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How do I start makinrg friends at school?

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Steve’s Answer

Meeting people and making new friends is one of the best parts of school. I've found that the top three ways to do this are:

1) Talk to the person sitting next to you in class. You already have something to talk about, and you might find someone with similar interests and/or a "study buddy". After you've chatted a few times before/after class, suggest grabbing some lunch or meeting up to study for that next quiz or test.

2) Find out about all of the student clubs and organizations at your school... there's something for everyone! Go to several meetings and/or activities, introduce yourself, and get involved. This is a great way to find new social groups and make a lot of friends quickly.

3) Volunteer! Check out the opportunities and pick a couple that sound fun or interesting. Once there, be sure to introduce yourself and ask questions, offer to help someone out, and be part of the team.

Good luck!

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Mike’s Answer

Hello Martin!

Sounds like you've already taken the first step, asking others for their opinions and recommendations!

You'll find that most people like sharing, or talking about themselves, where they come from, what they like doing, or what opinions and recommendations they have to solve problems, and more. :)

As someone who moved every three years (parent was in the military), and was an only child, I had to make new friends every where I went!

Here's how I did it -

1. The best advice is to get involved at school! Join clubs, organizations, sports, hobbies, leadership councils, student body, etc.

2. Talk to your school counselor! Tell them you're interested in making new friends. I'm sure the counselor will confirm the benefits of making friends, and also provide some opportunities to get engaged there at school.

3. Take an elective at school as an aid - teachers aid, office aid, principal/counselor aid

4. If you like sports, and are not on a team, ask the coach(es) if you can help be a manager for the team. I imagine that most coaches will welcome the help!

5. Ask to join kids at lunch tables. Maybe even find someone who may be sitting alone, or someone who is in your class(es). Ask them questions like where they're from, what hobbies they have, what classes do they have, and what do they like to do when not in school. If its been around a recent holiday, ask if they went somewhere for their break.

Hope that helps!

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Rebecca’s Answer

You can make friends in classes, extra curricular activities, volunteer work, etc. Below are a few suggestions :

1. Be nice to people and they will nice to you too.

2. Open minded - Open up yourself. Don't by shy.

3. Try to start with conversation to the one besides you. You can pick some common topics (e.g. something in the class, etc.) to open up the discussion.

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Ken’s Answer

A very good way to make friends is to locate people who share common career interests. After you get to know yourself better to become more focused, you can locate interest groups through your student union and your academic adviser.

Getting to know yourself and how your personality traits relate to people involved in various career opportunities is very important in your decision making process. During my many years in Human Resources and College Recruiting, I ran across too many students who had skipped this very important step and ended up in a job situation which for which they were not well suited. Selecting a career area is like buying a pair of shoes. First you have to be properly fitted for the correct size, and then you need to try on and walk in the various shoe options to determine which is fits the best and is most comfortable for you to wear. Following are some important steps which I developed during my career which have been helpful to many .

Ken recommends the following next steps:

The first step is to take an interest and aptitude test and have it interpreted by your school counselor to see if you share the personality traits necessary to enter the field. You might want to do this again upon entry into college, as the interpretation might differ slightly due to the course offering of the school. However, do not wait until entering college, as the information from the test will help to determine the courses that you take in high school. Too many students, due to poor planning, end up paying for courses in college which they could have taken for free in high school.
Next, when you have the results of the testing, talk to the person at your high school and college who tracks and works with graduates to arrange to talk to, visit, and possibly shadow people doing what you think that you might want to do, so that you can get know what they are doing and how they got there. Here are some tips: ## http://www.wikihow.com/Network ## ## https://www.themuse.com/advice/nonawkward-ways-to-start-and-end-networking-conversations ## ## https://www.themuse.com/advice/4-questions-to-ask-your-network-besides-can-you-get-me-a-job?ref=carousel-slide-1 ##
Locate and attend meetings of professional associations to which people who are doing what you think that you want to do belong, so that you can get their advice. These associations may offer or know of intern, coop, shadowing, and scholarship opportunities. These associations are the means whereby the professionals keep abreast of their career area following college and advance in their career. You can locate them by asking your school academic advisor, favorite teachers, and the reference librarian at your local library. Here are some tips: ## https://www.careeronestop.org/BusinessCenter/Toolkit/find-professional-associations.aspx?&frd=true ## ## https://www.themuse.com/advice/9-tips-for-navigating-your-first-networking-event ##
• It is very important to express your appreciation to those who help you along the way to be able to continue to receive helpful information and to create important networking contacts along the way. Here are some good tips: ## https://www.themuse.com/advice/the-informational-interview-thank-you-note-smart-people-know-to-send?ref=recently-published-2 ## ## https://www.themuse.com/advice/3-tips-for-writing-a-thank-you-note-thatll-make-you-look-like-the-best-candidate-alive?bsft_eid=7e230cba-a92f-4ec7-8ca3-2f50c8fc9c3c&bsft_pid=d08b95c2-bc8f-4eae-8618-d0826841a284&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=daily_20171020&utm_source=blueshift&utm_content=daily_20171020&bsft_clkid=edfe52ae-9e40-4d90-8e6a-e0bb76116570&bsft_uid=54658fa1-0090-41fd-b88c-20a86c513a6c&bsft_mid=214115cb-cca2-4aec-aa86-92a31d371185&bsft_pp=2 ##