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how does being in a relationship affect your studies?

Will getting in a relationship disturb my studies?

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david’s Answer

Hi, Seema,
I admire that you see this as a possible issue. Being in a relationship in college is not quite the same as having friends in college. Being in a relationship requires a degree of obligation to your partner of ensuring time to be together. This can make college a more enjoyable experience, but works best if the two of you can agree to some boundaries, such as
- allowing each of you your preferred and needed study time
- allowing each of you time to enjoy the overall college experience, which may not always be as a couple

Those two agreements may be difficult, but are vital to protect each of you. And, as Tiffiny's answer so eloquently states, "...If it's not working out, walk away."

All the best to you.
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Tiffiny’s Answer

Well that depends on the relationship. Going to college should not be all about study its also a time to make friends and build your network for the future and it is often the place to meet a partner.
Having a partner who supports you while you study can be really helpful. Emotional support support on tough days and someone to celebrate your successes "Yay you got an A go you"
It is basically about balance you will need t time to study and time for your partner if they are studying too then you should find it is easier for them to understand you need time away from them to focus on your studying.
So In brief if you want to get into a relationship set clear boundaries around the time you will need for studying and then take it from there, if its not working out walk away.
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Arjita’s Answer

Being in a relationship can bring both good and bad effects on your studies, and the outcome can change based on the people involved and how the relationship works. Here are some things to think about:

1. Managing Time: To keep a healthy balance between your relationship and studies, you need to manage your time well. If you put your responsibilities first and use your time wisely, you can do well in both parts of your life. But if you have trouble dividing your time, it might hurt your study habits and school performance.

2. Emotional Help: A caring and understanding partner can give you emotional help when times are tough, which can make you feel better overall and help you deal with school stress. Having someone to talk to about your experiences can also help you stay positive and motivated.

3. Distractions and What's Important: Relationships can sometimes take up a lot of time and focus. It's important to think about how your relationship affects what's important to you. If your relationship takes up too much time or if you're always distracted, it might hurt your studies.

4. Talking and Setting Limits: It's very important to talk openly with your partner about your school commitments, goals, and what you expect from each other. Setting limits and understanding each other's needs can help make a supportive and balanced space that keeps fights and problems to a minimum.

5. Growing and Learning: Relationships can help you grow as a person, learn more about yourself, and gain new skills. The things you go through in a relationship can teach you a lot and help you learn skills like empathy, talking, and making compromises. These skills can help you in your personal life, as well as in your schoolwork and future job.

In the end, how a relationship affects your studies depends on how well you handle your time, decide what's important, and keep a healthy balance between the two. It's important to think about your own abilities, goals, and what the relationship is like to figure out what's best for you. Talking openly and honestly with your partner, along with using good time management, can help make sure your studies don't suffer too much.
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Katherine’s Answer

Keep in mind that during your schooling years you will likely have more chances to meet a significant other...and since people regularly report their own families as more meaningful at the end of their lives than anything else, even if their studies and careers let them help many people, it could be that you decide you prefer to give priority to any chances for great relationships that come along...you can resume your studies if they're interrupted even by a marriage or raising a family in later years, but our chances to marry often decrease the older we get. Whatever you believe about God or a higher power, you can have help from a source that's wiser than you are to know how to spend your time even with a heavy study load, as long as you put your focus on doing what you feel is right, no matter what people are expecting you to do in school or relationships or work or anything else.
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Tyler’s Answer

Relationships can affect your studies as much as you let it. I did long-distance with my now wife all 4 years of college and the biggest thing was setting expectations in our relationship on how it would work. College class schedules are more unpredictable. It's not like high school where everyone is in school in the same basic time range. Because of this, my wife and I couldn't text and talk all day because our schedules were not aligned. It was also hard because we would visit each other on weekends and the last thing you want to do with your significant other is study. So it's a balance of getting your work done to enjoy quality time with them, and understanding that each other have priorities. The biggest thing is setting those boundaries, and making time for each other when you can by calling or visiting each other. Best summary of advice I have is "Be where your feet are." If you are with your partner, don't think or worry about school and focus on enjoying time with them. If you are at school, focus on your work or friends there and don't let your partner take away from that experience.
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Kristin’s Answer

I personally was not in a relationship during school and was glad to have the freedom to set my own schedule and choose my professional future without compromise. If you do meet someone who you see a future will communicate and compromise will be essential for the career success as well as the relationship.
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Jeffrey’s Answer

Balance. Make sure the person you are in relationship with supports you and your future. Build a life together.
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R’s Answer

It depends a lot on your both nature, personality and the nature of your relationship. Set boundaries and practice the art of balancing.
That said with this question - its all relative!
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Dave’s Answer

It could, but it depends on your partner. If you have someone that will support you and encourage you, then it could be very beneficial to both of you. Make sure that your partner knows that your studies are your priority. Once you draw the boundaries and they are good with it, you shouldn't have any worries.
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Aisha’s Answer

Hi Seema,

Yes, being in a relationship can definitely affect your studies and the effects can be both positive and negative, depending on the type of relationship. I would say if you set boundaries being in a relationship can work. Have the conversation with your partner and be specific that you value your studies and it's a priority for you.

Best,
Aisha Taylor
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Carlotta’s Answer

Relationships, even if they are wonderful, take work and nurturing. So providing you have a partner who is supportive, has his or own goals and activities, and adds a positive vibe to your experiences you still need to develop effective time management skills. You need to be able to prioritize how and when you spend your time. I find have a list of activities I need to accomplish that day, enables me to stay on track and complete my required tasks, then leave a little time for fun stuff...even if its only 30 minutes of chatting with your partner, or playing cards etc just something to connect.
Please remember that you are good enough as you are, do not feel like you need to change anything about yourself for someone to like you. If some one makes you feel like that, you need to evaluate that relationship.
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Seema’s Answer

A relationship will affect studies, but anything can affect your studies if you allow it to. It is important to explore relationships as long as you are able to keep a balance. Remember there is a time to focus on studies which will not last forever. If you are able to make adjustments for a few years and do well to set up your career, you will have time for other things in your life and will enjoy them more once you know that you have been successful in your studies/career.
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Sachin’s Answer

Find a good partner, who has similar interests and passions related with your ,career aspirations and you will actually find that being in relationship actually helps your studies and your life as whole.
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