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Did you ever feel like quiting when situations became too much?


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Katya’s Answer

Hi Tyclasia, of course and probably many many times. Stress takes over, tears round up), you feel like it’s the end of the world and don’t have the energy to do anything.

It’s a normal feeling when your mind and your body fuel exits and not is the time to rejuvenate your energy.

So, the question is what to do next? First, just drop everything, walk away from whatever is making you feel this way. We have a saying in my family- when something really gets to you- there is no point in continuing doing the task for that very moment0 so walk away, raise your hand very very high and drop it ( basically get rid of all the accumulated stress).

I sleep on it-through experience- this is the best stress reliever- waking up the next morning and you will see how your thought are much more positive and you tend to look at your current situation from a different angle.

Take a break, go for a walk, listen to some relaxing music, write it down -what really got you to this point and break it down-was it worth getting yourself so Overwhelmed. Probably, you will find it wasn’t and you were just stressed out.

Take breaks between whatever it is you doing -5 minutes to do some breathing, jumping walking, taking a break from gadgets is a hug need for our mind to recoup and get back to norm.


Hop this helps

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Emmi’s Answer

Absolutely! I don't know anyone who has never faced discouragement, exhaustion and burn-out. It is a truly human experience. I have had many points at which I felt like giving up, and sometimes those points were a blessing. The times that you feel overwhelmed are the times that you can step back and evaluate your position. Sometimes you have more than one option! Sometimes these points provide you with the perspective you need to really examine your situation, and give you the time to ask whether what you are doing is healthy, relevant to your interests, and worth it.

There were a lot of times I found myself in situations that felt like drowning. Each time, I asked myself if what I was doing, in the long run, was truly of benefit to me, or to anyone else. We have a solid narrative in our culture about pushing through, not giving up, overcoming obstacles, etc., but it's important to examine whether or not this philosophy is appropriate to the circumstances.

I want to remind you that sometimes giving up is healthy. Sometimes giving up is the right thing to do. If you find yourself in a situation that is abusive, unhealthy, harmful, or irrelevant, there is no shame in choosing to prioritize yourself over that narrative.

If you are strong enough to push yourself through painful, difficult, heartbreaking times, you are strong enough to be honest with yourself about the value of that struggle. Is it worth it? Does it benefit you or the ones you love? Why are you committing yourself to the act?

You would never tell a person you love to keep beating their head into a wall for no reason. Don't do it to yourself! Be honest with yourself and kind to yourself. These things take more strength than just bulling through a situation because you think you aren't supposed to give up.

That being said, you can do it! Rock on! Do your thing! Life splits into countless myriad paths, and there will always, always be a way forward. There is no single goal. There is no one way to win. Be strong, love yourself, be kind, be open to opportunity.

Good luck!


Emmi recommends the following next steps:

Be honest with yourself.
Be compassionate to yourself.
Assess your situation. Is it good for you? Is it consistent with your values and goals?
Assess your values and goals. Are they good for you? Are they serving you well?
Make your decision for yourself. This is your life, and all the stuff people tell you you're supposed to do is just a suggestion.

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Tasha’s Answer

Absolutely. I remember a time when I was working full-time from 6am to 2pm in a hospital as a Hospitalist Coordinator. At that time, I had a son who was in middle school and I had to have him at Basketball practice daily from 4pm to 8pm, I was also juggling being a single parent with pursuing my Master's in Business Administration (MBA). I had papers due, discussion questions that I had to turn in by 11:59 pm. There were times when I was asking myself "what are you thinking?".


It became too much at one time for me. I failed to mention that I was also part-time military, which requires full-time level of effort which had me stretched thin. So, for me when the situation became too much, I did not quit, but I took some time to myself to ask myself WHY. Why am I doing this? What I am looking to get from all of this work? Is this worth it?


My Why allowed me to regroup and figure out what is truly important in life and asking myself Why allowed me to prioritize my activities, include self care, and really focus on the passion and excitement I had from the situation.


When a situation becomes too much, go back to that passion you have about a particular thing. If the passion is not there, if it serves no valuation purpose in your life, then it is not a matter of quitting, but a matter of eliminating unnecessary stress and failure. If you have to eliminate it or let it go, than that is not the same as quitting. Self care is about understanding your capacity and making the correct decisions to let things go that no longer serve you or things that are causing more harm than good. It is a matter of perspective on a situation. Quitting is when you have not made any considerations and let stopped something from an emotional place.

Tasha recommends the following next steps:

Evaluate your why in the situation
Take some time for yourself on a regular basis to regroup, express gratitude, and quiet all of the noise
Make S.M.A.R.T. goals (specific, measureable, achievable, realistic, and time bound). This will allow you to set priorities so that you do not stretch yourself
Always create balance between work, school, and the most important thing we have, which is LIFE
Protect your energy by setting boundaries.

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Katya’s Answer

Hi Tyclasia, of course- especially When I first started after a college graduation. My first job was a teller in the financial industry and I was the top performer in the branch;however, I wasn’t acknowledged or felt like I was part of the team. This of course was over 20 years ago and the industry itself had different management expectations and how managers managed their associates were so much different then what the retail world is now.

I was very stressed but still kept on working. I was there for good 6 months but looked for other opportunities. I know emotions are always stand in our ways but I learned one good reason with time- always know your goal as your plan. Quitting is something you an do at any time- depending on the situation -I do recommend to always speak with Your manager-because they have a responsibility to resolve any situations.

If you are just asking in general- I don’t believe in quitting- I was raised not to quit and to always find a lesson even in the most difficult life scenarios.

I believe- that our mind is so powerful and depending on how you are overthinking about the issue- it won’t help-trying to break it into small steps and see if it’s a really a problem and how can you solve it. I encourage to reach out to family , friends, mentors -ets and talk as it always help to seek advise or just listen.

Hope this helps.

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Estelle’s Answer

Yes, there will always be setbacks and disappointments and problems. This is how we grow and become better. To overcome problems helps us deal with other issues in the future. Even when I have been frustrated at work, I know that I have worked very hard to get where I am, and the journey is worth the effort to continue to succeed.

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Emily’s Answer

For sure! I don't know that anyone has never hit that point. I know for me when I've gotten to that point it means I need some reset time. That can mean walking away and taking a break, going outside on a walk to clear my mind. Everyone will deal with stress in their life the best advice I could give you is to find what calms you down and resets you. Then make sure you take the time for yourself as often as you need it.


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Richard’s Answer

When I feel like giving up, I take inspiration from the story of the failed Antarctic exploration by polar explorer Ernest Shackleton and his crew as told in the book “Endurance: Shackleton's Incredible Voyage.” Understanding their ability to overcome the incredible hardships and survive teaches me that humans can accomplish anything

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Doug’s Answer

Everyone goes through highs and lows in their career. Best to take time off and recover from the burnout! If the feeling continues, evaluate your reasons and options. If you really enjoy the people and place you work, consider if there are other opportunities within the company. Find what makes you passionate and pursue the options within that field.

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Marissa’s Answer

Yes!!

The best way to get through times like this are to focus on why you started in the first place. Not only what are you wanting to accomplish, but why? This will help guide you back to the correct path.

I have found that sometimes I don’t have a good why. And that is okay! I usually take these as moments to start exploring different options that I have a stronger desire for.

Never forget it is okay to quit things when it isn’t right for you. But when it is, focus on the end goal in sight.

Best of luck!

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