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How do I motivate myself to try hard when no one else is motivating nor inspiring me to try.
I try to motivate people in my life to see my friends and family succeed in life. I also try to make my friends happy, even if it makes me sad. #career #job
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Chiranjib’s Answer
Know this. Life is not supposed to be easy. Life is supposed to teach us valuable lessons at every step and if we falter, expect consequences.
All of us need to have a purpose in life. A goal. An ambition. What is it that you would like to become? Who would you like to be? Think about it, if you have not thought of it yet.
It is easy to get demotivated. It is easy to lose focus. And that is exactly why we need to work hard. That is exactly why we need to identify a goal and put our heart and soul into it.
Personally, I have used simple techniques to stay focused.
1. I have used a simple stopwatch to measure how much time I can stay focused on a task. The first day, I was able to clock 15 minutes, the next day it improved and gradually I could clock a lot better.
2. I have written my goals on a piece of paper, kept the goals SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, time-bound), and mentioned by when I want to achieve each goal. I have put that somewhere that I can see every day and kept at it.
3. Be consistent with activities. If 4 hours a day is not possible, start with 15 minutes a day. Some effort is always better than no effort.
4. Be clear with what you want to achieve. Don't change your ambition too often. One day you want to become an actor, the next day you want to become a doctor, it doesn't work that way. Take as much time as you need to identify your goal, but once identified, do not change it easily.
It's great that you try to help out friends and family and try to keep them motivated, but the best way to do so is to set an example with your own life. One gets easily motivated by someone who they look up to. So, if you have your own career set and if you are successful, it would be easy for you to motivate others. People will start listening to your advice and thoughts.
So be focussed, be successful, start with yourself! All the best!
All of us need to have a purpose in life. A goal. An ambition. What is it that you would like to become? Who would you like to be? Think about it, if you have not thought of it yet.
It is easy to get demotivated. It is easy to lose focus. And that is exactly why we need to work hard. That is exactly why we need to identify a goal and put our heart and soul into it.
Personally, I have used simple techniques to stay focused.
1. I have used a simple stopwatch to measure how much time I can stay focused on a task. The first day, I was able to clock 15 minutes, the next day it improved and gradually I could clock a lot better.
2. I have written my goals on a piece of paper, kept the goals SMART (specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, time-bound), and mentioned by when I want to achieve each goal. I have put that somewhere that I can see every day and kept at it.
3. Be consistent with activities. If 4 hours a day is not possible, start with 15 minutes a day. Some effort is always better than no effort.
4. Be clear with what you want to achieve. Don't change your ambition too often. One day you want to become an actor, the next day you want to become a doctor, it doesn't work that way. Take as much time as you need to identify your goal, but once identified, do not change it easily.
It's great that you try to help out friends and family and try to keep them motivated, but the best way to do so is to set an example with your own life. One gets easily motivated by someone who they look up to. So, if you have your own career set and if you are successful, it would be easy for you to motivate others. People will start listening to your advice and thoughts.
So be focussed, be successful, start with yourself! All the best!
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James’s Answer
Hi Xavier!
Motivation is something many people struggle with. And finding great advice for it is difficult, because it can be different for every person. Self reflection is going to be necessary to uncover what truly motivates you. One exercise I like to do every few months is write down what I think I am great at, and what things I need to really improve on. I take some quiet time alone with no external distraction like TV or radio and use that time reflect on who I am, and who I want to be. I have found that doing this reveals a few different goals I can set for myself, and the motivation to achieve them builds pretty quickly. When I achieve any of the goals I have set for myself, I take time to reflect on why that was a goal, everything I had to do to achieve it, and what other ways I can challenge myself around that. Taking the time to think through how and why I achieved that goal gives even more motivation to accomplish the next one.
Good luck!
Motivation is something many people struggle with. And finding great advice for it is difficult, because it can be different for every person. Self reflection is going to be necessary to uncover what truly motivates you. One exercise I like to do every few months is write down what I think I am great at, and what things I need to really improve on. I take some quiet time alone with no external distraction like TV or radio and use that time reflect on who I am, and who I want to be. I have found that doing this reveals a few different goals I can set for myself, and the motivation to achieve them builds pretty quickly. When I achieve any of the goals I have set for myself, I take time to reflect on why that was a goal, everything I had to do to achieve it, and what other ways I can challenge myself around that. Taking the time to think through how and why I achieved that goal gives even more motivation to accomplish the next one.
Good luck!
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ELEXUS’s Answer
You motivate yourself to try hard by remembering your goals. Keep pushing and it will always pay off in the end. No matter what anyone else does keep going. Also, never put anyones happiness before your own. You have to take care of yourself before you can help others.
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Marie’s Answer
Being self motivated is difficult but you can do it!!
What are your goals? (house, car, family)
-See the picture (vision boards are great to see what it is your are striving for)
-Map out the path to get there
-Mark off the milestones to track your progress
-Enjoy the success!!
What are your goals? (house, car, family)
-See the picture (vision boards are great to see what it is your are striving for)
-Map out the path to get there
-Mark off the milestones to track your progress
-Enjoy the success!!
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Joe’s Answer
Lead by example. If you are motivated to succeed and to be happy, which it sounds like you are, then I believe the best way to try and motivate other people, is by simply doing what you would do anyway. Sometimes motivation can be contagious and one thing I learned early in life, many things must come from within and not from someone else. Set goals, and continue to try and achieve them. Goals are critical in life, whether it be in your career or in your personal life.
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Sheila’s Answer
Hi Xavier:
Set goals no matter how big or small and what it will take to accomplish them. Surround yourself with positive energy without allowing negative influences into your space. . . Best of luck to you!
~ Sheila
Set goals no matter how big or small and what it will take to accomplish them. Surround yourself with positive energy without allowing negative influences into your space. . . Best of luck to you!
~ Sheila
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Gloria’s Answer
Hi Xavier,
You ask a question that a lot of us ask ourselves. I would say that putting yourself first is the only way that you can add value to the world around you. You need to focus on self-care, such as good sleep, good nutrition, and good mental health. And that means that you should not feel that you need to be sad for others to be happy. No relationship can be truly good without the use of honesty. You can be supportive of a friend, not only be saying that they can do it, but give them suggestions on how they can do it. For example, I have a friend who wants to own her own business. However, she talks about it rather than trying to do it. So I tell her that she can do it, but ask you "What steps have you taken to start?" For some people, asking that question can be offensive. And yet, I am not a good friend if I tell people that they can do something without holding them accountable to their own words. I have asked friends - do you want me to be a cheerleader or do you want me to be a partner in your goals? Partners do not always just say happy stuff. They tell you the truth, whatever that truth is.
Gloria
You ask a question that a lot of us ask ourselves. I would say that putting yourself first is the only way that you can add value to the world around you. You need to focus on self-care, such as good sleep, good nutrition, and good mental health. And that means that you should not feel that you need to be sad for others to be happy. No relationship can be truly good without the use of honesty. You can be supportive of a friend, not only be saying that they can do it, but give them suggestions on how they can do it. For example, I have a friend who wants to own her own business. However, she talks about it rather than trying to do it. So I tell her that she can do it, but ask you "What steps have you taken to start?" For some people, asking that question can be offensive. And yet, I am not a good friend if I tell people that they can do something without holding them accountable to their own words. I have asked friends - do you want me to be a cheerleader or do you want me to be a partner in your goals? Partners do not always just say happy stuff. They tell you the truth, whatever that truth is.
Gloria
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Samantha’s Answer
Do little things every day towards your goal these little wins will build motivation over time.
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Brayden’s Answer
Hello!
Finding motivation can be a difficult task as if no outside force is causing you to be motivated then trying to find internal motivation can be harder. There is a lot of motivational people online that I sometimes use to help me get through times where I dont want to do something. I tend to think about the things that im grateful for about life and realize that things could be much worse so the task that is in front of me probably isn't that challenging or difficult and that can help me stay motivated. Another great way is simply trying to surround yourself around people who are equally as motivated. Simply the energy of those around you can help people stay motivated because you are all collectively on this path and seeing other people have success is a cool thing!
Hopefully that helps! Good luck!
Finding motivation can be a difficult task as if no outside force is causing you to be motivated then trying to find internal motivation can be harder. There is a lot of motivational people online that I sometimes use to help me get through times where I dont want to do something. I tend to think about the things that im grateful for about life and realize that things could be much worse so the task that is in front of me probably isn't that challenging or difficult and that can help me stay motivated. Another great way is simply trying to surround yourself around people who are equally as motivated. Simply the energy of those around you can help people stay motivated because you are all collectively on this path and seeing other people have success is a cool thing!
Hopefully that helps! Good luck!
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Christopher’s Answer
I've always found that if you are doing something you like to do, you're naturally energized to get back at it. We all have some periods of being less motivated so you have to set some goals and targets to move toward. As previously mentioned, curb the desire to 'be liked' by others. That does not mean you can't help others but you have to prioritize your own happiness and success for some time. Once you're comfortable where you are you can spend more time on others. That's not being selfish, that's contributing to self fulfillment. If you are energized by helping others then perhaps there is a career in that for you! That would be the best of both worlds!