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Lei
Student
Fushun, Liaoning, China
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What should I do for my family and myself?
My job is web developer but I am not interested in it.
I don't know how to do for the future.
Why is it so? I think it's because I am not good at it.
And the important thing is that I have a chance to change my job.
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Mayank Bhasin
Product Leader
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London, England, United Kingdom
Updated
Mayank’s Answer
You're Not Alone — Here's a Path Forward
First of all, thank you for sharing your thoughts so openly. Many people—more than you might think—find themselves in a similar place: working in a job they’re not passionate about, feeling uncertain about the future, and questioning their abilities. The good news is, you're already asking the right questions, and that’s a powerful first step.
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings Without Judgment
It’s okay to feel disconnected from your current job. Not enjoying your work doesn’t mean you’re not good at it. Sometimes, we confuse lack of passion with lack of skill. But they’re not the same. You might be perfectly capable, but your heart just isn’t in it—and that’s valid.
2. Reflect on What Truly Matters to You
Ask yourself:
What activities make me feel energized or fulfilled?
What kind of work would I do even if I weren’t paid for it?
What values do I want my work to reflect?
This kind of self-reflection can help you identify a direction that aligns more closely with your interests and strengths.
3. Explore the Opportunity to Change
You mentioned you have a chance to change your job. That’s a big deal! Before making a leap:
Research the new field or role. Talk to people in that industry.
Assess your transferable skills. As a web developer, you likely have problem-solving, logical thinking, and technical skills that are valuable in many other roles.
Consider upskilling if needed—online courses, certifications, or mentorship can help bridge the gap.
4. Think Long-Term, But Act Short-Term
You don’t need to have your entire future figured out right now. Focus on the next right step. That could be:
Taking a course in a field you’re curious about
Volunteering or freelancing in a new area
Talking to a career coach or mentor
Small steps can lead to big changes over time.
5. Take Care of Your Family and Yourself
Your well-being and your family’s stability are important. If you’re considering a job change, plan financially and emotionally. Talk to your loved ones. Their support can make a big difference.
6. Believe in Your Ability to Grow
Not being good at something yet doesn’t mean you can’t become great at it. Growth comes from curiosity, effort, and persistence—not just natural talent.
Final Thought: You’re not stuck. You’re at a turning point. And that’s a powerful place to be. Trust yourself, take your time, and remember: it’s okay to change direction. Your future is still being written—and you hold the pen.
First of all, thank you for sharing your thoughts so openly. Many people—more than you might think—find themselves in a similar place: working in a job they’re not passionate about, feeling uncertain about the future, and questioning their abilities. The good news is, you're already asking the right questions, and that’s a powerful first step.
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings Without Judgment
It’s okay to feel disconnected from your current job. Not enjoying your work doesn’t mean you’re not good at it. Sometimes, we confuse lack of passion with lack of skill. But they’re not the same. You might be perfectly capable, but your heart just isn’t in it—and that’s valid.
2. Reflect on What Truly Matters to You
Ask yourself:
What activities make me feel energized or fulfilled?
What kind of work would I do even if I weren’t paid for it?
What values do I want my work to reflect?
This kind of self-reflection can help you identify a direction that aligns more closely with your interests and strengths.
3. Explore the Opportunity to Change
You mentioned you have a chance to change your job. That’s a big deal! Before making a leap:
Research the new field or role. Talk to people in that industry.
Assess your transferable skills. As a web developer, you likely have problem-solving, logical thinking, and technical skills that are valuable in many other roles.
Consider upskilling if needed—online courses, certifications, or mentorship can help bridge the gap.
4. Think Long-Term, But Act Short-Term
You don’t need to have your entire future figured out right now. Focus on the next right step. That could be:
Taking a course in a field you’re curious about
Volunteering or freelancing in a new area
Talking to a career coach or mentor
Small steps can lead to big changes over time.
5. Take Care of Your Family and Yourself
Your well-being and your family’s stability are important. If you’re considering a job change, plan financially and emotionally. Talk to your loved ones. Their support can make a big difference.
6. Believe in Your Ability to Grow
Not being good at something yet doesn’t mean you can’t become great at it. Growth comes from curiosity, effort, and persistence—not just natural talent.
Final Thought: You’re not stuck. You’re at a turning point. And that’s a powerful place to be. Trust yourself, take your time, and remember: it’s okay to change direction. Your future is still being written—and you hold the pen.
Thank you for your advice. That is the big help for me now.
Lei
Happy to chat about and support you in your Journey, thank you!
Mayank Bhasin
Patrick Meyer
Executive - Data Analytics and AI
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Naperville, Illinois
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Patrick’s Answer
Lei, please know that it is completely okay to feel unsure about your future, especially when your current job doesn’t bring you fulfillment. If you’re working as a web developer but feel disconnected from the work or believe you're not good at it, that’s a sign worth paying attention to. Not as a failure, but as an opportunity for growth. What matters most now is that you recognize this feeling and are thinking seriously about what’s next, not just for yourself but also for your family.
First, you should take some time to reflect on what truly interests you. Ask yourself, what kind of work makes you feel energized or proud? Think about your strengths. Try not to limit yourself by focusing just on your technical skills, but personal qualities like creativity, problem-solving, communication, or leadership. You might find that your talents are better suited to a different field entirely. That’s okay. You don’t need to have everything figured out right away, but exploring new possibilities is a powerful first step.
It’s also important to be honest with your family and involve them in your journey. Changing careers can feel risky, but it can also bring long-term happiness and stability if you move toward something that fits you better. Your family will likely support you more than you think, especially if they see that this change could lead to a better life for all of you.
The fact that you have a chance to change your job is incredibly important and rare. Don’t let fear or self-doubt hold you back. This is a moment to take seriously and act on with purpose. Look into training, certifications, or even mentorships in areas that interest you. Reach out to people who are doing work you admire. And remember: being unsure doesn’t mean you’re lost. it just means you’re ready for something better. Use this moment as a turning point. Your future is still in your hands, and this could be the beginning of a path that brings both personal satisfaction and a better life for your family.
First, you should take some time to reflect on what truly interests you. Ask yourself, what kind of work makes you feel energized or proud? Think about your strengths. Try not to limit yourself by focusing just on your technical skills, but personal qualities like creativity, problem-solving, communication, or leadership. You might find that your talents are better suited to a different field entirely. That’s okay. You don’t need to have everything figured out right away, but exploring new possibilities is a powerful first step.
It’s also important to be honest with your family and involve them in your journey. Changing careers can feel risky, but it can also bring long-term happiness and stability if you move toward something that fits you better. Your family will likely support you more than you think, especially if they see that this change could lead to a better life for all of you.
The fact that you have a chance to change your job is incredibly important and rare. Don’t let fear or self-doubt hold you back. This is a moment to take seriously and act on with purpose. Look into training, certifications, or even mentorships in areas that interest you. Reach out to people who are doing work you admire. And remember: being unsure doesn’t mean you’re lost. it just means you’re ready for something better. Use this moment as a turning point. Your future is still in your hands, and this could be the beginning of a path that brings both personal satisfaction and a better life for your family.
Chinyere Okafor
Educationist and Counseling Psychologist
1205
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Port Harcourt, Rivers, Nigeria
Updated
Chinyere’s Answer
Hello Lei,
I appreciate you being so open about your opinions, Lei. Feeling uneasy is quite OK, particularly if your work isn't fulfilling. This is a common phase that doesn't necessarily indicate a lack of talent; occasionally, the fit is simply off.
This could be a great opportunity for you and your family to progress if you feel that web development isn't your passion or strength, and you have the chance to shift jobs. Think about what you genuinely appreciate or what inspires you first. Do you find particular projects, subjects, or kinds of work particularly motivating? Are you looking for a more hands-on, creative, people-focused, or structured role?
You might look into professions that better fit your skills and interests. Before making a significant move, think about taking short online courses or doing informational interviews with people in occupations that interest you.
Additionally, think about how your present abilities, such as problem-solving, careful attention to detail, or project management from web development, can be applied to a different line of work. Although it may seem risky to change, there are emotional and mental costs associated with continuing in a job that drains you over time. Finding a job path that provides balance and happiness can have a major effect on your motivation and general well-being, both for you and your family. It's never too late to make a significant change, and you're not alone.
Best wishes!
I appreciate you being so open about your opinions, Lei. Feeling uneasy is quite OK, particularly if your work isn't fulfilling. This is a common phase that doesn't necessarily indicate a lack of talent; occasionally, the fit is simply off.
This could be a great opportunity for you and your family to progress if you feel that web development isn't your passion or strength, and you have the chance to shift jobs. Think about what you genuinely appreciate or what inspires you first. Do you find particular projects, subjects, or kinds of work particularly motivating? Are you looking for a more hands-on, creative, people-focused, or structured role?
You might look into professions that better fit your skills and interests. Before making a significant move, think about taking short online courses or doing informational interviews with people in occupations that interest you.
Additionally, think about how your present abilities, such as problem-solving, careful attention to detail, or project management from web development, can be applied to a different line of work. Although it may seem risky to change, there are emotional and mental costs associated with continuing in a job that drains you over time. Finding a job path that provides balance and happiness can have a major effect on your motivation and general well-being, both for you and your family. It's never too late to make a significant change, and you're not alone.
Best wishes!
Claire Upham
Technology Consultant
3
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Houston, Texas
Updated
Claire’s Answer
Finding out what doesn't interest you is just as impactful as finding what you are interested in. I bet you are selling yourself very short that you are not good at your current job. Really evaluate your current day-to-day and found what gets you excited. Mentors are also extremely helpful within your organization. Reach out to people you work with now, or in the past, to get their applicable advice. You probably have a ton of great technical and soft skills that you can use to propel you into your next career move. You got this!
Thank you for your good advice.
Lei
Dorina Protea
Change Manager
5
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Timișoara, Timiș County, Romania
Updated
Dorina’s Answer
Hi there,
It’s completely okay to feel uncertain about your path, especially when your current job doesn’t spark your interest. The fact that you’re thinking about your family and your future shows that you care deeply—and that’s a strength .
Start by asking yourself: What kind of work energizes me? What tasks or topics make me curious, even if I’m not an expert yet?
If you have many ideas in your head, just write them down, that is the most honest way to see them clearly.
You mentioned you have the chance to change the job. For example, when I'm about to change something (job, apartment, locations etc) I always create a list with positive | negative things about that.
The new job might feel overwhelming at first but allow yourself some time.. usually from 6 months to 1 year is the period you figure out if you are suitable in a role or not.
It’s completely okay to feel uncertain about your path, especially when your current job doesn’t spark your interest. The fact that you’re thinking about your family and your future shows that you care deeply—and that’s a strength .
Start by asking yourself: What kind of work energizes me? What tasks or topics make me curious, even if I’m not an expert yet?
If you have many ideas in your head, just write them down, that is the most honest way to see them clearly.
You mentioned you have the chance to change the job. For example, when I'm about to change something (job, apartment, locations etc) I always create a list with positive | negative things about that.
The new job might feel overwhelming at first but allow yourself some time.. usually from 6 months to 1 year is the period you figure out if you are suitable in a role or not.
Thank you for your advice.
Lei
Jennifer Bloomquist- CIPP/US/E, CIPM
Risk Specialist for Privacy and Confidentiality Impact Accessments
11
Answers
Clarksville, Tennessee
Updated
Jennifer’s Answer
Hi Lei,
What you're feeling about your job is something I have felt too. It's really common and valid to feel that way. Asking others for advice is a positive step toward figuring out what you are going to do in the future. I have completely changed careers a few times, and a lot of different feelings came up. Those feelings were hard to work through and understand. Try as much as you're able to be gentle with yourself. This situation is difficult at times. Acknowledging that your needs aren't being met in your current situation can feel like a heavy burden to bear, especially when your family depends on you. If that's what you're feeling (or any other difficult feeling), it's ok to feel that way. Here are some things to consider:
-- What is it about the current job that you don't like? Is it the work itself? The culture of the company? Do you need more or less social interaction than what your current job provides? Is the physical environment stressful such as the lights are too bright/not bright enough, you're sitting in a distracting place in the office where it's difficult to concentrate? You mentioned that you don't think you're good at your job. Reflect on if that feeling is coming from comparing yourself with your coworkers or a struggle with the work itself. Knowing the answers to some of these questions may help you understand if what you need is a different profession vs. needing to work at a different company or a different department of the same company.
-- Think through the amount of money you earn now vs. what your family needs. If you feel you need to change careers altogether, brainstorm and research the beginning salary/wage for potential career choices that you think you would feel more satisfied doing.
-- Find a certification with an exam you can take in whatever profession you're seeking to obtain. Search for a certification that doesn't have prerequisites of having worked in the field for a certain number of years or having completed coursework that you can't realistically do if you're mid-career and if you can't go back to school full time. This is what I did to change careers. It forced me to learn the base knowledge required in the new field. Passing the test means that a future employer can have confidence that the job seeker knows the content and has dedicated time learning how to do the job. This approach can be much more feasible than returning to formal coursework.
--Reflect on your transferrable skills. Things like being a good communicator, being organized, managing projects, writing well, being good at analyzing, being a fast learner, and many other transferrable skills can make a resume for someone changing careers stand out compared to other people who have little or no experience in the field.
--If there is a particular company for which you want to work, search their open job positions. If there is a position isn't 100% what you want to do but you think the requirements of the job are something you can do, apply for the job. If the company is a good fit, after some time, an opening might happen for the job you really want. In the meantime, you can build connections at the company, build a good reputation, and keep an income flow for your family. It's generally easier to get a job when you already have a job vs. when you're unemployed.
I wish you all the best!
Jennifer
What you're feeling about your job is something I have felt too. It's really common and valid to feel that way. Asking others for advice is a positive step toward figuring out what you are going to do in the future. I have completely changed careers a few times, and a lot of different feelings came up. Those feelings were hard to work through and understand. Try as much as you're able to be gentle with yourself. This situation is difficult at times. Acknowledging that your needs aren't being met in your current situation can feel like a heavy burden to bear, especially when your family depends on you. If that's what you're feeling (or any other difficult feeling), it's ok to feel that way. Here are some things to consider:
-- What is it about the current job that you don't like? Is it the work itself? The culture of the company? Do you need more or less social interaction than what your current job provides? Is the physical environment stressful such as the lights are too bright/not bright enough, you're sitting in a distracting place in the office where it's difficult to concentrate? You mentioned that you don't think you're good at your job. Reflect on if that feeling is coming from comparing yourself with your coworkers or a struggle with the work itself. Knowing the answers to some of these questions may help you understand if what you need is a different profession vs. needing to work at a different company or a different department of the same company.
-- Think through the amount of money you earn now vs. what your family needs. If you feel you need to change careers altogether, brainstorm and research the beginning salary/wage for potential career choices that you think you would feel more satisfied doing.
-- Find a certification with an exam you can take in whatever profession you're seeking to obtain. Search for a certification that doesn't have prerequisites of having worked in the field for a certain number of years or having completed coursework that you can't realistically do if you're mid-career and if you can't go back to school full time. This is what I did to change careers. It forced me to learn the base knowledge required in the new field. Passing the test means that a future employer can have confidence that the job seeker knows the content and has dedicated time learning how to do the job. This approach can be much more feasible than returning to formal coursework.
--Reflect on your transferrable skills. Things like being a good communicator, being organized, managing projects, writing well, being good at analyzing, being a fast learner, and many other transferrable skills can make a resume for someone changing careers stand out compared to other people who have little or no experience in the field.
--If there is a particular company for which you want to work, search their open job positions. If there is a position isn't 100% what you want to do but you think the requirements of the job are something you can do, apply for the job. If the company is a good fit, after some time, an opening might happen for the job you really want. In the meantime, you can build connections at the company, build a good reputation, and keep an income flow for your family. It's generally easier to get a job when you already have a job vs. when you're unemployed.
I wish you all the best!
Jennifer
Syeda Sharmin Akter
Auditor
1
Answer
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
Updated
Syeda Sharmin’s Answer
It's completely normal to feel this way, and I've felt it too. Take your time to explore different paths and find what makes you feel confident and happy. A break might be helpful. Discover what you're truly passionate about, and I believe your family will support you once they see you happy and fulfilled.
Radha Karthik
5
Answers
Updated
Radha’s Answer
It is totally okay to feel the way that you do. I think it is important for you to understand why you feel the way you do.
If you truly think you do not like the job that you do, then it would be good to consider a career switch. For that you should spend some time to understand what it is that you do like to do- For example, think back to what excites you, what your strengths are. If you are interested in something, i would recommed upskilling- Take additional courses online or attend school to complete your degree. Sometimes doing an internship is helpful too. Alternatively, i would say if your current job offers opportunities to switch within ( try different roles), you should go for that too
These are pretty lofty decisions, so you should consider carefully what is best for you!
If you truly think you do not like the job that you do, then it would be good to consider a career switch. For that you should spend some time to understand what it is that you do like to do- For example, think back to what excites you, what your strengths are. If you are interested in something, i would recommed upskilling- Take additional courses online or attend school to complete your degree. Sometimes doing an internship is helpful too. Alternatively, i would say if your current job offers opportunities to switch within ( try different roles), you should go for that too
These are pretty lofty decisions, so you should consider carefully what is best for you!
Kassy Hall
Learning & Development Specialist; Program Manager
3
Answers
Escalon, California
Updated
Kassy’s Answer
Hi Lei,
You are already steps ahead by recognizing that your heart isn't in it. Thank you for being so honest as it is not easy. As someone who has also changed career paths after identifying that I wasn't happy, I can tell you that making a change for something more aligned with your interests will make a greater, more positive change than you can imagine.
I would start with taking time to sit down and think about the actions, tasks, and outcomes that motivate you. What feels energizing? What are things that would leave you feeling rewarded? On the opposite end, what would de-energize and deflate you? Of course not every job or career is going to be perfect every single day, but if you find something that holds more positive sentiments and meaning, it will make a huge impact on your happiness.
When you make decisions that impact your happiness that will trickle down to your family as well. The lovely thing about jobs is that you can always make a move. If your next choice isn't the right one, sit down and try again! Take care of you!
Best wishes!
You are already steps ahead by recognizing that your heart isn't in it. Thank you for being so honest as it is not easy. As someone who has also changed career paths after identifying that I wasn't happy, I can tell you that making a change for something more aligned with your interests will make a greater, more positive change than you can imagine.
I would start with taking time to sit down and think about the actions, tasks, and outcomes that motivate you. What feels energizing? What are things that would leave you feeling rewarded? On the opposite end, what would de-energize and deflate you? Of course not every job or career is going to be perfect every single day, but if you find something that holds more positive sentiments and meaning, it will make a huge impact on your happiness.
When you make decisions that impact your happiness that will trickle down to your family as well. The lovely thing about jobs is that you can always make a move. If your next choice isn't the right one, sit down and try again! Take care of you!
Best wishes!
Stephen S
5
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Dallas, Texas
Updated
Stephen’s Answer
You will likely have multiple jobs and careers in your work lifetime - it would be unusual if you didn't. One piece of advice I share with younger professionals is that it is okay to not "love" your job....just like your job. In fact, just like your job 70% of the time and that is success! No job is perfect and work is still work, but simply liking your job is a positive thing. If you find yourself not liking anything about your job, then it is probably time to explore other options. There is no better time to look for a job than when you have a job!
Good luck!
Good luck!
Shreya Toliya
Oracle HCM Cloud Consultant
30
Answers
Green Bay, Wisconsin
Updated
Shreya’s Answer
If you’re not interested in web development, it’s okay to consider a change. Reflect on what you enjoy and your strengths, research new career options, and talk with your family about your plans. Start exploring other fields while still working, and take small steps toward a new path. Remember, lack of interest doesn’t mean lack of ability—you can find a better fit for yourself.
Savyata Gomden
Software Engineer
47
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Dallas, Texas
Updated
Savyata’s Answer
Thank you for sharing your feelings—it's completely normal to question your path, especially when you want the best for your family and yourself. Many people feel uncertain about their careers at some point, and it doesn’t mean you’re not good at what you do. Sometimes, interests and passions simply change.
Here are a few encouraging steps:
- **Reflect on what excites you:** Think about what activities or subjects make you feel energized or fulfilled.
- **Talk to your family:** Share your thoughts and listen to their support and ideas.
- **Explore new opportunities:** Since you have a chance to change jobs, research fields that interest you and consider what skills you already have that can transfer.
- **Believe in yourself:** Skills can be learned and improved. Your willingness to grow is a strength!
Change can be scary, but it’s also a chance for a fresh start. You’re not alone, and taking small steps toward what feels right for you is a great way forward. Wishing you courage and clarity on your journey!
Here are a few encouraging steps:
- **Reflect on what excites you:** Think about what activities or subjects make you feel energized or fulfilled.
- **Talk to your family:** Share your thoughts and listen to their support and ideas.
- **Explore new opportunities:** Since you have a chance to change jobs, research fields that interest you and consider what skills you already have that can transfer.
- **Believe in yourself:** Skills can be learned and improved. Your willingness to grow is a strength!
Change can be scary, but it’s also a chance for a fresh start. You’re not alone, and taking small steps toward what feels right for you is a great way forward. Wishing you courage and clarity on your journey!
Rebecca Tang
Banking
2431
Answers
Hong Kong
Updated
Rebecca’s Answer
Thank you for your question. How about you sit down and think carefully the carers you have interest.
Below are my suggestions :
1. Think you your interest, eg your hobbies, favourite subjects, etc and identify the related careers
Eg if you like maths, would you like to be an accountant, engineer, banker, financial analyst, maths teacher, etc
If you have interest in music, would you like to be a musician, singer, musical artist, music composer, etc
2. Find out more on these careers and determine what you have interest
3. Speak to someone who are working in these careers. Seek guidance from your mentor or anyone who can give you some advice.
4. Shortlist 1-2 careers you would like to pursue
5. Explore the requirements to enter the career and hie do you obtain the relevant qualifications.
6. Plan about how you can transit from your existing career to the new one
Hope this helps! Good luck!
May Almighty God bless you!
Below are my suggestions :
1. Think you your interest, eg your hobbies, favourite subjects, etc and identify the related careers
Eg if you like maths, would you like to be an accountant, engineer, banker, financial analyst, maths teacher, etc
If you have interest in music, would you like to be a musician, singer, musical artist, music composer, etc
2. Find out more on these careers and determine what you have interest
3. Speak to someone who are working in these careers. Seek guidance from your mentor or anyone who can give you some advice.
4. Shortlist 1-2 careers you would like to pursue
5. Explore the requirements to enter the career and hie do you obtain the relevant qualifications.
6. Plan about how you can transit from your existing career to the new one
Hope this helps! Good luck!
May Almighty God bless you!