Rashmitha
How do I navigate the next chapter of my life in college? #Spring25!!
#Spring25!!
Hi CareerVillage Community,
I’m a student preparing for college, and I’m trying to figure out a lot on my own as I plan on escaping an abusive home situation. I will be fully responsible for my own college expenses and living costs, so I have a few questions I’d really love advice on:
-What are some good ways to find affordable housing options for college students, especially if you’re paying everything on your own?
-I was recently waitlisted at Harvard, Duke, Carnegie Mellon, and UPenn. The college admissions process this year has been difficult and it has been hard not to feel like I've received the short end of the stick even though I worked tirelessly to try to get into these dream colleges. I'm now committing to UF where I won't be receiving scholarships other than Bright Futures which covers books and tuition in Florida. It has been such a disheartening year and my question is, how should I handle that mentally and practically while moving forward with my college plans?
-Now that I will be attending UF I want to make the most of my undergraduate years, but also be in and out of college and graduate as quick as possible while still doing my best to prepare for a Ph.D. later on. I have accumulated around 60 high school credits which include AP, AICE, and dual-enrollment credits throughout highschool. What advice do you have for excelling in undergrad, managing heavy workloads, and building strong Ph.D. applications, especially if I plan to take a few gap years for research and saving money first?
-I have a strong passion for becoming a neuro-oncology scientist — I’m not planning to go to medical school due to the expense and years of schooling, but I want to work in the lab, contribute to research, and still have a good work-life balance. How should I focus my major and activities in college toward this goal? How can I stay open to new opportunities and possible changes in my plans while staying grounded in my passion?
-What are your best frugal living and financial tips for college students who are completely independent?
-What are some jobs I should look into that will allow me to pay for college while still being convenient with a heavier courseload (ex. remote jobs)
-Lastly, any general life advice for someone who is starting over, trying to build a better future, and navigating college and adulthood at the same time?
I will say that of my questions do make it seem as if I'm rushing the college experience or not allowing myself balance or a social life outside of studies and working, but I've had an extremely heavy workload throughout high school (resulting in my 60 earned credits) and am still able to manage a social life and have truly worked on getting myself out of my introverted bubble to build relationships with people. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my questions. I’m grateful for any advice, encouragement, or tips you can share!
2 answers
Charlotte Geiger
Charlotte’s Answer
First, I just want to say — you are incredibly strong. Seriously. The fact that you're even thinking ahead like this, after everything you’ve been through, says so much about your drive and character. You’re not rushing anything — you’re building a life for yourself, and that's something to be proud of.
For housing, I would definitely recommend looking into off-campus apartments with roommates to split costs, or even co-ops where rent is cheaper in exchange for helping out around the house. Facebook groups, student housing websites, and even talking to current UF students can help you find good deals. Also, definitely reach out to UF’s financial aid office and explain your situation — you might be able to appeal for more help since you’re fully independent now.
About the college admissions stuff — it’s completely normal to feel disappointed. You worked so hard. But honestly, getting waitlisted at schools like Harvard and Duke is a huge accomplishment in itself, even if it doesn't feel like it right now. UF is a powerhouse school with amazing research opportunities, and it’s what you do once you're there that will open even bigger doors for you later.
Since you already have 60 credits, you’re in a great spot to graduate early if you want to. Meet with an advisor right away to map out the quickest path, and major in something like Biology, Neuroscience, or Biochemistry — something that will set you up for neuro-oncology research. Getting involved in a research lab early is key. Even if you’re just washing equipment at first, it’s the best way to get your foot in the door. Also, keep your GPA high and start building relationships with your professors — you’ll need those for future Ph.D. applications.
For saving money, budget week-to-week instead of by the month — it’s a lot easier to stay on track. Meal prepping, buying used textbooks, living with roommates, and using all the free campus resources will also help a ton. As far as jobs go, campus jobs like working at the library or research assistant gigs are great because they often let you study during slow times. Remote work like tutoring or freelance writing is a good backup too.
And last — life advice? Give yourself some grace. You’re not behind. You’re building something better for yourself, and that takes guts. Take little chances to meet people, forgive yourself on the rough days, and trust that you’re exactly where you need to be, even if it doesn’t always feel like it. You’re going to do amazing things — one step at a time.
Iryna M.
Iryna’s Answer
I went to CMU for grad school. Pittsburgh is a lively city with a somewhat small-town feel. I really enjoyed my time there coming from Texas heat.
It is also cheaper than major cities like Boston, but everything is still accessible with good airport, decent public transportation, restaurants, and theatres. You will also build a great network with your classmates getting jobs in leading companies.
The academic culture is strenuous but also depends on the program.
For finding a place to live, it is best to visit (if you have a chance) and walk around Shadyside neighborhood where most students live. You'll see the phone numbers posted on buildings, often these places do not advertise online. (Or do a google street view and see if you can look places up!) Also chat with current students, they will have some good recommendations. In 2018 I paid $825 per month for a 1-bdr apartment with parking included. They had since raised prices to over $1000. Most of the housing will be older, but as a student you probably won't be spending much time at home. You can also look for roommates.
Pittsburgh has a large presence of UPMC and Highmark, which may be related to your field of interested. Perhaps there could be job, intern, or research opportunities.
Taking out a huge school loan was painful, but it did pay off. CMU has great support when recruiting, especially for science majors.
Iryna recommends the following next steps: