First, go to a large library, and take all the books on topics that you LOVE. There are an innumerable amounts of universities, also online... to get a good paying job, you must be very very good at what you do, but first demonstrate your abilities in school.
There are many very successful female professionals everywhere around the world, also in architecture and design, Have you heard of Zaha Hadid? Valentina Pistoli (born 1928), first Albanian female architect, Milka Bliznakov (1927–2010), founder of the International Archive of Women in Architecture; or Katherine Briçonnet (ca. 1494–1526), supervised the construction of Château de Chenonceau; or Franca Helg, (1920-1989), architect and designer.Margaret Staal-Kropholler (1891–1966), first woman architect in the Netherlands. Tamara Katsenelenbogen (1894-1976), constructivist architect and urban planner or Elizabeth Wright Ingraham (1922-2013), architect and granddaughter of Frank Lloyd Wright. There are many more...
It is never a disadvantage to be a girl, ask me, my clients think that I listen better, am not too bossy or overbearing and really understand what they want, my style is definitely much better liked, because men design differently then men.
Debating may even help you when presenting your projects, and imagination is essential for projects that will stand out. You will need to be doing a lot of drawing and painting as architect or designer, you will socialize with plenty of clients and travel a great deal when there are project in other cities or countries. But you will also need math to know how many windows you will need and how much they cost, of on what land you are to build it.
You will need a clerk in your office to answer all the phone calls, and if he or she doesn't do anything all day,.. Fire her or him!
Architects, Designers, Engineers and Contractors are the first ones to be called to save the planet, by adding trees and gardens to the buildings. and this is because we build it. You can do a lot to help when we are old and cannot work anymore. All these things are available to you through books, start reading and ask the government office to help you get them.! Just go there and ask.
Most of all, be confident, you will be the architect or designer, not your parents nor anyone else. You will do all the schoolwork, not anyone else, and you will do the work later, not anybody else.
If this is what you want? go for it and don't let anyone discourage you or stop you.
Let me know how it goes. O.K.?