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How does an average woman succeed in a world like ours ?

Our world tends to look down on women no matter the circumstances so how must we succeed.

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Sahar’s Answer

First off - there's no such thing as an average woman. :)

You should always be true to yourself, it'll be what differentiates you. I found that when I brought my personality to work, I've been more successful. Seeking and attending networking groups/events in your industry focused on women will be a great way to meet other like-minded women. You'll feel more motivated and encouraged.

Regardless of the skeptics, there's also incredible people out there who want to see and help you succeed!
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Sumabala’s Answer

Kaylee,

I agree with Sahar. There is no average woman. Everyone - man, woman, or whatever you identify yourself as - is unique.

Social conditioning often makes us believe we are much less that what we truly are. This is true not just of women, Stereotypes abound. And when you measure yourself against stereotypes you have absorbed growing up, you find yourself lacking.

Think about it, men are often portrayed in stories as brave warriors, defenders and providers. So are all families run by heroic warrior men with meek wives and children who spend their time looking at their men with adoring eyes and depending on them to make their way in the world? Women are traditionally portrayed as nurturing, caring, fabulous cooks who keep a spotless house. Really? How many women do you know who can burn even water and can't be bothered to pick up after themselves, let alone others?

Stereotypes are fine. But no individual is a stereotype. Everyone is unique.

The world can be scary. It can be intimidating. But put the fear aside for a minute and look around - it is so varied and wonderful as well! If there is so much variety around you, then how can your spark be unwanted? You surely have a place that is unique to you! And know that is is ok to be afraid, we all are. What you do with the fear is what matters.

The world thrives because we are all different and each have our own story. Our personality, interests, skills, experiences, opinions etc. reflect in how we interact with those around us, adding to the vivid, wonderful tapestry of life.

Believe in yourself. Know you have your own place in the world, your own work to do, that will contribute to the world. You may not have found it yet, or you have, but are second-guessing yourself. But believing in you, truly asking yourself who you are and what you want will help you in finding the answers. And over time, as you grow, mature, learn and evolve, your interests and opinions may change -that is perfectly OK too.

Find your own moral compass and stick to it. People may judge - but very often the judgement is more a reflection on them than it is on you. Why? Because they are measuring you against some frame of reference that they believe in. Is that what you believe in too? If so, listen humbly, take the advise and change your ways the best you can. If not, have enough faith in yourselves to know that though the judgements hurt, there is a reason, that your conscience agrees with, that steered your actions, Believe in yourself.

Choose your tribe. We may not have a choice in our family, but we can choose our friends and associates. Find like minded people who understand you as you understand them. Be there for them, and most liekly, they wil be there for you too.

Do you know that the famous Albert Einstein was a rebellious student who used to skip classes regularly when he was at Zurich Polytechnic? That because of his german origins and the political climate at the time, he was spied upon by the FBI for decades?. This did not make him any less of a fabulous physicist or any more of a perfect being. There are no perfect beings, only ordinary humans continuously striving to be the best they can be, stumbling through failures and doing the best they can in whatever they are called to do. Also know that the world will see your successes but they may not see all the failures that led up to it. But remember your failures. They are invaluable.

So, be kind to yourself. Know yourself and judge yourself for what you think you should be, not what people tell you. Chase your interests and passions and they will lead you to wonderful places. If you stumble, learn from it, so you can glide forward in future. Try to look at the bright side.

Know what you need in life to be content - to the best of my knowledge, whatever we achieve in life is left behind, we cannot take anything with us when we set off on our final journey.

And most importantly, be happy. Life is too short to waste on regrets and what ifs.

I hope this isn''t too preachy :) That was not my intention. As a minority woman and mother in a highly competitive field, coming from an asian-indian, extremely traditional background, I've had my struggles. As I write this, it is helpful to me too - because I'm realizing how much I have truly learned about myself and life in these four and a half decades. :)

So Kaylee, I thank you for asking this question. If this answer helps you half as much as it has helped me, I've done my good deed for the day :)

Stay confident, stay you and Good Luck!
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Cory’s Answer

I won’t pretend I know your story or struggles. I felt like this question needed a nudge for someone more adept than myself to answer. Here is my try.

The answer for my wife and mother so I hope to apply to my daughter is to build a life not dependent on others. This is not to mean without family and friends but only to mean not required to be judged by those outside your circle.

People inside your circle should be judgement free and unconditional with their support. Stuff outside this doesn’t matter so start small and build your expectations along with your skill sets organically. Self taught people are the strongest.

Once you find your thing look for support or trade or fan groups on the topic to advance your craft.

The juice has to be worth the squeeze when you’re working with limited resources. So the slow but steady approach tends not to burn people out. Good Luck.
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Jazhel’s Answer

Hi Kaylee. Thank you for such a thoughtful question. I have experienced discrimination as a woman and mother which to me was a total lack of respect for my capabilities because of my role in society. Even though women have progressed in many ways, women-especially minority women, are still underrepresented. I have learned from experience, literature, and observation that education is one of the best ways for women to succeed. Build your credentials and network and surround yourself with open-minded people who are willing to support you and accept help from you. Continue to be creative and be yourself and you will attract people who respect you. Last but not least, independence is valuable and something nobody can take away from you. I hope you find this helpful. Best of luck.
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Kristy’s Answer

Strive to be extraordinary, not just average. Embrace the thirst for knowledge and take on more responsibilities. Break the traditional norms for women by demonstrating your ability and willingness to excel at any task. Your gender should never hinder you from seizing opportunities. Opportunities for women are abundant, they're all around us. Balancing family and a full-time job can be challenging, and it's okay not to be perfect at everything. Success can be achieved by setting and accomplishing goals one at a time. Discover your passion, choose a profession that piques your interest, or venture into something that pushes your boundaries. Remember, you are capable of achieving incredible things when you put your mind to it.
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Arshdeep’s Answer

No woman is "average". Its important to find your super power and maximize it. Know that you are unique in your own way, and no one call you "average" unless you give them permission to do so - your confidence in yourself will radiate your true worth to everyone so believe in yourself. Set your goals, make a plan and do everything you can to achieve it! Wishing you the best!
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Cindy’s Answer

How does an average woman succeed in a world like ours ?
Our world tends to look down on women no matter the circumstances so how must we succeed.

No one is 'average'. You are who you want to be and you define what success looks like for 'you'.

It's important to have a self-awareness to know your strengths, your weaknesses, what motivates you, what gives you passion and how you create impact and value.

Once you understand the above, this will help how you define success for 'you'.

How to succeed. Have a clear path on the things that will make you successful and celebrate the milestones along the journey.
Get advice, ie, know who you can lean on for mentorship when you need guidances.
Know who are you sponsors that will help you succeeed. (Sponsors are different from mentors and Sponsorship is 'earned', based on others seeing your capabilities and the impact you have on furthering business needs.)
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Leanne’s Answer

Every woman is unique and extraordinary. I am constantly moved by the women around me, whether they're family, friends, or professional mentors. The accomplishments and potential of women never cease to amaze me. Here are some key traits I've noticed in successful women in the workplace throughout my two-decade observation:

- They voice their concerns when they notice something is not right or unjust.
- They have self-confidence and don't allow others to undermine them.
- They support and uplift other women in their environment.
- They proactively look for ways to highlight their work and contributions.
- They focus on details, like avoiding unnecessary pleasantries. While being polite is important, women often use different language in the workplace, for instance, in their email communication. An example - starting an email with, 'If you don't mind, please could you...'.
- They refuse to be confined by societal expectations or limitations.
- They resist conforming to stereotypes, choosing instead to be true to themselves in their professional lives.
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James Constantine’s Answer

Hey there, Kaylee!

Ever wondered how a woman can thrive in a world that often seems to underestimate her worth? It might seem like a daunting task, but it's certainly not an impossible one. Here are some handy tips to help the everyday woman navigate her way to success in such a world:

1. Celebrate Your Uniqueness: You, as a woman, have a unique set of strengths and viewpoints. Cherish your femininity and the qualities that define you. Don't feel pressured to fit into society's mold of what a woman should be. Instead, concentrate on honing your skills and maximizing your potential.

2. Set Concrete Goals: Define clear goals for yourself and arrange them according to their importance to you. This will keep you on track and motivated, even when you encounter hurdles.

3. Create a Support Circle: Surround yourself with people who cheer you on. This could be family, friends, mentors, or coworkers. A strong support system can guide you through tough times and provide the motivation and advice you need.

4. Cultivate Resilience: Life is full of ups and downs, but resilience helps you bounce back. Develop coping mechanisms like positive self-talk, regular exercise, or meditation to help you handle adversity.

5. Be a Go-Getter: Don't wait for opportunities to knock on your door - make your own. Be proactive in seeking out new experiences, acquiring new skills, and taking risks. This will help you grow both professionally and personally, boosting your confidence and self-worth.

6. Master Communication: Enhance your communication skills to articulate your thoughts and needs effectively. Practice active listening to better comprehend others and forge stronger relationships.

7. Negotiate with Confidence: Learn to negotiate assertively and confidently to achieve what you want. This includes advocating for raises, promotions, or other forms of acknowledgment.

8. Prioritize Self-Care: Looking after your physical, emotional, and mental health is vital for success. Allocate time for self-care, regular exercise, and relaxation to maintain your overall well-being.

9. Seek Mentorship: Look for mentors and role models who can guide and inspire you. Draw lessons from their experiences and achievements, using them as a source of motivation and encouragement.

10. Keep Learning: Continually acquire new knowledge and skills to stay relevant. This will help you adapt to changing scenarios and remain competitive in the job market.

To sum it up, thriving as a woman in a world that often underestimates women requires resilience, determination, and a readiness to celebrate your unique identity and strengths. By setting clear goals, creating a support circle, and honing your communication and negotiation skills, you can surmount hurdles and realize your dreams.

Recommended Reads:

1. "The Confidence Code" by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman: This book offers valuable insights and strategies for boosting confidence and overcoming self-doubt.
2. "Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead" by Sheryl Sandberg: This book provides practical advice for women aspiring to succeed in their careers and personal lives.
3. "The Power of Self-Confidence" by Dr. Robert Schuller: This book is a comprehensive guide to building self-confidence and achieving success in all areas of life.

May you be blessed abundantly!
James.
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