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Darlene
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what is something that is hard for you to deal with on an everyday basis weather inside or outside of work just in general as an adult, work? taxes? friend? especially as a nurse or doctor can it be hard for you to make other doctor friends??
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Angel Burns
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This is a great question. One of the challenges that adults have is probably balancing time and resources. Whether you have a family, a single household, or choose a certain industry to work in, learning how to prioritize becomes important. The really good news is that it gets better with time. There are a few ways that you can prepare for this : 1) Using your calendar to schedule life events in advance 2) Asking for help when you need it - don't be afraid to speak up for yourself 3) Give yourself grace. Sometimes , we don't have the best day and that's okay
Jerome Dees Jr.
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Good question! I’d say communication is difficult in a work environment. When you have different people with different cultures, backgrounds and experiences, having a shared viewpoint isn’t always easy.
Personally, just removing to control what I can. We spend a lot of time worrying about things we truly can’t control sometimes:
Personally, just removing to control what I can. We spend a lot of time worrying about things we truly can’t control sometimes:
Kim Igleheart
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What's hard for me to deal with is my extremely elderly parents, ages 86 and 89. They are "old school," so my Mom expects my Dad to handle all business matters, even though he has advanced dementia. She won't accept his medical condition, and, not only expects him to handle business matters, but talks to him using long complex sentences that he cannot possibly comprehend. No amount of talking to her will get her to understand. And, to make it worse, she and I don't get along, and, I'm a Daddy's girl. I'm 61. It would seem that by now life would have prepared me for this. However, other family members don't live nearby, so our family has never been around people with dementia. My Mom is ugly towards my Dad, but there's nothing I can do, as he won't leave her and come stay with me. It's painful to hear the way she talks to him, so I tend to stay away.
It's all pretty depressing, especially since I am so used to being in control, making decisions, and resolving problems.
Good question!!
It's all pretty depressing, especially since I am so used to being in control, making decisions, and resolving problems.
Good question!!
Hi Kim, thank you so much for sharing. This sounds incredibly difficult, and I'm sending you lots of positive energy. I'm sure this isn't easy to deal with, and I hope you're taking some time to self-care
Gurpreet Lally, Admin
Thanks Gurpreet, appreciate the support! Yes, self-care is important - I've reached "the bottom of the well" before - it's not a good place to be!
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Gregory Barclay, M.D., DLFAPA, FASAP
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Hi! Your questions mention life as a doctor, so I will answer from that perspective since I have been one for 40 years which makes me sound REALLY OLD (but I don't feel really old...!!).
I think the toughest issues to deal with for me, in my career as a physician (psychiatrist for much of it) has been the fact that some people I know and who are under my care get sicker in spite of everything I do for them, and some have committed suicide, while others have drifted further away from me and their families, drawn into the swirling black hole of addiction and severe mental illness. As a physician, if you treat sick patients, you must deal with death (and suicide, if a psychiatrist) and failure (and not necessarily your failure, but failure of the system or the inevitability of the outcome regardless of doing all the "right" things). But it is never easy. I will never forget my first patient suicide, for example, on September 12, 1985. I suspect many doctors can remember these details like they were yesterday, if you were to ask them.
So that is the hard part - while of course there have been innumerable experiences in which patients improved and we rejoiced in their recovery and new health. Those are the good moments.
To your other question - some of my dearest friends are physicians. We have been through the same experiences together so we do form friendships that are very special. It isn't hard to do this, since we spend a lot of time in training together, first in medical school and then in residency. Some of my dearest friends are from my residency days, 35-40 years ago. And since then, since doctors are members of medical staffs in hospitals and other organizations, I have made friends through those affiliations as well. But all that said, my dearest friend and soulmate is not a doctor, but she is my beloved wife, whom I have known now for 43 years and we have shared so much together - from the most ecstatic moments to the days and times of sheer despair, yet come through them together and stronger. So friendships are all about common experiences and being there for eachother even in the worst of times, regardless of whether you are a doctor.
I hope this offers some perspective and guidance. You ask a great question and I hope you find some good answers!
I think the toughest issues to deal with for me, in my career as a physician (psychiatrist for much of it) has been the fact that some people I know and who are under my care get sicker in spite of everything I do for them, and some have committed suicide, while others have drifted further away from me and their families, drawn into the swirling black hole of addiction and severe mental illness. As a physician, if you treat sick patients, you must deal with death (and suicide, if a psychiatrist) and failure (and not necessarily your failure, but failure of the system or the inevitability of the outcome regardless of doing all the "right" things). But it is never easy. I will never forget my first patient suicide, for example, on September 12, 1985. I suspect many doctors can remember these details like they were yesterday, if you were to ask them.
So that is the hard part - while of course there have been innumerable experiences in which patients improved and we rejoiced in their recovery and new health. Those are the good moments.
To your other question - some of my dearest friends are physicians. We have been through the same experiences together so we do form friendships that are very special. It isn't hard to do this, since we spend a lot of time in training together, first in medical school and then in residency. Some of my dearest friends are from my residency days, 35-40 years ago. And since then, since doctors are members of medical staffs in hospitals and other organizations, I have made friends through those affiliations as well. But all that said, my dearest friend and soulmate is not a doctor, but she is my beloved wife, whom I have known now for 43 years and we have shared so much together - from the most ecstatic moments to the days and times of sheer despair, yet come through them together and stronger. So friendships are all about common experiences and being there for eachother even in the worst of times, regardless of whether you are a doctor.
I hope this offers some perspective and guidance. You ask a great question and I hope you find some good answers!
Sylvester Mathias
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Many adults, including healthcare professionals like nurses and doctors, face various challenges on a daily basis. Here are a few common areas that can be difficult for some individuals:
1. Work-related stress: The demanding nature of healthcare professions can lead to high levels of stress. Balancing heavy workloads, long hours, and the responsibility of caring for patients can be challenging and emotionally draining.
2. Work-life balance: Finding a balance between work and personal life can be difficult, particularly in high-pressure jobs like nursing or being a doctor. Long hours and irregular shifts can make it challenging to prioritize self-care, relationships, and other personal commitments.
3. Emotional toll: Working in healthcare, especially in roles where you provide direct care to patients, can be emotionally challenging. Witnessing illness, suffering, and loss on a regular basis can take a toll on one's mental and emotional well-being.
4. Making friends in the same field: Forming and maintaining friendships with colleagues, especially in a highly specialized profession like medicine, can be challenging due to busy schedules and limited opportunities for socializing. However, finding support and camaraderie among peers in the healthcare field can be beneficial for professional and personal development.
5. Financial responsibilities: Managing finances, including understanding taxes and student loan debts, can be overwhelming for many adults. The complexity of tax laws or financial obligations may require seeking guidance from professionals or investing time in understanding personal finance.
It's important to recognize that everyone's experiences and challenges are unique. Seeking support from colleagues, friends, or professional networks can help navigate these difficulties. Additionally, self-care practices and maintaining a healthy work-life balance are crucial for overall well-being.
If you're facing specific challenges, it's always a good idea to reach out to fellow professionals, mentors, or seek professional guidance in the specific area of concern.
Remember, you're not alone, and support is available to help you navigate through difficult times.
1. Work-related stress: The demanding nature of healthcare professions can lead to high levels of stress. Balancing heavy workloads, long hours, and the responsibility of caring for patients can be challenging and emotionally draining.
2. Work-life balance: Finding a balance between work and personal life can be difficult, particularly in high-pressure jobs like nursing or being a doctor. Long hours and irregular shifts can make it challenging to prioritize self-care, relationships, and other personal commitments.
3. Emotional toll: Working in healthcare, especially in roles where you provide direct care to patients, can be emotionally challenging. Witnessing illness, suffering, and loss on a regular basis can take a toll on one's mental and emotional well-being.
4. Making friends in the same field: Forming and maintaining friendships with colleagues, especially in a highly specialized profession like medicine, can be challenging due to busy schedules and limited opportunities for socializing. However, finding support and camaraderie among peers in the healthcare field can be beneficial for professional and personal development.
5. Financial responsibilities: Managing finances, including understanding taxes and student loan debts, can be overwhelming for many adults. The complexity of tax laws or financial obligations may require seeking guidance from professionals or investing time in understanding personal finance.
It's important to recognize that everyone's experiences and challenges are unique. Seeking support from colleagues, friends, or professional networks can help navigate these difficulties. Additionally, self-care practices and maintaining a healthy work-life balance are crucial for overall well-being.
If you're facing specific challenges, it's always a good idea to reach out to fellow professionals, mentors, or seek professional guidance in the specific area of concern.
Remember, you're not alone, and support is available to help you navigate through difficult times.