Career questions tagged careeralignment
How Can I Discover My True Talents, Regain Confidence, and Align My Career with My Passions?
Hello experts and professionals, I am reaching out because I’m currently facing a deep personal and professional struggle—I feel lost and uncertain about my identity, abilities, passion, and talents. I desperately want to understand myself better and discover my unique strengths, but I’m overwhelmed by confusion, self-doubt, and a lingering sense of inadequacy. To give you some context, I’m in my final semester studying Database Technology. I didn’t choose this major out of passion but rather because it aligned with the available opportunities at the time. Frankly, I’m unsure whether I have a genuine interest in this field or whether it aligns with my abilities. I often feel disconnected from the subject matter, which contributes to my anxiety since I’ve invested over 16 years in education. The possibility of not working in my study field makes me feel as if those years were wasted. Currently, I work as an administrator for a job recruitment company. My responsibilities include: Scheduling and coordinating appointments with job seekers, discussing available opportunities with them, and guiding them through job options. Drafting and providing employment contracts. Handling and managing incoming calls regarding job openings. Maintaining detailed Excel sheets to track job data, job seekers’ profiles, and customer information. Managing social media accounts and creating posts to promote job opportunities and company updates. The most challenging part—matching job vacancies to job seekers, which often creates significant pressure as I strive to find suitable positions for everyone. Despite managing these tasks effectively, I often feel drained, uninspired, and exhausted. I constantly push myself to spread positivity and help those around me, even though I rarely receive encouragement or recognition in return. People describe me as knowledgeable, a smooth talker, and someone who can engage and satisfy others through effective communication. However, internally, I battle a lack of energy and confidence. This struggle is partly rooted in my upbringing. My parents and older brother rarely acknowledged my value. They often told me I was useless or not clever enough, which profoundly shaped my self-image. My brother, a doctor, frequently imposed his opinions on me, leaving me feeling unheard and insignificant. This dynamic made me feel like I had no individuality or voice. Looking back, I realize that I once had a passion—bodybuilding. As a teenager, I dreamed of becoming a bodybuilding coach. I loved spending time at the gym, sometimes working for over 14 hours without feeling tired. I became an assistant coach, guiding gym members, motivating them, and earning their respect. I was passionate about helping people achieve their fitness goals. I even dreamed of studying pharmacy to learn more about supplements and nutrition to enhance my coaching skills. However, due to the mark-based educational system in my country, I couldn’t pursue that path. This passion for helping others hasn’t disappeared. I still find immense satisfaction in supporting others genuinely. However, as time has passed, I’ve lost confidence in social interactions. I often feel that people don’t care about my opinions or value my input—a feeling likely rooted in my early experiences with my family. Although I know this perception is not necessarily true, it continues to affect my confidence when meeting new people or speaking in unfamiliar settings. I also yearn to live a creative and meaningful life. The idea of simply going to work, watching the clock, and waiting to leave feels unbearable. I want to contribute creatively, solve problems innovatively, and add meaningful value. I strive for perfection and often pressure myself and my colleagues to ensure everything runs smoothly. When things don’t go as planned, it weighs heavily on my mind. My ultimate goal is to find clarity about my abilities, passions, and talents. I believe that once I truly understand my strengths, I can face any challenge with confidence. I want to recognize my value, unlock my potential, and thrive both personally and professionally. I even dream of going abroad to start fresh and rediscover myself. Given my background and challenges, I am seeking your expert guidance on the following: How can I discover my true talents and passions? What practical steps can I take to align my career with my interests and abilities? How can I regain my self-confidence and overcome the long-standing feelings of being unheard and undervalued? What strategies can help me break free from this cycle of confusion and find a fulfilling, creative career path? Your insights and advice would mean the world to me. Thank you for taking the time to read my story and support me on this journey toward self-discovery and growth. at the end if someone can hear me closer, i can contact him i will be so pleasure and never forget it, cause i really need help and hand to raise me up .
