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Does your personal life affect if you can be a Marriage counsellor or Family counsellor?

Asked Richmond, Virginia

I'm interested in marriage/family counselling. I'm just wondering how important the quality of your own relationships are if you're helping others with their relationships? #psychology #therapy #clinical-psychology #family-therapy #personality #marriage-therapist

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Lauren J.’s Answer

Updated Utica, Michigan
Hi Emma! When we meet with clients, it is never about us. However, sometimes our own issues can be triggered by what our client shares with us. Sometimes this is okay because it makes us more empathetic toward our client and his or her experiences. But sometimes it interferes with our ability to be non-judgemental and non-biased toward our client. It is important that as counselors we are not trying to help others simply to fill a void we have in ourselves. This doesn't necessarily mean that you have to have the perfect relationships and family because we are human too! It simply means that if you have not yet dealt with any emotional baggage or difficult relationships in your own life, it might be a good idea to work on that before you start seeing clients. And, because we can never truly know if we have worked through everything ourselves and we don't really know what might trigger us in the future, it is important to actively engage in supervision while you are counseling, so that you can discuss any counter-transference you might experience when working as a counselor! Best wishes!