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How do I maintain healthy friendships in college Especially at a prestigious school where everyone knows one another??
Im a 12th grader entering college in a completely new state. How do I manage?
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Payal’s Answer
Hi Nyla!
Transitioning from high school to college in a new state is a significant change, but with thoughtful preparation and a proactive mindset, you can navigate this journey successfully. Join student organizations, attend campus events, or participate in group activities to meet new people. Try engaging with peers who share similar interests as it can lead to lasting friendships.
And it's natural to miss family and friends. Maintain regular communication through calls or video chats for emotional support. Share your experiences and challenges with loved ones.
Hope it helps.
Transitioning from high school to college in a new state is a significant change, but with thoughtful preparation and a proactive mindset, you can navigate this journey successfully. Join student organizations, attend campus events, or participate in group activities to meet new people. Try engaging with peers who share similar interests as it can lead to lasting friendships.
And it's natural to miss family and friends. Maintain regular communication through calls or video chats for emotional support. Share your experiences and challenges with loved ones.
Hope it helps.
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Destiny’s Answer
This is definitely a good question, and I can empathize with how challenging this new situation must be for you. I think it helps to create healthy friendships by finding what you have in common with the other students. Maybe you both enjoy similar subjects in school, or you both have a passion for learning. If you share hobbies you enjoy, that's great, too! Find what you have in common with the people around you, and you can start to build some friendships based on those shared interests.
I also agree with Alejandro that sometimes, you have to just put yourself out there to make friends with others. People will enjoy making friends with you if you are approachable, kind, and fun to be around!
It's normal to feel a little unsure and stressed about making friends when you're at a totally new college. It's a big change in your life, and it takes time to adjust to that. Since it's a prestigious school as well, that may add to the discomfort you feel at first. But remember, there are probably other students who are new to this school, too, and they're probably searching for friends just like you! If you take your time, gradually build relationships with others, and stay open to opportunities for connection (such as student groups or collaborations), you'll be just fine.
I hope this helped you! I've found in my own experience that reaching out to people in class, or being helpful to them, can create new friendships.
I also agree with Alejandro that sometimes, you have to just put yourself out there to make friends with others. People will enjoy making friends with you if you are approachable, kind, and fun to be around!
It's normal to feel a little unsure and stressed about making friends when you're at a totally new college. It's a big change in your life, and it takes time to adjust to that. Since it's a prestigious school as well, that may add to the discomfort you feel at first. But remember, there are probably other students who are new to this school, too, and they're probably searching for friends just like you! If you take your time, gradually build relationships with others, and stay open to opportunities for connection (such as student groups or collaborations), you'll be just fine.
I hope this helped you! I've found in my own experience that reaching out to people in class, or being helpful to them, can create new friendships.
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Jodi’s Answer
Hi Nyla. Great question and always a concern with a new graduate heading off to college in the fall. Although I did not go to a college out of state, I did go to a college where I knew no one going in. I, too, was nervous and a bit overwhelmed. To help me, I interacted with my new roommate over the summer. We spent a few times talking on the phone and exchanging emails. It made arriving at college a little easier. If your roommate has been assigned to you already, I recommend doing the same.
Another way that I made friends is through my dorm. I made a point to introduce myself to others within my dorm as we were all moving in. To this day, I am still good friends with some of the people from my freshman year dorm, and I graduated from college 24 years ago.
Finally, we had a summer reading that we had to do prior to arriving at college. We were then assigned to a small group at orientation to discuss the book. I had only read part of the book so as we were sitting there in our small group, I whispered to the girl sitting next to me, "I only read half the book", and she said "same!". Following the discussion, she and I continued to talk, and to this day, she is still my best friend from college. We went on to be roommates for the next 3 years of college.
In summary, you will be fine. There will be lots of other people in your shoes so as long as you go in with a positive attitude and make a point to introduce yourself to others, you'll find your crew. Best of luck and enjoy every minute of your college experience. It flies by!
Another way that I made friends is through my dorm. I made a point to introduce myself to others within my dorm as we were all moving in. To this day, I am still good friends with some of the people from my freshman year dorm, and I graduated from college 24 years ago.
Finally, we had a summer reading that we had to do prior to arriving at college. We were then assigned to a small group at orientation to discuss the book. I had only read part of the book so as we were sitting there in our small group, I whispered to the girl sitting next to me, "I only read half the book", and she said "same!". Following the discussion, she and I continued to talk, and to this day, she is still my best friend from college. We went on to be roommates for the next 3 years of college.
In summary, you will be fine. There will be lots of other people in your shoes so as long as you go in with a positive attitude and make a point to introduce yourself to others, you'll find your crew. Best of luck and enjoy every minute of your college experience. It flies by!
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Alejandro’s Answer
Think back to high school when you found yourself in a class without any buddies. You had to put yourself out there and be friendly, right? That's what you need to do now.
It might seem tough or a bit scary at first, but people generally get comfortable with each other after a while. Some just need a little more time. Joining clubs can help you meet people who like the same things you do. As you attend more classes, you'll start seeing familiar faces. Before you know it, you'll become friends with them.
It might seem tough or a bit scary at first, but people generally get comfortable with each other after a while. Some just need a little more time. Joining clubs can help you meet people who like the same things you do. As you attend more classes, you'll start seeing familiar faces. Before you know it, you'll become friends with them.