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How can controlling my anger benefit me?

i have serious anger issues and i want to calm it down and control it but its so hard to. #anger #Mental-health #Disability #Personal-development

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Zahid’s Answer

"Controlling your anger will help you feel more in control and able to deal with various situations you face. You will learn how to deal with your feelings better and more effectively. In addition, you should experience improvements in relationships such as less fighting and better communication. You should feel better physically, feeling less stress and fewer physiological symptoms associated with anger. Feeling better and using your anger constructively will also allow you to focus your energies on things that are important to you, giving you a greater sense of accomplishment and purpose." - Dr. Jeanne Morrison

Controlling your anger has a lot of benefits at personal and professional level. Not only will it help you think more clearly and calmly but be better at communicating with other, which may prevent one from resorting to physical violence.

Some can have intermittent explosive anger issues and may continue yelling about the mishap. They might even break other things. The worst scenario is if someone else spilled the milk or broke the dish, then the anger is directed toward them and can result in violence.

If one doesn't learn to control their anger then it can lead to serious issues, such as:
* Physical aggressiveness such as hitting or pushing others
* Damaging property
* You have been told that you need help more than once
* Road rage
* You have gotten in trouble at school or work for your anger outbursts
* Verbal abuse
* You break things, slam doors, throw things, hit walls
* You scream and yell
* Racing thoughts
* You feel overwhelmed
* You have thoughts of hurting yourself or someone else
* You have lost friends or loved ones over your angry outbursts
* You get physical symptoms such as chest pain, headaches, high blood pressure, heart palpitations, tingling anywhere in the body, dizziness, fatigue, or pressure in the head or sinuses

Fortunately there are ways to learn to control one's anger, it can range from helpful tips to try out to taking classes like martial arts that teach you self control to even anger management therapy.
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Naomi’s Answer

I applaud you for recognizing this is something that you need to work on and seeking guidance. I think it's important that you find a therapist or trusted confidant that you can be real and say your true feelings without fear of judgment or retaliation. While working with someone, you might be able to find your triggers and learn ways to pause. Maybe this includes taking a few deep breaths, counting to 10, taking a drink of water, going for a quick walk, asking if the conversation can be continued at another time, etc. Good luck in your journey.
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Jen’s Answer

It's good that you are admitting you have anger issues. Many schools have resources that can help you. I would find a therapist (perhaps a school social worker) to teach you tools to help manage your anger. Find one that you trust and be open with that person.
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Lauren’s Answer

To control my emotions, I do a video journal every day where I check in and talk about the issues I am having. I come up with a motto for the day like, "Don't feed into negativity." and sometimes I even write this down on my wrist where I can see it all day. I take my mental health really seriously and communicate it with someone who I know can help, like a therapist or a person I trust. I do something that's very me, and get back to the core of who I am, like go skateboarding or snowboarding. It helps to have people you can surround yourself with who make you laugh and bring out the best in you. Consider dropping people who bring out that angry side.
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Misty’s Answer

Controlling your anger is not easy, but you can through different outlets such as working out, meditation, binge watch movies on Netflix or a go to movie or song that makes you laugh....find an outlet that makes you worn out so your anger subsides. Once you do that you'll get to the point that you'll recognize when you're about to boil over and step back before you lose control.

Getting angry never leads to making the right decision. Benefits include being a trusted leader among your peers & leadership in a business. No one wants to work with someone that loses control often and bosses won't look to promote you if you constantly get angry.

Plus getting angry makes you stress more and no one wants to have added stress.

Benefits will come after you control your anger through other avenues and recognizing your anger before it gets out of control will help you grow as a person and professionally.
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Alana’s Answer

I think controlling your anger will keep you and others safe. Also it can keep you from making an impulsive and possibly regrettable decision. I suggest finding an outlet for your anger rather than keeping it bottled in. For me, sometimes it's a cry, other times, I aggressively work out, I write in my journal, or I find something to shift my emotions, such as my favorite comedy show or hit up my brother who always knows how to make me laugh. Another great outlet is hitting the punching bag at the gym or even your pillow. Anything that doesn't result to damage to yourself or anyone else.
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Randi’s Answer

Once you learn to control your anger you will be able to move forward with different aspects of your life depending on where you want to go. Find an outlet for when you find yourself to be angry- like working out, writing, meditation, sound healing.
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Racheal’s Answer

Hi Shamar,
Thank you for being vulnerable and open about your issue with anger.
Give that you are not a client of anyone who answers this post, I want to be clear that I am only providing education on what anger is, the impact and what resources are available to support you.
Anger is an emotion like happy sad or even envy. In most cases anger is a secondary emotion to what's really going on.
Anger can cause impact to the cardiovascular system, digestive system and even sleep rhythm for many people. This would include, high blood pressure, stroke, insomnia due to worrying and ruminating thoughts, and poor appetite or recurrent binge eating .
If you considered the long-term effects that are impacted the mind and body, it can be a sign that it's time to include some resources to help regulate your emotions of anger. Other areas of uour live can be impacted such as social wellness (sabotaging relationships) or possibly losing a job if unable to be professional at work.
These resources include anger management support groups, exercise, hobbies and mental health health individual services. The mental health provides will assess you to determine if you are at risk for harm to self or others as well as determine if you need a higher level of care for added support.
I hope you are able to use some of the resource mentioned to assist you long-term.
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Joana’s Answer

Hi Shamar,

First thing I applauded you identifying an issue you are facing. I would suggest you find something that calms you down. Maybe closing your eyes and count down from 10 to 0. Finding a peaceful location in your mind.
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