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How can I improve my people skills? How do I form healthy relationships at work or in general?

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Alfred’s Answer

Hey Yash! Improving your soft skills or people skills is definitely important for any career you decide to pursue. Knowing how to communicate and work well in a team environment will serve you well in your job or in any relationship. I think a big part of improving people skills is being a great listener. It's important to recognize how everyone is human and is figuring things out just like you and it's good to assume the best intentions from others. Being able to give constructive feedback and also take it from others, asking questions in nicer ways, showing open body language when in person, and acknowledging others' successes and mistakes in a respectful manner can make a huge difference. Also when it comes to work, it's good to talk about other things outside of the day to day job and to show genuine interest for others' lives and to also share your own story. It's good to smile, laugh, and enjoy things with others - things don't always have to be serious either at work, but it's important to stay kind and respectful of other people's boundaries. Those are some good areas to start :)

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Aarush’s Answer

Hi Yash,

That's a great question. It can be hard sometimes to form quality / health relationships. What I'd advice is whatever environment you find yourself in just try make sure you make an effort to get to know someone and care about what they have to say. Try not to be very self-centered. Always good to have a discussion with someone on something you both agree on rather than opposite views. Try to find something you have in common with them.

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Zachary’s Answer

Hi Yash! Both of the answers Jasanpreet and Alfred wrote are fantastic. Becoming an active/engaged listener is extremely helpful, paying more attention about what your body language is saying, and acknowledging/celebrating other's successes is huge. I, however, would like to touch on how to work on those skills. Typically, I recommend people divide their practice into two segments, study and application. Although there are plenty I could recommend, one of the most impactful books that many people in sales and business have read is "How to Win Friends and Influence People", by Dale Carnegie. You can buy a copy on Amazon for less than $10. Studying this book will make a huge difference in your life, regardless of the path you take.

The next step is the application and this is where most people become uncomfortable, but, as with all types of personal growth, you become more and more comfortable as you do it more and more. Set up a 30-day challenge for yourself with the goal being: "Meet one new person per day and learn something interesting about them." Go ahead and write it down on a sheet of paper and make the following columns: "Date"; "Day #___"; "Name"; "Interesting Fact/Story"; "Where We Met". Now, take that sheet of paper every where you go. Some days it will be as easy as bumping into someone waiting in line, or in an Uber/on a bus. Other days it will be harder, and those are the most important days. You might have to walk to a local store and talk to a cashier or even just knock on your neighbors door, but you need to do it. You'd be surprised who you'll meet and what you'll learn over those next 30 days.

Follow these steps and you'll be on your way to communication mastery and people skills most will never have!

"When you face your fear, most of the time you will discover that is was not really such a big threat after all. We all need some form of deeply rooted, powerful motivation - it empowers us to overcome obstacles so we can live our dreams." ~Les Brown~

Zachary recommends the following next steps:

Buy "How to Win Friends and Influence People" and read it. It doesn't have to be in one sitting, but make sure you read a certain amount of pages every day no matter what time of night it is. 10 minutes of sleep is no where near as valuable as personal growth.
Set up your 30-day challenge with the goal being: "Meet one new person per day and learn something interesting about them"
Start your challenge and follow it through
Don't stop reading, learning, and practicing
Live your best life every day!

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Jasanpreet Kaur’s Answer

I would say read and stay updated with respect to the topics of your interest. Also, you should be familiar with what is going on in news now a days. Whenever you have to interact with someone it is either you find a common topic of interest or you can just start a conversation of what is going on in news at present along with what is your call on it (Means your views).

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