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Do I really have to choose a career?
I don't find any careers appealing and I have no skills or interests.
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Doc’s Answer
While it is easy to pinpoint work benefits like a good salary or a flexible schedule as contributors to job satisfaction, your considerations should go deeper; your ideal career should also suit your personality. For example, a career that involves talking to people throughout the day may be a dream job for extroverts, but introverts may prefer working quietly on their own.
You may never know what you ‘want,’ (who truly does), but you definitely know what you like and the things that interest you. Look at how you spend your time. Look at what’s already under your nose. Look at what you spend most of your time thinking about/talking about/learning about. Chances are there will be a few main topics that rise to the top that get you really excited and energized to have conversations about. All of those personal interest areas have companies making products and services in that domain.
My no. 1 piece of advice is EXPLORE, EXPLORE, EXPLORE. Don’t let one potential job title or skill set constrain you. If you think an internship sounds interesting but isn’t what you expected to try, that’s OK! At this stage, you want to follow your instincts and try as much as you can. You don’t need to jump into a 12-week long program to get a taste of different roles. Externships, short-term courses, part-time work, and Forage job simulations can all give you inside views into different fields and career paths without having to tie yourself to a full-time job.
You may never know what you ‘want,’ (who truly does), but you definitely know what you like and the things that interest you. Look at how you spend your time. Look at what’s already under your nose. Look at what you spend most of your time thinking about/talking about/learning about. Chances are there will be a few main topics that rise to the top that get you really excited and energized to have conversations about. All of those personal interest areas have companies making products and services in that domain.
My no. 1 piece of advice is EXPLORE, EXPLORE, EXPLORE. Don’t let one potential job title or skill set constrain you. If you think an internship sounds interesting but isn’t what you expected to try, that’s OK! At this stage, you want to follow your instincts and try as much as you can. You don’t need to jump into a 12-week long program to get a taste of different roles. Externships, short-term courses, part-time work, and Forage job simulations can all give you inside views into different fields and career paths without having to tie yourself to a full-time job.
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Michelle’s Answer
Hi, Felix !
Most people do choose a career, however, you don't have to choose one now. You seem to have an interest in art modeling because you have asked a question about it in a different post. There seems to be an issue that you may need to explore about what you're experiencing if you are having feelings of no interest in anything at all and you think life is a waste of time. Not speaking, thinking or having any interests and not liking to learn has pretty much a root cause. You won't see a change unless you take active steps to resolve what is causing you to feel and be the way you've expressed.
You reached out here with another question about art modeling. You then ask if you have to choose a career - is this question just for confirmation that your feelings are right ? You are just going to have to choose a career when you want to. No one can tell you what to do, especially people who do not know you. If you don't talk, have no interests, don't think and don't want to learn, why do you care about reaching out here ? Something is motivating you to reach out for assistance for something other than a career. This needs to be explored.
Many times when people feel the way you do, it's because some event has changed them and they get settled into a comfort zone. No motivation, no interest and nothing changes. Just worse feelings. It's hard to get out of that comfort zone but you can break out of it if you are true to yourself, express exactly what is bothering you and reach out for in-person assistance to explore this.
If you want what you have now, do nothing. If you do not want what you have now, you're going to have to take active steps to resolve any issues that may be holding you back. This will have to be done with a counselor in person or a social worker, not on this website. Where you're at right now will take some time to see change, but you will need to be ready to do it and initiate the first step towards counseling or whatever appropriate assistance so that your root issue can be effectively addressed.
I wish you all the best. Don't hesitate to take that first step.
Most people do choose a career, however, you don't have to choose one now. You seem to have an interest in art modeling because you have asked a question about it in a different post. There seems to be an issue that you may need to explore about what you're experiencing if you are having feelings of no interest in anything at all and you think life is a waste of time. Not speaking, thinking or having any interests and not liking to learn has pretty much a root cause. You won't see a change unless you take active steps to resolve what is causing you to feel and be the way you've expressed.
You reached out here with another question about art modeling. You then ask if you have to choose a career - is this question just for confirmation that your feelings are right ? You are just going to have to choose a career when you want to. No one can tell you what to do, especially people who do not know you. If you don't talk, have no interests, don't think and don't want to learn, why do you care about reaching out here ? Something is motivating you to reach out for assistance for something other than a career. This needs to be explored.
Many times when people feel the way you do, it's because some event has changed them and they get settled into a comfort zone. No motivation, no interest and nothing changes. Just worse feelings. It's hard to get out of that comfort zone but you can break out of it if you are true to yourself, express exactly what is bothering you and reach out for in-person assistance to explore this.
If you want what you have now, do nothing. If you do not want what you have now, you're going to have to take active steps to resolve any issues that may be holding you back. This will have to be done with a counselor in person or a social worker, not on this website. Where you're at right now will take some time to see change, but you will need to be ready to do it and initiate the first step towards counseling or whatever appropriate assistance so that your root issue can be effectively addressed.
I wish you all the best. Don't hesitate to take that first step.
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Nishita’s Answer
Hi Felix! Thank you for your question. It is normal to not know what you want to do but the only way to know is to not be afraid to try anything and everything! When I was 12 years old, I would look at design magazines and have the urge to never put them down. Eventually, I applied for summer courses at Universities and realized that everything about design made me happy. Work and school never felt stressful or overwhelming. As you're a student, take classes that you have no idea about like psychology, 3D modeling, art - really anything that you don't have much knowledge about. Pick a new hobby each month and do your best to spend time learning it. Either you will love it or hate it and you can continue it or pick a new hobby the following month. Challenging yourself to step outside your comfort zone is important - how will you know until you try it? Good luck to you! I hope you find something that makes you happy and gets you excited very soon.
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Dilawar’s Answer
Hi Flix,
You must choose a career because you have to do something for living and serve. If you can't finding interest then explore the things you have little interest in which may develope your interst and become you know more about the things well. You need to discuss with experts about the career oportunities they are already seeking. Thanks
You must choose a career because you have to do something for living and serve. If you can't finding interest then explore the things you have little interest in which may develope your interst and become you know more about the things well. You need to discuss with experts about the career oportunities they are already seeking. Thanks
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Dr’s Answer
Hey Felix! I totally get where you're coming from. It can feel overwhelming or even frustrating when you don’t feel motivated or interested in anything at all. You’re not alone in this—many people go through phases like this, especially when there’s pressure to pick a career or figure out what to do next. Here’s the thing, though: there’s no rush.
It sounds like you're in a place where you're unsure of what excites you, and that’s okay. Everyone’s path is different, and not having a clear passion or direction right now doesn’t mean you’re falling behind. It might just mean you're in a season of exploration, even if you don’t feel like actively exploring at the moment.
Here’s what might help:
### 1. **No Need to Decide Right Away**
You don’t have to choose a career right now if you’re not ready. Careers aren’t one-size-fits-all, and you don’t have to make that choice until you feel like you’re in a place where you understand yourself and what you want. And guess what? Even adults change careers, so you’re not locked into a decision forever!
### 2. **Explore Without Expectations**
It sounds like you might be feeling a bit stuck. Sometimes, taking small steps to try new things without the pressure of making it "the one" thing can be refreshing. Maybe take on a simple job in retail or fast food like you mentioned, but also give yourself permission to not be fully invested in it yet. You're not committing forever—just dipping your toes into the water.
### 3. **Start Small**
If trying new things feels overwhelming, just start with small, easy-to-access activities—watch a documentary on something you’ve never thought about before, play around with a hobby (even something low-stakes like doodling, gaming, or cooking). You don't have to love it right away, but sometimes even just a little distraction can lead to new insights about what makes you tick.
### 4. **Be Kind to Yourself**
It’s okay to not be motivated right now. Your feelings are valid, and sometimes taking the pressure off yourself can help you move forward at your own pace. You don't have to have everything figured out—this is just a chapter of your life.
### 5. **Talk It Out**
Sometimes when you're feeling disconnected, talking to someone can help. It doesn’t have to be a career coach or counselor, but just sharing your thoughts with a friend, family member, or someone you trust could bring new perspectives.
It's all part of the process. One step at a time, and before you know it, you might stumble across something that sparks a little curiosity or interest, even if it’s not a "big life-changing moment."
You’ve got this! Don’t feel like you’re alone in this—lots of people go through periods of feeling unmotivated, and they eventually find their way when the time is right.
It sounds like you're in a place where you're unsure of what excites you, and that’s okay. Everyone’s path is different, and not having a clear passion or direction right now doesn’t mean you’re falling behind. It might just mean you're in a season of exploration, even if you don’t feel like actively exploring at the moment.
Here’s what might help:
### 1. **No Need to Decide Right Away**
You don’t have to choose a career right now if you’re not ready. Careers aren’t one-size-fits-all, and you don’t have to make that choice until you feel like you’re in a place where you understand yourself and what you want. And guess what? Even adults change careers, so you’re not locked into a decision forever!
### 2. **Explore Without Expectations**
It sounds like you might be feeling a bit stuck. Sometimes, taking small steps to try new things without the pressure of making it "the one" thing can be refreshing. Maybe take on a simple job in retail or fast food like you mentioned, but also give yourself permission to not be fully invested in it yet. You're not committing forever—just dipping your toes into the water.
### 3. **Start Small**
If trying new things feels overwhelming, just start with small, easy-to-access activities—watch a documentary on something you’ve never thought about before, play around with a hobby (even something low-stakes like doodling, gaming, or cooking). You don't have to love it right away, but sometimes even just a little distraction can lead to new insights about what makes you tick.
### 4. **Be Kind to Yourself**
It’s okay to not be motivated right now. Your feelings are valid, and sometimes taking the pressure off yourself can help you move forward at your own pace. You don't have to have everything figured out—this is just a chapter of your life.
### 5. **Talk It Out**
Sometimes when you're feeling disconnected, talking to someone can help. It doesn’t have to be a career coach or counselor, but just sharing your thoughts with a friend, family member, or someone you trust could bring new perspectives.
It's all part of the process. One step at a time, and before you know it, you might stumble across something that sparks a little curiosity or interest, even if it’s not a "big life-changing moment."
You’ve got this! Don’t feel like you’re alone in this—lots of people go through periods of feeling unmotivated, and they eventually find their way when the time is right.
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Jerome’s Answer
Where do you want to be when you get older? I grew up in a pretty rough area and knew I wanted more than what was around me. That pushed me to do some pretty fun things over time I didn't think were possible.
If you are content to work retail and get by, there is nothing wrong with that.
If you are content to work retail and get by, there is nothing wrong with that.