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How do I move forward in life?
I'm at a point in my junior year of high school where everything about college, career, and life feels way too serious. I honestly don't know what to do with myself. For some reason, there seem to be too many options after high school, and I'm not even sure where to start with college applications, where to apply, what to write, or what to consider. I feel stopped in my tracks.
For some context, I'm not depressed, and I have a vague idea of being in medicine, my grades are alright, and I have decent extracurriculars. I just think I'm following some kind of formula. Now that I'm at a point where I really have to think for myself and what I want, it's overwhelming.
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Jocelyn’s Answer
Hello! I understand that thinking about your future can feel overwhelming and a bit scary. But remember, you have so many exciting options ahead! Why not start by visiting some colleges, even those close to home? If you're unsure about what major to pick, community college can be a fantastic place to explore your interests.
Volunteering is another great way to discover what you enjoy. Consider helping out with organizations like the American Red Cross. You can get involved in activities like assisting at blood drives, doing administrative tasks, or helping with marketing efforts. These experiences can give you a taste of different fields.
Take your time to research potential career paths. Watching "day in the life" videos of people in various jobs can also give you a better idea of what you might like.
The internet is full of information, and it can be a lot to take in. But don't let that discourage you! Keep exploring, and I wish you the very best on your journey!
Volunteering is another great way to discover what you enjoy. Consider helping out with organizations like the American Red Cross. You can get involved in activities like assisting at blood drives, doing administrative tasks, or helping with marketing efforts. These experiences can give you a taste of different fields.
Take your time to research potential career paths. Watching "day in the life" videos of people in various jobs can also give you a better idea of what you might like.
The internet is full of information, and it can be a lot to take in. But don't let that discourage you! Keep exploring, and I wish you the very best on your journey!
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Michelle’s Answer
Hello again, Compassion !
I am happy to share more advice with you as I did earlier today. It's great that you're expressing true concerns !
Well, firstly, you are not alone. So many other students do share your same sentiments. All it means is that everyone has a different time for their college and career plans and discover them when they are ready. You are already interested in Art, Literature and Medical fields and that is a good start, but you must use your intuition for the timing. Things may change during your senior year and it's perfectly fine to engage in the art and literature endeavors right now. Give yourself some time to capture the things you are drawn to now and do not compare yourself with others. Things will happen, inspiration will come if you trust the time it needs.
It sounds like you need to do the things that you most enjoy and I am in full support of that. High School should be enjoyable, a time to start discovering who you are and who you want to be. As a junior in high school, there is no harm in living in the moment. I believe that the feelings you are having are telling you something and you should be true to yourself with it. You are reacting to societal expectations as we all do, but you have choices and are in control of this.
It's great that you're involved in extracurriculars currently and even great if they are connected to your interests of art, literature and medical subjects. Just keep doing what you're doing. Things change from year to year and you may feel inspired next year or the year after. It's perfectly okay.
For now, take your art to the next level and branch out socially by connecting with San Francisco Art and Film programs for your age group. I left a link to their website below. This could possibly take your mind off the pressures you're experiencing and a great way to meet new people. Don't be like me who sat on a desire to go into Acting and waited till she was 18 ! Also think about volunteering in any capacity at a hospital to actually discover if you really do want a medically related career. This will all fall into place for you if you use patience and keep staying honest with yourself.
I hope this is reassuring and I wish you all the best in all you do !
SAN FRANCISCO ART AND FILM PROGRAM FOR TEENS https://artandfilm.org/
I am happy to share more advice with you as I did earlier today. It's great that you're expressing true concerns !
Well, firstly, you are not alone. So many other students do share your same sentiments. All it means is that everyone has a different time for their college and career plans and discover them when they are ready. You are already interested in Art, Literature and Medical fields and that is a good start, but you must use your intuition for the timing. Things may change during your senior year and it's perfectly fine to engage in the art and literature endeavors right now. Give yourself some time to capture the things you are drawn to now and do not compare yourself with others. Things will happen, inspiration will come if you trust the time it needs.
It sounds like you need to do the things that you most enjoy and I am in full support of that. High School should be enjoyable, a time to start discovering who you are and who you want to be. As a junior in high school, there is no harm in living in the moment. I believe that the feelings you are having are telling you something and you should be true to yourself with it. You are reacting to societal expectations as we all do, but you have choices and are in control of this.
It's great that you're involved in extracurriculars currently and even great if they are connected to your interests of art, literature and medical subjects. Just keep doing what you're doing. Things change from year to year and you may feel inspired next year or the year after. It's perfectly okay.
For now, take your art to the next level and branch out socially by connecting with San Francisco Art and Film programs for your age group. I left a link to their website below. This could possibly take your mind off the pressures you're experiencing and a great way to meet new people. Don't be like me who sat on a desire to go into Acting and waited till she was 18 ! Also think about volunteering in any capacity at a hospital to actually discover if you really do want a medically related career. This will all fall into place for you if you use patience and keep staying honest with yourself.
I hope this is reassuring and I wish you all the best in all you do !
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Elizabeth’s Answer
You're right that a lot of schooling up to this point feels like you're just following a formula - take this, pass that, you're required to have X number of math classes, etc. So trying to figure something out on your own for the first time can be scary and overwhelming! Your feelings are valid.
If you don't know where to start, see if any local colleges or universities have open house days where you can visit a bunch of the degrees/majors and learn about them. You might find yourself really interested in a few specific majors that you can then deep-dive.
Also think about what you enjoy doing. Which extra curriculars are your favorite, and why? Can any of those become careers? If not, can any of the reasons why you enjoy those activities lead you to a career? Perhaps you enjoy it for the social aspect - look into careers where you will be working with people day in and out. Or if you're in something like debate club and love preparing arguments with facts, perhaps look into Law options. Use your enjoyed activities to help inform possible career choices.
There are also possibilities to start at a university with an "undecided" major and you can try to narrow down in your first year when you are taking your pre-requisite classes. While this may be a more expensive option, it can also be really helpful if you still haven't figured out what major you want to pursue when it comes time to send in applications!
If you don't know where to start, see if any local colleges or universities have open house days where you can visit a bunch of the degrees/majors and learn about them. You might find yourself really interested in a few specific majors that you can then deep-dive.
Also think about what you enjoy doing. Which extra curriculars are your favorite, and why? Can any of those become careers? If not, can any of the reasons why you enjoy those activities lead you to a career? Perhaps you enjoy it for the social aspect - look into careers where you will be working with people day in and out. Or if you're in something like debate club and love preparing arguments with facts, perhaps look into Law options. Use your enjoyed activities to help inform possible career choices.
There are also possibilities to start at a university with an "undecided" major and you can try to narrow down in your first year when you are taking your pre-requisite classes. While this may be a more expensive option, it can also be really helpful if you still haven't figured out what major you want to pursue when it comes time to send in applications!
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Alex’s Answer
Hey there - I totally understand your feeling. When I graduated from high school, I didn't have a clear idea of what to do. I just knew I wanted to do something around languages. I went to college undecided, declared a major in linguistics, and then switched in my junior year to cognitive science. When I graduated, I still didn't have a good idea of what to do, so I spend a fair amount of time looking around trying to figure out what to do, still. In retrospect, I wish I'd had a better idea of what I was doing and why before I went to college.
The other advice that's here is all solid, and you'd do well to consider it all, but there's a chance you'll end up like me: 4 years later, with a degree and still no real idea what to do. Many students, especially in Europe, take a gap year - a chance to get out in the real world and see what matters to you. You might consider volunteering with organizations like Americorps or the Peace Corps, or travelling on the cheap by doing work-stays through WWOOF. Since you are interested in medicine, you might consider getting an entry-level job or internship in a medical office to get a better feel of what it means. Many hospitals look for volunteers to help move patients around, for example.
If you choose to go this route, I would highly recommend setting some guidelines for yourself. It's hard to know what to expect before embarking on a big journey, so set a date with yourself to see how you are feeling in 6 months and at a year. How have these experiences changed you? Do you feel like you know what the next few steps will be? Do you feel ready for school, or do you want to keep learning more about the world first-hand?
The other advice that's here is all solid, and you'd do well to consider it all, but there's a chance you'll end up like me: 4 years later, with a degree and still no real idea what to do. Many students, especially in Europe, take a gap year - a chance to get out in the real world and see what matters to you. You might consider volunteering with organizations like Americorps or the Peace Corps, or travelling on the cheap by doing work-stays through WWOOF. Since you are interested in medicine, you might consider getting an entry-level job or internship in a medical office to get a better feel of what it means. Many hospitals look for volunteers to help move patients around, for example.
If you choose to go this route, I would highly recommend setting some guidelines for yourself. It's hard to know what to expect before embarking on a big journey, so set a date with yourself to see how you are feeling in 6 months and at a year. How have these experiences changed you? Do you feel like you know what the next few steps will be? Do you feel ready for school, or do you want to keep learning more about the world first-hand?
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David’s Answer
It’s completely normal to feel overwhelmed during your junior year of high school, especially when thinking about college, career, and life beyond. This is a big transition, and it’s okay to feel uncertain. Here’s some advice to help you navigate this time and find clarity:
1. Break It Down into Smaller Steps
The college and career process can feel overwhelming because it’s a lot to think about all at once. Break it into smaller, manageable tasks:
Research colleges: Start with a broad list of schools that interest you (e.g., size, location, programs). Use tools like College Board, Niche, or Naviance to explore options.
Focus on your interests: Since you’re considering medicine, look for schools with strong pre-med or science programs.
Create a timeline: Map out deadlines for applications, essays, and standardized tests (if needed).
Taking small steps will help you feel more in control.
2. Explore Your Interests
You mentioned a vague interest in medicine. That’s a great starting point! Dive deeper:
Shadow a doctor, volunteer at a hospital, or talk to people in the medical field to see if it’s truly a fit.
Consider related fields like biomedical research, public health, or medical technology.
If you’re unsure about medicine, that’s okay too. Use this time to explore other interests through classes, clubs, or internships.
3. Reflect on What Makes You Happy
The question “What makes you happy?” can feel abstract, but it’s worth exploring. Ask yourself:
What activities or subjects make you lose track of time?
What problems or issues do you feel passionate about solving?
What kind of work environment do you see yourself thriving in (e.g., hands-on, collaborative, creative)?
You don’t need to have all the answers right now, but reflecting on these questions can help guide your decisions.
4. Don’t Follow a Formula
It’s easy to feel like you’re just checking boxes (grades, extracurriculars, etc.), but this is your life, not a formula. Think about what you want, not just what you think you should do.
For example:
If you’re passionate about a specific cause, consider how your career or college experience could align with that.
If you’re unsure about medicine, don’t feel pressured to commit to it just yet. Many students change their majors in college.
5. Talk to People
You don’t have to figure this out alone. Reach out to:
School counselors: They can help with college applications and career planning.
Mentors or teachers: They can offer advice based on their experiences.
Family and friends: Sometimes, talking to people who know you well can help clarify your thoughts.
College students or professionals: Ask about their paths and what they wish they’d known at your age.
6. Embrace the Uncertainty
It’s okay not to have everything figured out. Many people change careers multiple times in their lives. College is a time to explore and grow, not to have all the answers.
Focus on finding a path that feels right for now, knowing that you can always adjust later.
7. Start with College Essays
If you’re stuck on what to write about, think about:
A meaningful experience that shaped who you are.
A challenge you overcame and what you learned from it.
A passion or interest that drives you.
Your essays don’t need to be perfect—just authentic. Start with a rough draft and revise as you go.
8. Take Care of Yourself
This process can be stressful, so make sure to prioritize your mental and physical health:
Take breaks when you need them.
Stay organized to avoid last-minute stress.
Remember that this is just one chapter of your life—it doesn’t define your entire future.
9. Think Long-Term, But Stay Present
It’s great to think about the future, but don’t forget to enjoy where you are right now. High school is a unique time in your life, and it’s important to balance planning with living in the moment.
10. Remember: You’re Not Alone
Almost every high school student feels this way at some point. You’re not behind, and you’re not failing. You’re just figuring things out, and that’s okay.
You don’t need to have everything figured out right now. Focus on taking small steps, exploring your interests, and staying true to yourself. The fact that you’re thinking deeply about these questions shows that you care, and that’s a great sign. Trust that you’ll find your way, even if it takes time. You’ve got this!
1. Break It Down into Smaller Steps
The college and career process can feel overwhelming because it’s a lot to think about all at once. Break it into smaller, manageable tasks:
Research colleges: Start with a broad list of schools that interest you (e.g., size, location, programs). Use tools like College Board, Niche, or Naviance to explore options.
Focus on your interests: Since you’re considering medicine, look for schools with strong pre-med or science programs.
Create a timeline: Map out deadlines for applications, essays, and standardized tests (if needed).
Taking small steps will help you feel more in control.
2. Explore Your Interests
You mentioned a vague interest in medicine. That’s a great starting point! Dive deeper:
Shadow a doctor, volunteer at a hospital, or talk to people in the medical field to see if it’s truly a fit.
Consider related fields like biomedical research, public health, or medical technology.
If you’re unsure about medicine, that’s okay too. Use this time to explore other interests through classes, clubs, or internships.
3. Reflect on What Makes You Happy
The question “What makes you happy?” can feel abstract, but it’s worth exploring. Ask yourself:
What activities or subjects make you lose track of time?
What problems or issues do you feel passionate about solving?
What kind of work environment do you see yourself thriving in (e.g., hands-on, collaborative, creative)?
You don’t need to have all the answers right now, but reflecting on these questions can help guide your decisions.
4. Don’t Follow a Formula
It’s easy to feel like you’re just checking boxes (grades, extracurriculars, etc.), but this is your life, not a formula. Think about what you want, not just what you think you should do.
For example:
If you’re passionate about a specific cause, consider how your career or college experience could align with that.
If you’re unsure about medicine, don’t feel pressured to commit to it just yet. Many students change their majors in college.
5. Talk to People
You don’t have to figure this out alone. Reach out to:
School counselors: They can help with college applications and career planning.
Mentors or teachers: They can offer advice based on their experiences.
Family and friends: Sometimes, talking to people who know you well can help clarify your thoughts.
College students or professionals: Ask about their paths and what they wish they’d known at your age.
6. Embrace the Uncertainty
It’s okay not to have everything figured out. Many people change careers multiple times in their lives. College is a time to explore and grow, not to have all the answers.
Focus on finding a path that feels right for now, knowing that you can always adjust later.
7. Start with College Essays
If you’re stuck on what to write about, think about:
A meaningful experience that shaped who you are.
A challenge you overcame and what you learned from it.
A passion or interest that drives you.
Your essays don’t need to be perfect—just authentic. Start with a rough draft and revise as you go.
8. Take Care of Yourself
This process can be stressful, so make sure to prioritize your mental and physical health:
Take breaks when you need them.
Stay organized to avoid last-minute stress.
Remember that this is just one chapter of your life—it doesn’t define your entire future.
9. Think Long-Term, But Stay Present
It’s great to think about the future, but don’t forget to enjoy where you are right now. High school is a unique time in your life, and it’s important to balance planning with living in the moment.
10. Remember: You’re Not Alone
Almost every high school student feels this way at some point. You’re not behind, and you’re not failing. You’re just figuring things out, and that’s okay.
You don’t need to have everything figured out right now. Focus on taking small steps, exploring your interests, and staying true to yourself. The fact that you’re thinking deeply about these questions shows that you care, and that’s a great sign. Trust that you’ll find your way, even if it takes time. You’ve got this!