* What is the impact of this choice? Where can I have the most impact right now?
* Connection: quality is more important than quantity. Where am I creating deeper connection - with family, with my coworkers, with my classmates, etc?
* Contribution: Does this task need to be perfect, or is 80% done good enough? Remember: It takes 20% of the time to get to 80% done, and the remaining 80% of the time for the remaining 20%
Any time you're feeling stuck or frustrated, ask yourself: What do I really want? How important is this and how is it going to help me with my goals?
And remember, it's important to take care of yourself too - to care for your body, your mental health and joy, and feeling centered and grounded.
Since the day was taken by work, I only had the evening and weekends to juggle school and home. I chose to do school online completely so I had that flexibility I needed. That helped with my plan of planning.
Each week I would look ahead to find out what was going on with home life. I then scheduled when I would spend time on school. If it was a busy week with home life, sometimes I would have to decide if I had to forgo some home life things. If not, I knew I would have to either stay up later than normal or wake up early to get things done.
Either way, it is important to tell everyone in your home life of your plans.
1 - Health and well being comes first. Meditate - hugely impactful. Drink lots of water. Make exercise a priority (I exercise at least 1 hour a day) - and make it something you love. Don't love running? don't do it! Walk, do yoga, play basketball, swim, find a friend and take up tennis. Be conscious of your food - you literally ARE what you eat. How could you be anything else?
2 - Set clear boundaries at work and communicate with your supervisor/boss. When you're at work - BE at work. Work hard. Exceed expectations. Don't do personal things when you're working. Appreciate your co-workers. Be known as someone who responds quickly, gets answers, takes care of issues, and works well with others.
3 - Then when you're off work - DON'T work!! Be with your friends and your family and your kiddos. Laugh and play and have fun and relax.
note: When kids are little that is the toughest - or it was for me - having to leave work on the spur of the moment because your child has a fever at daycare, or having a kindergarten play to go to in the middle of the day (why do schools do that??), or having a parent/teacher conference. These are all things that happen to all human beings - and if you communicate clearly, and are a thoughtful and hard-working employee, your supervisor will understand. Share these responsibilities with your partner/spouse and support each other's careers and career choices. It doesn't last forever and everyone understands that you're a parent first....and an employee second.