I dont like my major but my parents refuse to let me change it.
so, I'm inthe middle of my first year at medical school. Last semester i realized that maybe this isnt the path for me. I'm really bad at some of the subjects and I ended up failing one of my major classes. I started to look for another career alternatives . One of them was foreign languages or international relations (I love learning new languages and the thought of working as an embassador or smth like that really resonates with me) so, I told my mom (she is paying most of my college fees) and told me that i was confused and that no other degree would get me the job oppotunities that a medical degree gives, but i dont feel the same passion all my friends feel towards medicine and i feel lost right now, i really dont know what to do. #medicine #major #h #college-major
This is a difficult predicament to be in. My first question for you is, did you think you wanted to be in medicine prior to it getting tough? That is, you need to really decide if this is a case of you wanting to quit because the going is a little harder than you expected, or, is this really something that's not for you? This is a very important question. You will always have adversities to face in life. Running from a difficulty is not the way to learn to deal with it. You have to learn to tackle these things, head-on.
If you've already had that conversation with yourself, and you think medicine REALLY isn't for you, then there are family/cultural issues to face. If you quit, is it simply a matter that your mom will no longer fund your education, or, will you be forever shunned by the family? While we might think, "oh, I don't need them," it gets mighty lonely during the holidays with no place to call home.
Is there some aspect of medicine that you can go into, rather than being a doctor? Perhaps Radiology, pathology, etc? I know some sales people with medical backgrounds - they sell things like neurostimulators, medications, etc, and are very successful. Perhaps finding a related field will keep both your family and you happy?
I do NOT advocate taking a career that you do not want, simply to keep peace in the family. But, you need to understand the potential consequences, including financial, and be prepared to address them. I recommend you seek out a school counselor and discuss this with them.
I wish you the best as you try to sort through this!
I would recommend this. Find a career counselor, someone in your college, perhaps and employment advisor, and get hold of a Personality Assessment Survey. This is a general term for a test that asks a whole bunch of normal and weird questions, possibly multiple-choice, that will analyze your personality and preferences for matching those of people who are happy and successful in various careers. You will end up with a list of occupations you're probably well-suited for. I'd say a lot of people are tired of me repeating this, but I always tell my students that you'll likely be good at what you enjoy, and you'll likely enjoy what you're good at. And happy and competent workers make everyone happier and better.
Take these results and this list of occupations and see if any of them look like something your parents would be happy with. Or you may even be surprised that the list includes some things you never thought of, or even that overlap with what your current major is, but seems like a lot more well-suited to you.
This is a practical and effective way of making everyone happy. You have nothing to lose by taking this test (one example is called "RIASEC"), and it will likely be fun and informative.
This must be really difficult for you. Getting into a medical school is no easy task, so I hope you give yourself lots of credit! I personally believe that enjoyment should be one of the biggest priorities when deciding your major, or a career path, for that matter. I wonder if speaking with a faculty member or program director at your school/program is an option, because chances are that they've experienced a similar situation with at least one of their students previously. If not, speaking with a school counsellor confidentially about your difficulties could help you put your thoughts in perspective. They might also be able to help you figure out which major or career choices would be the best fit for you. Let me know if you have any questions.