Anxiety in college
Lately I’ve been stressing about college because of my social anxiety. I can barely talk in front of people. But I’m great at interviewing and I do have good friends. Is college a good place for me? #college #collegeanxiety #collegesocialanxiety #socialanxiety #college-advice #student
Veronica is right. The more you do it, the easier it gets. I started actually teaching classes at the age of 47 - something I would never have seen coming! I would encourage you to join a group so you get involved in some activities. You can do voter registration drives, sell sodas at the school carnival, etc. Sometimes it's easier talking to people if you are acting out a role, rather than being yourself. Eventually, with some of these people, you might have some conversations of a personal nature, but, at first it is all "business."
Although I had this same type of shyness, I became a police officer. The uniform gave me instant "credibility" (it was a long time ago!) and people would listen. When I retired, and found another job that had no uniform, I was terrified! Why are people going to listen to me? And the reason they did, after a while, was because I was knowledgeable about the topic I was speaking on, and, I spoke from the heart. I knew what it was like to be unemployed and looking for work, and was able to "connect" with people.
I encourage you to learn to confront weaknesses head on. It will help you to get ahead. Inability to do public speaking holds many people back. There is an organization called Toastmasters/Toastmistresses, where people practice public speaking. I encourage you to look into it.
Finally, if your anxiety is severe, you may seek medical help. If you are one to shun pills (which I totally understand), then you may want to research holistic treatment options, such as vitamins and the meditation previously mentioned.
I totally relate to the social anxiety. I am an introvert so I need alone time to recharge. It is draining to me to be "out there" all the time interacting with others. I suggest you take time and meditate for at least 5 minutes a day to calm the mind with the goal of building on that time. It also helps me to keep in mind that everyone feels anxiety from time to time I'm not unique and it will pass. College for me was an experience I'm glad I had - it gave me time to discover myself and start to find my 'voice.' I encourage you to 'go for it' and "fake it till you make it" - much of success is merely showing up and ready for the experience. Your confidence in your ability to socialize will increase as you walk through the fear and do it repeatedly. You can set a goal to talk to one new person a day - even if its merely to say "Hi" and ask them how their day is going. Much peace and luck to you.
Veronica recommends the following next steps:
You might also consider a small school. Big campuses, big dorms, and big classes can be intimidating.
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Ken recommends the following next steps: