There are some good AE companies not far from you. Lockheed, Northrup, and General Atomics are all in SoCal and more than one of them are likely to have STEM social outreach type programs for women in stem. I'd say it is worth reaching out to all of them and seeing if you can't arrange for some virtual one-on-one time with an engineer. They have a lot of top secret stuff and many offices are shut down, but a ZOOM chat should be manageable and give you an opportunity for multiple perspectives on a day-in-the light and possible paths.
Another avenue you may want to consider is to look at the universities you are considering and see what types of aerospace clubs they have. For instance, San Diego State, where my daughter went, had a full-fledged rocket project run by students. Talk to the clubs at schools like this. They deal with scaled down versions of all aspects of a full project; materials, comms, fuel, software, launch testing, and more and could talk to you about the projects. They may even have videos to share that would give you insights.
Good places to look for programs like this are any cities with military bases or space based companies. So, San Diego, Houston, Huntsville, and the Space Coast of Florida are all good options.
Best of luck!
I have other friends with AE degrees who design mechanical components for aircraft, like the wing or the airframe, or for spacecraft. I have others who are systems engineers and they do the integration portion of what I discussed above and make sure the system will work in the end.
There are lots of things AE degrees can do. I recommend looking up Aerospace Engineering Jobs and you will see a vast array of what you can do. During your school you will figure out what specialty you want, more towards the software, or maybe mechanical, with more private companies working in satellites and manned spacecraft there are more opportunities than ever. It is a very exciting career and if you want to put in the work and are passionate about understanding how spacecraft or aircraft work and want to design something in the future AE is a great career choice.
There are not AE career options in every state though- so be prepared to move if you don't see a company in your state, however, more companies are moving and starting-up all the time.
Check https://www.indeed.com/q-Aerospace-Engineer-jobs.html?advn=984457265069156&vjk=80007dc2e1e2cfe8 and read through the job descriptions to see which sound interesting. Then research the company to see if they have more details on those jobs. Maybe even reach out to the hiring managers to see if they'll talk to you about the job.
You could also reach out to the Career Placement office at Colleges you're interested in to see if they can give you more details or connect you with Alumni or employers.