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How do you get along with your dorm mate?
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T.J.’s Answer
Hello Faith!
Being nice and communication are the top two things to have for people you're living with.
Treat others with kindness, and you're more than likely going to receive kindness back.
Communication is probably a big skills people don't use... or at least, don't know how to use effectively.
Don't be passive aggressive. Don't try to assume what your roommate is thinking. Don't speak to them in a mean way.
Communicate to others how you want to be spoken to, as well.
It seems odd, but being kind takes effort. Good communication also take practice and effort. Sometimes it's hard, but it's better in the long run.
You might be good at talking or already friendly, but it might help to refresh your skills just in case, since it's the first time you're living with a stranger :)
Here's some guides on friendliness and communication:
- 100 Ways to Do Kindness | https://www.intentionallistening.com/ways-to-be-kind/
- Conversations Guide | https://www.techtello.com/how-to-start-a-conversation/
- Active Listening | https://www.techtello.com/active-listening/
Also other small tips I have are:
~ Always Ask. (For borrowing things and anything else)
~ Get rules for living together out of the way A.S.A.P. when you move in.
~ Get to know each other, and be open to learning more about them!
Sending you good vibes as you enter college! :)
Being nice and communication are the top two things to have for people you're living with.
Treat others with kindness, and you're more than likely going to receive kindness back.
Communication is probably a big skills people don't use... or at least, don't know how to use effectively.
Don't be passive aggressive. Don't try to assume what your roommate is thinking. Don't speak to them in a mean way.
Communicate to others how you want to be spoken to, as well.
It seems odd, but being kind takes effort. Good communication also take practice and effort. Sometimes it's hard, but it's better in the long run.
You might be good at talking or already friendly, but it might help to refresh your skills just in case, since it's the first time you're living with a stranger :)
Here's some guides on friendliness and communication:
- 100 Ways to Do Kindness | https://www.intentionallistening.com/ways-to-be-kind/
- Conversations Guide | https://www.techtello.com/how-to-start-a-conversation/
- Active Listening | https://www.techtello.com/active-listening/
Also other small tips I have are:
~ Always Ask. (For borrowing things and anything else)
~ Get rules for living together out of the way A.S.A.P. when you move in.
~ Get to know each other, and be open to learning more about them!
Sending you good vibes as you enter college! :)
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Moses’s Answer
I haven't exactly lived in a dorm environment per say, but being in the military you get bunked with a plethora of characters for the most part. With this, some of them you wont exactly get along with. The best way I've managed to make this work is by understanding they have their own interests, goals, and motives for what they do.
If they are very rude and some what aggressive , try to understand where they are coming from and articulate in a tactful way what they are doing is bothersome. If they are too loud and eccentric, same principle applies, be tactful but straightforward and tell them what is wrong.
Now if you two are both brand new and complete strangers to each other, get to know them and ask them insightful questions. These don't have to be life-pondering questions either. The more open ended the question, the more insightful answers you'll receive.
If they are very rude and some what aggressive , try to understand where they are coming from and articulate in a tactful way what they are doing is bothersome. If they are too loud and eccentric, same principle applies, be tactful but straightforward and tell them what is wrong.
Now if you two are both brand new and complete strangers to each other, get to know them and ask them insightful questions. These don't have to be life-pondering questions either. The more open ended the question, the more insightful answers you'll receive.
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Marisa’s Answer
During your first year at college, it's likely that both of you don't know many people yet! So, it's a great idea to stick together initially! Discover the campus together, eat at the dining hall together, and you'll probably make more friends. Even if you don't become best friends or have a lot in common, it'll still make the experience much more fun.