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How do i balance acting and law school?

Hey! So I am completely torn apart... I'm about to finish school and have already applied to one of the best law schools, but now I have doubts... I don't know if i am making a mistake by pursuing such a time consuming career that I find amazing and inspiring, but has been on my mind for just one year. I find myself doubting this matter, because whenever i watch a musical or even a movie i feel devastated since i left acting school a few years ago since my parents made me chose between acting ( which i had just begun) or horseback riding ( that i was doing for the longest time ). I feel like i choose horses over acting, because i had been doing it for my whole life and it was in my comfort zone. But i had so much fun while acting, singing and dancing. I had only started and maybe wasn't amazing, but i definetly felt in my element. Also the coaches there encouraged me and truly believed in my talent. So, again, whenever i watch a musical i feel like that is what i am made for. I sing everyday and know all the lyrics. I even act parts out :') I don't care if i get famous or not, i just want to do what i feel passionate about. At the same time i have only done acting 6 months and i feel like maybe i don't know the full story. So my question is : should i pursue both things or should i go against my parents will and focus only on acting? I feel like college may feel like an obligation that my parents taught me about. Any advice? #career #law #acting #singing #creative #musical-theatre

Thank you comment icon Its been a year, but maybe youll see this. All the people giving you advice are not actors because they all played it safe! Dont do law school for a backup plan, there can only be one plan, if you want to act, quit law school and do what you freakin love! If you believe it will happen it will, sounds like youre are just doubting yourself. You have the ability of being whatever you want!! And above all else, work ethic is god. Jack

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Kim’s Answer

Iona,


Your question is pulling me in half a dozen different directions!


First, if you are not "passionate" about law, it will be extremely difficult to even complete law school. And if you do pass law school, unless things are different there than they are here, it will be difficult to land a job. Here, law schools are graduating many more lawyers than the market can absorb. So, it is entirely possible that neither law nor acting will give you the lifestyle your parents want for you.


And, let's talk about parents! They want what they think is best for you. However, it is your life. If you make choices that go against what they want, they will probably cut off the financial support. But, and I say this because you are close to the age of adulthood. . . if you let your parents make your decisions, they will continue to do so throughout your life, AND, you will resent them for it. There comes a time when a youngster makes his own decisions, realizing the potential consequences. That is what makes you an adult.


Your situation reminds me of a customer I worked with, trying to help her find a job. She was about to pursue her a Master's degree in Business, so she could earn the 6-figure salary her father expected her to earn. She neither needed nor wanted a big paycheck. She wanted a job "with purpose." I found one managing a spay/neuter program.


I agree with the advice above as far as acting goes - use it as a hobby. Also, for what it's worth, there is an element of acting in the law, especially in courtroom theatrics and also when negotiating with the other party. There are many, many specialties in law. For example, you could be the contracting agent for actors, or handle all the legal stuff in the making of a movie, etc. . . Instead of looking at them as two different careers, why not try to find the overlap?


I really wish you the best!
Kim

Thank you comment icon Thank you for your advice! The biggest fear of mine is letting my parents down like my 2 older sisters have done. I mean they did it for boys, but still i feel like i'm their last piece of hope and the pressure is really getting to me. I love them so much, how could I study what i want without hurting them? Is there a way? Also, the overlapping idea is amazing, but what i love is acting and singing itself, which would make me jelaous of my clients :') . I am from spain and law is actually really well paid and it's easier to find a job, specially if you go to the school i'm applying for. Iona
Thank you comment icon Just the fact that you care so much about not wanting to hurt your parents makes you a good son! I think it would be best if you talked out these issues with a counselor/therapist. That's what I do when confronted with major issues in my life. It really helps to have someone who is non-judgmental to help you explore your options. You are feeling a LOT of pressure right now, and, are feeling overwhelmed. That's not a good place to be. I don't know how things are structured in Spain, but you could hopefully start by talking with a school counselor. We are, of course, still here to help and support you!! Please stay in touch and let us know how you are doing! Kim Kim Igleheart
Thank you comment icon The school i am at is really bad when it comes to counselors since we basically don't have one anymore. It truly sucks, so thank all of you for your advice :) it's the only help i'm getting at the moment. Iona
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Jayavignesh’s Answer

As a general piece of advice, I would recommend that you finish law school so you have a foundation to start a career. Maybe you can act in community groups so you could have a career and not completely give up acting?

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Kenneth’s Answer

Hi Iona,


Sadly, I can't really give you advice about the actual decision--it's far to delicate of a decision. It is important to do something you love, but it is also important to choose a career that can support you. As much as I love acting, it generally doesn't pay very well unless you're one of the few elite actors who make it big. The decision to pursue law or acting really depends on what you want your life to look like. I can, however, give you my experiences and hope that helps you.


I myself am a computer programmer who pursues acting as a hobby. For me, it is nice because programming can pay the bills while acting fills the heart. I've been a part of a local theater ministry for several years while also working a full time job. Although it does work quite well, I do not have the time to significantly invest in acting while working full time. I cannot audition for many shows because they just wouldn't fit with my job. Likewise I often have to use one of my vacation days during the tech week of a show so I have the time and energy to make it through that week. I also do not spend as much time by myself practicing as I'd like to really perfect a character. That said, I am proud of my work as an actor and it is quality work--professional quality work according to a number of audiences (not that I illusion myself with thoughts of Broadway or anything).


Now, my job as a computer programmer is quite flexible. I'm not sure if all law professions are as time consuming as I think, but my impression is that you might find it significantly harder to pursue hobbies in law than I do in computer science. Someone else who knows law better will have to speak to that.


If you do decide to pursue theater as a hobby, I'd recommend finding a fairly small theater and trying to attach yourself as a regular actor. Small companies are often short on actors and the family environment that the smallness creates can make it an excellent place to relax and leave your stresses behind. Furthermore, odds are you won't have the time to do too much theater jumping and auditioning if you're trying to act as just a hobby.


My main piece of advice to you is to not let your love of acting die. Even if you decide to pursue law and you go to school for years and never act once during that time. No matter how long it's been, don't tell yourself that you haven't acted in years and are unable to pick it up again. My theater company has worked with adults who have never thought they could act and have gotten them to produce professional quality theater.

Thank you comment icon Knowing about your experience truly helps me put things in a perspective! The thing is, that as cool as acting as a hobby is, i feel like going to an acting school would be a possibility, but i doubt myself since i am not that experienced and that is what is making me go against my will to pursue acting as a fulltime thing. Iona
Thank you comment icon Maybe i could chose a career that is less time consuming in order to pursue both things and decide when i am more convinced? The problem is my parents are pressuring me to study things that may bring me great income, but i know are not my thing. I am average in school and as much as i try to improve nothing seems to work... Iona
Thank you comment icon I feel like i may not be best at a career that is so specific and difficult like law. I should be completely convinced right? And btw it's so crazy that people like you are so nice to share things like your story in order to help me out! My friends would be like : oh okay. I don't know what to tell you. I am so sick of getting that answer : " ) Iona
Thank you comment icon Pursuing acting as a career and going to school for it does have potential. On average it does pay less then law or programming, but if you work hard you can make a decent living. You could grow to become a professor, or a staff member of a moderately successful theater company. Unfortunately, I do not have a lot of experience in full time acting because I chose to pursue it as a hobby. My answer focused on acting as a hobby a lot not because I thought that was the best choice, but because it was what I have experience in. Kenneth Smith
Thank you comment icon You mentioned law school, but that requires you to choose your career from the time you enter as a student. Have you thought about looking into a liberal arts school with decent pre-law and acting programs? Often times you don't even have to decide on a major for a year or two and can feel out all the different areas that you're interested in. Then, when you feel you're ready and well informed, you can declare a major and pursue your career in whichever field you feel works best for you. Kenneth Smith
Thank you comment icon That's exactly what i wanted to do, but my parents are really strict when it comes to studying... I wish that was an option, because i feel like it's just what I need :/ Iona
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Alexis’s Answer

I say let fate decide: why don't you apply to an acting school too? See what life throws at you.


It will be far easier to find success and stability as an attorney than as an actor, so if you're looking for a stable career, acting ain't it.


Then again, you can try to act for a while and then go to law school if it isn't working out. Or go to law school and act when you can, and if you need to quit law school because the opportunities are just too tempting, quit law school.


I guess what I'm saying is, this one decision won't determine your entire life. You can change your mind, you can adapt, you can go one way and then go another. Most people do. Give yourself space to say "This is what I'm choosing to do now."


And then OWN that decision.

Thank you comment icon Thank you so much for your advice! As i said in some other comments what i truly want to do right now is acting, singing and dancing. The problem is you need to have a lot of experience to get acceptet in art academys here in Barcelona, which means I wont get acceptet because I have only 1 year of experience. On the other hand my parents make me study no matter what i think about it. Iona
Thank you comment icon I was thinking the same thing. I was thinking to act to try it out see where it takes me and what purpose it gives me. If that doesn't work then I go into my law career. Bervelyne
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Angela Theresa’s Answer

You received incredible advice here! Thus, I will concur.



  • You can specialize in Entertainment Law.

  • A degree in Law, Business, Teaching or something you "like" is a good thing.

  • Actors and those of us with acting degrees can be quite ... in debt, and don't always prosper (unless we marry someone with a good job--like Lawyer or Doctor)


  • A 4-year or more degree, in most states, gives you opportunity to be a Substitute Teacher if you suddenly decide to pursue acting instead of law.




  • If you do things to make your parents, or anyone else, happy -- you will pay the price with depression, confusion and internal pain.



  • I believe if you do what you love, and are happy your parents will feel good; and know they did a great job. Parents are only as happy as their saddest child.


And that means, with you and your siblings. I can guarantee if you or any one of you end up depressed, angry, unfulfilled it would hurt them much more than going to theatre school if you feel strongly you must try.



  • Of course, they may be a bit agitated if they have to pay your rent until you are 50-years-old...nevertheless, they love you and would rather see you happy then on antidepressants and telling a therapist how much you hate your life.

Thank you comment icon Thank you so much for your advice <3 I decided I will pursue law school, because I do like the career now that I informed myself. Apart from that I will go to acting school when I have free time during the week and I will become part of the theater club. At my acting school they send you to auditions whenever they feel you're ready to do so, and after telling my parents about my plans, they seem more supportive. So if I would have good opportunities and I would progress as an actress, my parents would understand that I focus on acting, which relieves me A LOT. Again, thank you a lot! I never thought everyones and specially your advice would clear my thoughts so much :) Iona
Thank you comment icon Interesting, I like your advice Bervelyne
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Rachel’s Answer

You will need to focus on stress and time management. In order to manage stress you have to manage your time wisely. <span style="background-color: transparent;">You have to set a routine for yourself and stick to it for the most part. Once you get into the groove of a routine it will be much easier for you to manage your time and have enough time for everything you need to do (including relaxing). Make yourself to-do lists on a weekly basis, use Google calendar or a planner to keep track of events, deadlines, and due dates. In addition to setting a routine and sticking to it, plan out relaxing activities into your day. Or set aside a time, after everything is done for the day, that you can have "me" time. I have also personally found it essential to not only find time for myself but also make use of that time in a way that is best for me and my holistic wellness. I have found the HeadSpace app to be an essential tool in helping me relax and generally feel more relaxed throughout the day, Guided meditation, even if you have a busy schedule, will make you feel more at ease and relaxed throughout the day as a whole (not just when you have the time to relax and focus on that "me" time).</span>

<span style="background-color: transparent;">Set a routine.Use Google Calendar.Set aside Me TimeWrite weekly to-do lists and use a planner.Find a peaceful and restful activity that will help you feel relaxed.</span>



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Camille’s Answer

Hello Iona:


Important question: Why did you apply to law school? Just because you want to make a lot of money? or want to please your parents?


Going to law school is something that you should do ONLY if you want to be a lawyer. It's 3 years of school, very time consuming, and then you are really only suited to be a lawyer. You don't learn anything else. I doubt you'd have much time for acting during school, and then also maybe not after.


If you're not sure, I would say hold off. One idea is that you could try getting a job as a legal assistant or a paralegal in a law firm. The work would be like 40 hours per week. Then you can see if you like the law, and you can try to act in the evenings/weekends.


Being a lawyer is often very different from what people think it will be, so I think getting that kind of experience would be good. You could end up liking it, or who knows maybe you like being a legal assistant. Or you can decide that you hate it all and decide to find another career path.


But I wouldn't recommend law school straight from college without a better idea of what lawyers do.

Thank you comment icon Are you a lawyer or an attorney? I would love to know what type of a Attorney you are and what you do at your job? Bervelyne
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