How do I grow my self confidence in order to talk to new people?
College is all about starting a new chapter in your life. You may go off to a different state or even internationally in order to get your education.
Inevitably, this means leaving behind old friends in high school. As a shy person I was wondering how one may go about building up some self confidence in order to get to a point when starting conversations with strangers doesn't feel as horrifying. And as a result, making new friends.
As Jennifer mentioned, some people are naturally good at starting conversations and some people need to work at it. It is daunting at first, but the more you do it, the easier it gets. There are plenty of conversation starters like the weather or complimenting people on their outfit.
The great thing about starting college or starting at a new place in general is that you get a clean slate and you can decide who you want to be and what you want to be known for. You are not the only one who is feeling nervous since there are hundreds if not thousands of people at your college campus who is in the same boat.
Haylie recommends the following next steps:
I'm impressed that you have a level of self-awareness to recognize this is an area you would like to improve. Personally, I believe building relationships takes time. Giving yourself time might relieve a little anxiety built up at the mere thought of conversations with strangers. When you have the opportunity to sit back, listen and observe people you see regularly, in and out of the classroom, you might notice things you have in common. Seeing commonalities helps move people from the "stranger" category and possibly give you some general things to talk about with ease.
You've reached out to strangers in career village. You have a desire to connect. I believe you will!
Start small. Find one new person that has similar interests as you and then the both of you can meet new people and build your self confidence.
A lot of people seem to naturally be confident while other have to work at it, which is completely normal. Good news is some self esteem and confidence improves with age and life experiences. Getting out in to the real world after High school is your first step.
Jennifer recommends the following next steps: