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Ciara
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Lorain, Ohio
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How can one be comfortable with where they are in life, in the moment, and not have to think of the future?
It's almost impossible to not worry about our next day, or next week, years from now. So how can we admire our lives in the now? whether good or bad, it's an experience that's uniquely designed for us, and shaping us into who we are.
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Enise Agel
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Hello Ciara,
Everyone has different issues, even the similar problem as your problem occured. Everyone has their own problems, and everyone faces the problem different, yet all problems are similar to yours. If you do worry all time, you just torture yourself and never saw yourself in the lucky one self. I know it is easy to say, yet you may heard all problems from friends, your and your friends parents, even job seekers… but you look the half empty from the glass. You should be optimist: ask what if not it happens, and you thought think badly of yourself? I have some advice for you.
Think about how you can change the environment after you calm yourself down,
how you can shape your present moment once you have a new plan (it can be job, weekdays and weekends daily or weekly plan, timetable that helps you to balance, and calendar that follow the dates that you should not miss any opportunity in front of you!),
think what you can do if you are in the position where people were stuck the same problem - if you know someone who (only one person you know the best) is/(friends etc.) are at the same level, ask what had the person/they done when that problem occured,
Think how your life had changed previously, and now you would like to change for your current situation, (what you learned, what you did the situation differently, how you did find out who you was, and who you are),
Ask your youngself what would you do if the situation would happen to you, and how would you do it during that situation… or what would like to tell your youngself how you handle your previous time when you could not adapt the prior issues. Just ask yourself with what, how, why, when, what if… any of these!
I hope this helps
Everyone has different issues, even the similar problem as your problem occured. Everyone has their own problems, and everyone faces the problem different, yet all problems are similar to yours. If you do worry all time, you just torture yourself and never saw yourself in the lucky one self. I know it is easy to say, yet you may heard all problems from friends, your and your friends parents, even job seekers… but you look the half empty from the glass. You should be optimist: ask what if not it happens, and you thought think badly of yourself? I have some advice for you.
Think about how you can change the environment after you calm yourself down,
how you can shape your present moment once you have a new plan (it can be job, weekdays and weekends daily or weekly plan, timetable that helps you to balance, and calendar that follow the dates that you should not miss any opportunity in front of you!),
think what you can do if you are in the position where people were stuck the same problem - if you know someone who (only one person you know the best) is/(friends etc.) are at the same level, ask what had the person/they done when that problem occured,
Think how your life had changed previously, and now you would like to change for your current situation, (what you learned, what you did the situation differently, how you did find out who you was, and who you are),
Ask your youngself what would you do if the situation would happen to you, and how would you do it during that situation… or what would like to tell your youngself how you handle your previous time when you could not adapt the prior issues. Just ask yourself with what, how, why, when, what if… any of these!
I hope this helps
Erika Nelson Davis
Crisis Response Team EMT
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Phoenix, Arizona
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Erika’s Answer
Ciara,
That is a question of the ages. It is important to think globally and have awareness of potential action to reaction in our day to day lives. To live consciously.
The key is balance. How we achieve that balance is a process and looks different for everyone.
Some of it is the reality that there are things we can control and things we cannot. We must learn to know the difference.
Personality and attachment styles come into play here too. Attachment style had a lot to do with how we are raised and the culture in your home. I'm over simplifying here but I hope this makes some sense.
Coping styles and our resilience emerging from these things impact how we process, accept, and navigate the good and bad things in our lives.
My dad always said you are either a hurdle person or a wall person. This had to do with how we deal with obstacles in life. He said walls are hard to get around but hurdles... well hurdles to can jump over , go around , under , or you can lay them down and walk over them if you want to too!
I will share with you that yoga and meditation have helped many including myself to attenuate these life stresses and anxiety. Perhaps this may be something you would like to explore. Exercise is a proven mood elevator so if these doesn't appeal to you maybe another sort of workout?
I wish you the best!
Erika
That is a question of the ages. It is important to think globally and have awareness of potential action to reaction in our day to day lives. To live consciously.
The key is balance. How we achieve that balance is a process and looks different for everyone.
Some of it is the reality that there are things we can control and things we cannot. We must learn to know the difference.
Personality and attachment styles come into play here too. Attachment style had a lot to do with how we are raised and the culture in your home. I'm over simplifying here but I hope this makes some sense.
Coping styles and our resilience emerging from these things impact how we process, accept, and navigate the good and bad things in our lives.
My dad always said you are either a hurdle person or a wall person. This had to do with how we deal with obstacles in life. He said walls are hard to get around but hurdles... well hurdles to can jump over , go around , under , or you can lay them down and walk over them if you want to too!
I will share with you that yoga and meditation have helped many including myself to attenuate these life stresses and anxiety. Perhaps this may be something you would like to explore. Exercise is a proven mood elevator so if these doesn't appeal to you maybe another sort of workout?
I wish you the best!
Erika
Afrad Mahamed
Operations & Project Management
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Lakeland, Florida
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Afrad’s Answer
Hi Ciara -
There's a saying that goes:
If you are Depressed, you are living in the Past,
If you are Anxious, you are living in the Future,
If you are at Peace, you are living in the Present.
Experiencing stress or anxiety about what lies ahead is a common feeling. It often stems from the uncertainty of our future. While we can control some aspects, many remain beyond our grasp. It's commendable that you're contemplating your future, as it aids in planning, making wise choices, and carving your own path, rather than blindly following the crowd.
However, while forward-thinking is beneficial, there are strategies to help manage stress and anxiety associated with it. A key thing to remember is that worrying over uncontrollable factors will not change anything. This leaves you with the aspects you can influence, and that's where your focus should be. Essentially, concentrate on the areas you can control and lessen your worries about those you can't.
I use the saying above as a reminder to appreciate the present and recognize the positive aspects of my life. I hope it can provide some comfort to you as well!
Wishing you all the best!
There's a saying that goes:
If you are Depressed, you are living in the Past,
If you are Anxious, you are living in the Future,
If you are at Peace, you are living in the Present.
Experiencing stress or anxiety about what lies ahead is a common feeling. It often stems from the uncertainty of our future. While we can control some aspects, many remain beyond our grasp. It's commendable that you're contemplating your future, as it aids in planning, making wise choices, and carving your own path, rather than blindly following the crowd.
However, while forward-thinking is beneficial, there are strategies to help manage stress and anxiety associated with it. A key thing to remember is that worrying over uncontrollable factors will not change anything. This leaves you with the aspects you can influence, and that's where your focus should be. Essentially, concentrate on the areas you can control and lessen your worries about those you can't.
I use the saying above as a reminder to appreciate the present and recognize the positive aspects of my life. I hope it can provide some comfort to you as well!
Wishing you all the best!
April Bailey
Talent Development Partner
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Pisgah, Alabama
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April’s Answer
Maintaining a gratitude journal can be incredibly beneficial. By recording the things you're thankful for and your achievements, you create a powerful tool for reflection. On those days when your mind is always racing ahead to what's next, this journal serves as a comforting reminder of your journey and accomplishments. It's a great way to uplift your spirits and keep you motivated.
Karine Bernard
Operational Project Manager
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Montpellier, Occitanie, France
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Karine’s Answer
Dear Ciara,
The hardest but most beneficial way to be at peace is to live in the moment.
Try different things such as mindfulness, writing down 2 or 3 positive things each day (things you're grateful for , even minor events such as "seeing a rainbow"), exercising can help.
Embrace the fact that you cannot change or controls things or people , however you can control the way you react to external events. Easier said than done, it takes some practice & some time.
You can think forward and something that might help is creating a Dream board (or Vision board ) :
Think about one or more goals - ie : "I want to travel" -> consider the potential obstacles, road blockers and how to overcome these.
Wishing you all the best !
Karine
The hardest but most beneficial way to be at peace is to live in the moment.
Try different things such as mindfulness, writing down 2 or 3 positive things each day (things you're grateful for , even minor events such as "seeing a rainbow"), exercising can help.
Embrace the fact that you cannot change or controls things or people , however you can control the way you react to external events. Easier said than done, it takes some practice & some time.
You can think forward and something that might help is creating a Dream board (or Vision board ) :
Think about one or more goals - ie : "I want to travel" -> consider the potential obstacles, road blockers and how to overcome these.
Wishing you all the best !
Karine
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