If i want to be friends with someone at my job how could i let them think i am a nice guy and you can trust me not the guy you just have to throw under the bus?
I think that I am a very trusted person in my career and its following simple and basic life skills. Be a good/nice person. Don't get hung up on workplace gossip or rumors. Do your job and do it well. Be the best person you can be! In my opinion, if anyone asks you to do something that risks your life, and you don't want to do it, I.e. Fireman, policeman etc, then the job wasn't meant to be! Hope this helps! Good luck!
Always stay mindful of how the things you do and say effect other people. Develop your filter. Learn how to respond or act in a way that gets your desired reaction from your peers and coworkers.
Professionalism is the key and don't think trying to be friend with them. Learn how earn your respect and always be respectful. Be friendly and always have a positive energy with you. Once you achieve all, friend or not be friend is up to your take.
Top 10 ways to build a good relationship with your co-workers
Display a positive attitude: This contributes to a good atmosphere in the workplace. It also enables you to become approachable and will attract conversations from your co-workers. All great relationships start with that ﬁrst conversation!
Give a happy hello in the morning: Do you walk into the ofﬁce with your eyes downcast; shoulders slumped, and immediately start your work? If this is your behaviour, you may ﬁnd that your co-workers will, at best, ignore you, or at worst, avoid you. Get into the habit of smiling and greeting your colleagues. It’s amazing how far a little courtesy can go!
Return calls and e-mails promptly: There are few things more frustrating to a busy co-worker than having their emails and phone messages ignored. You want to avoid being in a position where you convey the unpleasant message that “You are unimportant to me.”
Accept a good-natured teasing: A sign of a good relationship is being able to have good fun together. Your co-workers might sometimes play jokes and tease you just to test what kind of person you are. As long as the teasing does not cross personal boundaries, don’t get angry. Show them you love a good joke – even if it is at your expense!
Build Trust: Trust and honesty are fuel for positive relationships. In some cases, honesty means admitting that you don’t know an answer or that you have made a mistake. Showing this side of your character sends the message a bout your honesty and integrity.
Help your co-workers whenever possible: Providing your knowledge and expertise in an area outside your job description is helpful to your co-workers. It is also a growth opportunity for you. Your helpfulness will likely be reciprocated when you ﬁnd yourself in need of assistance.
Respect cultural differences and different work styles: The work place is becoming more and more diverse. Your colleague’s style of communication and work may be different from your own. Always embrace an opportunity to learn from others. Respect and acknowledgement are essenti al elements of healthy relationships.
Show respect to all your co-workers: Respect is the foundation of positive relationships. When you show your co-workers respect, you will begin to understand the basis of their opinions, work habits, and beliefs. Understanding these differences helps prevent negative discussion or offensive conversations that can strain relationships.
Learn the art of small talk: Ask your co-workers about their interests – favourite music, movies, books and hobbies. Showing a genuine interest in them will make them feel comfortable around you. Once you know what excites your colleagues, you will be able to come up with great conversation starters and develop your inter-ofﬁce relationships.
Participate in office outings: If your ofﬁce doesn’t have outings, it should! Getting to know your colleagues outside the ofﬁce is a great experience. When you ﬁnd out that your ofﬁce administrator is in a band, or that your partner enjoys a good game of badminton, it helps build camaraderie. You will soon realise that you might have more in common with your colleagues than just working in the same organisation.
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Much success and all the best!
One of the mottos I live by in my professional and personal life is to treat people the way I would want to be treated. I try to return phone calls and emails in a timely manner because that's how I would want to be treated. I try to be professional in my mannerism and tone because I do not want my communication misinterpreted. I treat people with respect and sincerity. In the 14 years that I have been in the working field and ten years I have been Erving in my career, it has worked for me and I usually get along with my coworkers. Be the person that you would want to represent you if you were the leader of the team or company.