How can I deal with an annoying dormmate?
I'm afraid I'll be matched with someone really annoying in college. Will there be opportunity to switch rooms? What other ways could I manage this situation?
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I've moved three different times during my first year of college, have lived with ALL kinds of people (gender, race, age, personalities, etc.), so my best piece of advice is:
- Set boundaries, and set them early. If you are someone who prefers to share certain things and not others, specify that. Communication is SUPER important because not everyone may have the same boundaries as you!
- Decide what kind of relationship you want to have with them. Will you be friends, or strictly roommates? Friendships can be a little trickier, since things can get more personal in my opinion. Roommate relationships are slightly easier to navigate because if you guys have an issue, it won't necessarily destroy a friendship.
Good luck! Many things you learn to navigate along the way.
Sanjana "Sonny"’s Answer
For a dormmate, your best bet is to work on open communication and try to have open dialogue with them - like setting some key guidelines about quiet hours or whether you can have friends over, etc. They won’t know if they are driving you nuts if you don’t at least try to talk to them about it first. Plus it’s common courtesy and I would imagine you would want the same in return - you never know if you’re the annoying roommate because you have some quirky habits. I think for most people it’s a big growth opportunity because they have never lived with anyone other than family before and we all get pretty comfortable in our routines and habits.
With any conflict management, it’s always a great idea to assume good intent as well. If they’re doing something you don’t understand - ask!
Serge V.’s Answer
I'm sorry I can't give you advice on this post because I never lived with a person while I was in college. If I was in your position, I would agree on certain standards when you first move in. That's the best advice I can give you.