
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Jean Noel’s Answer

Hi - Since you’re not shy, your main challenge isn’t breaking the ice—it’s creating high-value continuity. Big professionals talk to dozens of ambitious graduates, so moving from "a nice 20-minute chat" to an active relationship requires structure, follow-through, and giving them an easy way to help you.


1. Capitalize on the Recent Call (Next 24–48 Hours)
Don't let the momentum cold-start. Send a targeted follow-up email or LinkedIn message using the Value & Loop framework:


• Reference a specific takeaway: Mention a distinct piece of advice they gave or a story they shared during the call. This proves you were actively listening.

• Show immediate action: "I already looked into [Book / Company / Event / Strategy] you mentioned..."

• Close with a low-friction loop: Don't ask for another call right away. Give them a quick update anchor instead.

Follow-Up Template:

"Hi [Name], thank you again for taking the time to speak with me on [Day]. Your insight on [specific topic discussed] really stuck with me. I’m already applying it by [action you took]. I’ll keep you posted on how [project/effort] progresses over the next few months—no need to reply, just wanted to express my gratitude!"

2. The "30-60-90 Day" Update Strategy
Most networking drops off because people only reach out when they need a favor. Keep yourself top-of-mind by sending micro-updates:


• Every 1–2 months, send a 2–3 sentence update on your progress.

• Mention how their past advice contributed to your progress (e.g., "I used your advice on pitching event proxy brand concepts to local organizers, and it landed us our first partnership.").

• People love feeling invested in someone else's trajectory—it gives them a sense of mentorship and ownership in your success.

3. Leverage Your "Event Proxy Brand" Goal
Because your dream centers around globally immersive events, frame your outreach through curiosity and asset creation rather than asking for job openings:


• Ask about operational mechanics: Big professionals love talking about the how—logistics, brand positioning, audience retention, or international expansion.

• Share relevant insights: If you come across an innovative global event concept or trend report, share it with a quick line: "Saw this experiential pop-up in Tokyo and immediately thought of our conversation about immersive branding."

4. Core Mindsets for High-Impact Networking
• Give before you ask: Offer to help with low-level tasks, draft brief research summaries, or offer fresh insights on youth/recent grad perspectives in event branding.

• Make requests hyper-specific: When you do need advice or an introduction, make it easy to answer. Instead of "Do you know anyone in global event management?", ask "Do you happen to know anyone connected to [Specific Event/Company] whom I could reach out to?"

• Be the driver: Always take ownership of scheduling, timezones, and logistics so there is zero friction for them.
Thank you comment icon This is so insightful, Mr Joel and I appreciate the time you took to put this here. I am doing a copy and paste then pinning this to my clipboard so it's always ready to use. Your mention of my event proxy brand made me feel seen because a big shot network I told it to said it wasn't feasible, heavily discouraging me. Although I've been taking the time to look into events nonetheless. Now I'll actively post them on my LinkedIn, the events I want to attend just to create awareness on those events and also a post about my services afterwards. That way, I keep showing up regardless and my value before payment is mentioned is in bringing the event to their feeds. Layo
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Confidence in yourself and interest in learning. There’s no shame in not being an expert in something, especially at entry level. And showing an eagerness to learn can go a long way.

Be yourself, talk about your achievements, and tell a great story. Sometimes, we describe our experiences so simply that we forget how remarkable they really are. Learn to communicate your value and the impact you’ve made. And above all, bring a great attitude! Skills can be developed over time, but attitude makes all the difference. Best of luck! 🚀

Be yourself. Let your personality shine. And always be polite.

You’re just starting out, so you may not have a lot of experience. Show confidence, be internally motivated, show a willingness to be coached. Having examples of when you learned something new and ran with it will go a long way.

Be enagaging, Be curious, and do not be afraid to ask questions. Recruiters are looking for people that show genuine interest and are willing to learn. Not just people who have all the answers. Come prepared with a few questions about a company or a role. Be yourself!
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In my experience employers often look for "athletes," aka people with a growth mindset who bring skills to the table but demonstrate a willingness to apply them in new ways and to learn new things along the way.

As a hiring manager I look for Initiative, ambition, and follow through to make a strong impression.

From the employer side, one thing that makes someone stand out at a career fair is genuine curiosity. You don’t need to know everything about the company but doing a little research beforehand and asking a specific question makes a big difference.
I’d also suggest preparing a short introduction about yourself: what you’re studying, what kind of work interests you, and what you’re looking for. Don’t try to memorize a perfect speech. A natural conversation is much easier to remember.
When you speak with a recruiter, listen as much as you talk. Ask about the roles, what they look for in new graduates, or what skills would help someone succeed there. If you’re interested, ask what the best next step is and connect with the person on LinkedIn afterwards.
And don’t worry if you don’t have much work experience yet. Employers also notice how you communicate, whether you’ve prepared, your willingness to learn, and how you talk about experiences from university, volunteering, projects or part-time work.
My biggest advice would be: don’t try too hard to impress. Try to have a good conversation and show genuine interest. That’s often what people remember.

Confidence. Have a question(s) prepared in advance, be prepared to discuss the response, and listen/be fully engaged.
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Wong’s Answer

Since you are not a shy person, you can use your confidence to start conversations, ask questions, and show genuine interest in people. Instead of thinking about what you can get from someone, you should also think about what you can learn from them and how you can be useful to them.

As a recent graduate, you should focus on meeting people from different backgrounds and industries. Your goal is to experience people around the world through Event Proxy Brand, so every conversation can teach you something. You can ask people about their work, their experiences, the challenges they faced, and the lessons they learned. These conversations can help you understand different perspectives while also helping people remember you as someone who is curious and interested in learning.

When you have a conversation with an important professional, you should not let the connection end when the call ends. A simple follow-up message can make a big difference. You can thank them for their time, mention one thing you learned from the conversation, and tell them how you plan to use that advice. This shows that you were actually listening and that their time was valuable to you. If there is something specific you discussed, you can also follow up on it later instead of sending a generic message.
Thank you comment icon Thank you for your support. In fact I was encouraged to apply for an internship at their company. Now what worries me is that a line has been crossed conversation wise and I might have to withdraw as their friendliness wasn't all professional. How do I go about it without seeming rude? Layo
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Keilla’s Answer

Hi Layo, great question! Here’s what I would do:

1. Send a warm thank-you message after the call.
2. Make sure your LinkedIn profile shows your goals and interests clearly.
3. Connect with them on LinkedIn and add a friendly personal note.
4. Ask if you can keep them updated on your progress.
5. Reach out a few weeks later with an interesting update.
6. Find little ways to support or add value to their work.
7. When the time feels right, ask if they know any opportunities or people you should meet.

Best of luck, and congratulations on taking these steps!
Thank you comment icon I think I made the mistake of not asking who this particular connection would recommend me to and instead let it end when they told me they couldn't use my service. Now I can't go back. But I'll keep this in mind for next time. Thanks Layo
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Jezlea’s Answer

Hi Layo! The best way to make the most of networking is to first be fully present in the conversation — asking questions, actively listening, and keeping the dialogue going. The follow-up is by far the most important part. It's important to stay in touch so they know what you're doing career-wise, but also so the conversation doesn't feel like just a brief, one-time meeting. You want to build a genuine connection and a strong professional relationship so you both feel like you truly know each other beyond a surface-level exchange.
Thank you comment icon Thank you, Jezlea for the advice. Layo
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Samantha’s Answer

Key things:
1) Already have a meeting? Be prepared: If you already have an upcoming meeting or phone conversation with a brand new connection, show up prepared. Use AI to help you synthesize key information about that person (their accomplishments, their job, etc) and information about their industry/role. Then use it to help you craft valuable questions based on what YOU want to get out of that connection

2) Looking for new connections: Branch out in multiple places - Use Linkedin as a start, but also find local networking groups/chapters that are either generalized, based on age, or based on industry to begin networking locally.

3) Every interaction is a chance to network: You never know who you are going to meet, where. THat person you are standing next to in line might be your next best connection - start up conversations, get to know people! Even if they aren't the connection you need, you never know who they may have a connection with!

Samantha recommends the following next steps:

Set a goal to make 5 new connections by the end of the year
Thank you comment icon Thanks I did a lot of research with this connection but things didn't go well. I will start an active list, thank you. And by December, hopefully I can check this box. Layo
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Rebecca’s Answer

Thank you for your question. I am glad to know you like collaboration. There are many careers that have a lot of interaction with people.
Below are my suggestions :
1. Consider careers like public relationships, marketing, event organizer, journalists, client services, etc. You dan find out more online
2. Find out more on these careers and determine what you have interest
3. Attend the relevant courses in college
4. Attend industry related events, seminars, etc.
5. Join the professional bodies ofbtge industry
Hope this helps! Good luck!
May Almighty God bless you!
Thank you comment icon I appreciate this, thank you for the advice. Layo
Thank you comment icon I will look more into public relationships as it sounds similar to the brand I'm building. It's an Event-representation-as-a- service brand. But I have been discouraged by people saying it's not viable. Done with college but I'll look up online courses, thanks. Yes I love attending events and my monetary limitation is in fact the motivation behind the brand. As for 5, I will look into how I can do that. Thanks a lot for the insight Layo
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Claire’s Answer

Hello! It's great to see you taking the initiative to follow up. Connecting on LinkedIn is a fantastic step. When you send a connection request, include a personal message that reminds them of your conversation. This will help you stand out. Think about how you can keep the conversation going and build a lasting relationship. Always include a question or request in your message, like asking for an introduction to someone or seeking advice for a project. This shows you're interested and engaged. Keep up the great work!
Thank you comment icon Thank you for opening my eyes to this form of CTA. Asking for intro someone else. Which means I won't stop my networking at this one person simply because we got something started. Layo
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Katie’s Answer

Hi Layo,

The advice you've received so far is fantastic, from attending networking events to keeping in touch regularly, even if it's just a quick LinkedIn message.

Remember, networking is a continuous process. It can happen anywhere—at the airport, in a grocery line, or at a friend's birthday party. The secret is to stay curious. Introduce yourself to people who interest you or whom you haven't met before. Discover their stories and experiences. Everyone has ups and downs, and you can learn a lot from both friends and strangers. These connections might lead to new opportunities or open unexpected doors for you.

Wishing you the best!
Thank you comment icon Thank you🤭💕💕 Layo
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