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Marcella
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Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada
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What skills have helped you be successful as a therapist?
I'm thinking of becoming a therapist, specifically teen/youth therapy, and I was wondering if there are any specific skills that have helped you. Have you learnt these skills over time? Or are they skills that you seemed to have innately?
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Mrinalini Singh
Project Manager
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Bengaluru, Karnataka, India
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Mrinalini’s Answer
Hi Marcella,
I may not have personal experience, but if you're excited to move forward, I say go for it! Learning from your own experiences can often be the best teacher. Wishing you all the best!
I may not have personal experience, but if you're excited to move forward, I say go for it! Learning from your own experiences can often be the best teacher. Wishing you all the best!
This was really encouraging for me thank you!
Marcella
Chinyere Okafor
Educationist and Counseling Psychologist
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Port Harcourt, Rivers, Nigeria
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Chinyere’s Answer
Hi Marcella,
This is such an important question, because being a great therapist is less about “knowing everything” and more about how you show up with people. The truth is, it’s a mix of both: some qualities may come naturally, but the most important ones are developed and strengthened over time through training and real experience.
Active listening is one of the most important skills. understanding feelings, patterns, and nonverbal cues in addition to simply hearing what is being spoken. You will certainly develop this with practice.
Empathy with boundaries is another essential ability. While you must sincerely relate to your clients' emotions, you must also avoid becoming overly emotional. It takes time to learn how to care sincerely without being burnt out.
Self-awareness and emotional intelligence are also essential. In order to avoid interfering with the client's process, therapists continuously review their own responses, beliefs, and triggers. For this reason, a lot of therapists undergo their own therapy or supervision; it's an essential part of their development.
Patience and adaptability are important when working with teenagers and young people in particular. Young clients could be reluctant to open up, push boundaries, or communicate indirectly. You learn to meet people where they are, without pressuring them to do anything.
Communication clarity, or the ability to direct talks without taking over, explain complex emotions, and ask the proper questions, is another underappreciated skill. Also, a tolerance for sluggish growth is something that many people are unaware of. Therapy is not a fast-paced process. One of the qualities that makes someone productive is their ability to accept extended timeframes and modest victories.
Regarding your question as to whether these are learned or innate, the majority of therapists begin with a natural interest in people, but the real effectiveness comes from:
- Training
- Supervised practice
- Reflection and feedback
- Experience over time
Being "perfectly skilled" is not necessary for beginning this course. All you need is the will to always study, think, and develop. You have the basis if you already care about understanding and assisting others. The remainder is something you gradually build. It's a very positive sign that you're asking precisely the kind of questions that good therapists ask early on.
Best wishes!
This is such an important question, because being a great therapist is less about “knowing everything” and more about how you show up with people. The truth is, it’s a mix of both: some qualities may come naturally, but the most important ones are developed and strengthened over time through training and real experience.
Active listening is one of the most important skills. understanding feelings, patterns, and nonverbal cues in addition to simply hearing what is being spoken. You will certainly develop this with practice.
Empathy with boundaries is another essential ability. While you must sincerely relate to your clients' emotions, you must also avoid becoming overly emotional. It takes time to learn how to care sincerely without being burnt out.
Self-awareness and emotional intelligence are also essential. In order to avoid interfering with the client's process, therapists continuously review their own responses, beliefs, and triggers. For this reason, a lot of therapists undergo their own therapy or supervision; it's an essential part of their development.
Patience and adaptability are important when working with teenagers and young people in particular. Young clients could be reluctant to open up, push boundaries, or communicate indirectly. You learn to meet people where they are, without pressuring them to do anything.
Communication clarity, or the ability to direct talks without taking over, explain complex emotions, and ask the proper questions, is another underappreciated skill. Also, a tolerance for sluggish growth is something that many people are unaware of. Therapy is not a fast-paced process. One of the qualities that makes someone productive is their ability to accept extended timeframes and modest victories.
Regarding your question as to whether these are learned or innate, the majority of therapists begin with a natural interest in people, but the real effectiveness comes from:
- Training
- Supervised practice
- Reflection and feedback
- Experience over time
Being "perfectly skilled" is not necessary for beginning this course. All you need is the will to always study, think, and develop. You have the basis if you already care about understanding and assisting others. The remainder is something you gradually build. It's a very positive sign that you're asking precisely the kind of questions that good therapists ask early on.
Best wishes!
Thank you Chinyere for taking the time to answer so thoroughly! I really appreciate it. You’ve given me a lot to think through and reflect on, which was what I was hoping!
Marcella
You 're welcome!
Chinyere Okafor
Nancy Hamp
Clinical Counselor
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Chicago, Illinois
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Nancy’s Answer
Marcella,
Good question! Chinyere’s answer is great.
Regarding what skills are innate, a strong sense of ethics is very important. Strong verbal skills have helped me a great deal. The ability to set appropriate limits without undue guilt is necessary for a therapist’s wellbeing.
Learned skills include active listening, specific therapeutic techniques, how to address uncomfortable situations, and cross-cultural effectiveness . You can learn to be self-aware in a way that can help you be effective.
Note that you will have to report suspicion of child abuse and neglect in this field. It can be very hard to do as children sometimes fear backlash and parents may never forgive you. It’s a responsibility to take seriously.
This is a rewarding career, but appropriate boundaries are essential for success!
Good question! Chinyere’s answer is great.
Regarding what skills are innate, a strong sense of ethics is very important. Strong verbal skills have helped me a great deal. The ability to set appropriate limits without undue guilt is necessary for a therapist’s wellbeing.
Learned skills include active listening, specific therapeutic techniques, how to address uncomfortable situations, and cross-cultural effectiveness . You can learn to be self-aware in a way that can help you be effective.
Note that you will have to report suspicion of child abuse and neglect in this field. It can be very hard to do as children sometimes fear backlash and parents may never forgive you. It’s a responsibility to take seriously.
This is a rewarding career, but appropriate boundaries are essential for success!
Thank you so much Nancy! I appreciate it
Marcella
Sreedevi Krishnamurthy
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Sreedevi’s Answer
You can volunteer with NGOs that work with shelter homes or hospitals. This way, you can meet therapists or counselors there and build a network to help you take the next step toward becoming a therapist.
Thank you Sreedevi!
Marcella
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