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kalynn
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Should I go to the same school as my friends to stick together because I love them, or pick a different school that feels right for me, even if it means starting fresh ?
I am a senior and I have dream of either going to LSU or University of Arkansas. However, a lot of people from my school go to LATECH or ULM and I want to stay with my friends who mean a lot to me but I don't know if I want to go there. Also, I could probably go to LATECH on a full ride scholarship but I would probably have to take out a loan, not too big, to afford LSU or UARK.
update: I got into LATECH with a scholarship for 18000 for all 4 years. Then adding the TOPS scholarship I will get another $6353 per year. I am also working to get more scholarship money. With just these two scholarships, I will only have to pay about 10,000 a year
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Michelle M.
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Hello, Kalynn !
This is going to depend on how focused you are for your academics and preparing for your career with the best program at a college that you ultimately choose because of opportunity. College is not high school and once you are a college student, you have taken a step forward in maturity and responsibility. Many things will change. In life, one never needs to end any friendships and when you choose a college to attend, you will see that changes in friendships happen but it doesn't mean the end. There are phones and social media to stay in touch if they are far away and weekend trips and visits.
You should go to the college of your dreams. You don't have to take out any loans if you explore Federal Student Financial Aid which consists of Grants and Work Study and you can refuse the loans and compensate by applying for Scholarships and Grants and start saving for college now. Speak with a Financial Aid representative at a college about this. The University of Arkansas would require you to pay out of state tuition for the first year. LSU is expensive. So you are going to have to decide what your circumstances will allow you to do. If you choose LATECH because SOME of your friends will go there, and for the possibility of a (not guaranteed) full ride scholarship, you're really going to need to put some thought in it. Your friends are going to be as busy as you are while in college.
If you really are not able to come to some decision about this, consider taking a gap year to see how things change for your friends and how you feel about studying for a career. This might give you time to make a decision that will be best for your future because college is a step towards the life you will have later on.
Have a conversation about this with the actual friends you speak of. See what they have to say. Their perspective on this may be very different than yours. This may help you decide what to do. You may develop new found independence if you follow your plans for the colleges you had planned for. The ultimate decision will be up to you, however.
I hope this helps for something to think about and I wish you all the best !
This is going to depend on how focused you are for your academics and preparing for your career with the best program at a college that you ultimately choose because of opportunity. College is not high school and once you are a college student, you have taken a step forward in maturity and responsibility. Many things will change. In life, one never needs to end any friendships and when you choose a college to attend, you will see that changes in friendships happen but it doesn't mean the end. There are phones and social media to stay in touch if they are far away and weekend trips and visits.
You should go to the college of your dreams. You don't have to take out any loans if you explore Federal Student Financial Aid which consists of Grants and Work Study and you can refuse the loans and compensate by applying for Scholarships and Grants and start saving for college now. Speak with a Financial Aid representative at a college about this. The University of Arkansas would require you to pay out of state tuition for the first year. LSU is expensive. So you are going to have to decide what your circumstances will allow you to do. If you choose LATECH because SOME of your friends will go there, and for the possibility of a (not guaranteed) full ride scholarship, you're really going to need to put some thought in it. Your friends are going to be as busy as you are while in college.
If you really are not able to come to some decision about this, consider taking a gap year to see how things change for your friends and how you feel about studying for a career. This might give you time to make a decision that will be best for your future because college is a step towards the life you will have later on.
Have a conversation about this with the actual friends you speak of. See what they have to say. Their perspective on this may be very different than yours. This may help you decide what to do. You may develop new found independence if you follow your plans for the colleges you had planned for. The ultimate decision will be up to you, however.
I hope this helps for something to think about and I wish you all the best !
Emily Anne
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Emily’s Answer
Hey, this is a big decision, and you’re right to take time to consider all your options. Here are a few things to think about:
1. Prioritize your fit: College is a major step in your life. It’s important to choose a place where you feel you’ll thrive both academically and personally. If LSU or University of Arkansas excites you—academically, socially, or in terms of campus life. It’s worth serious consideration.
2. Friends and new connections: It’s completely normal to want to stay close to your friends, especially when facing big changes. Remember, strong friendships can last even if you attend different schools. College is also a chance to meet new people and grow your network.
3. Finances matter: A full ride at LATECH is a significant opportunity and would reduce your financial stress. On the other hand, a manageable loan for LSU or UARK can also be worthwhile if you believe that either will give you opportunities that align with your goals and dreams.
4. Opportunities at each school: Think about the programs, majors, extracurriculars, and career opportunities at each school. Where do you see more opportunities for what you want to study or achieve?
5. Talk it out: Consider speaking with current students or advisors at each school, and involve your family or mentors in the discussion.
Ultimately, both options have trade-offs. It’s okay to miss your friends, but it’s also okay to follow your own path. The most important thing is to pick a place where you can see yourself growing, succeeding, and being happy. Good luck! I know you’ve got this!
1. Prioritize your fit: College is a major step in your life. It’s important to choose a place where you feel you’ll thrive both academically and personally. If LSU or University of Arkansas excites you—academically, socially, or in terms of campus life. It’s worth serious consideration.
2. Friends and new connections: It’s completely normal to want to stay close to your friends, especially when facing big changes. Remember, strong friendships can last even if you attend different schools. College is also a chance to meet new people and grow your network.
3. Finances matter: A full ride at LATECH is a significant opportunity and would reduce your financial stress. On the other hand, a manageable loan for LSU or UARK can also be worthwhile if you believe that either will give you opportunities that align with your goals and dreams.
4. Opportunities at each school: Think about the programs, majors, extracurriculars, and career opportunities at each school. Where do you see more opportunities for what you want to study or achieve?
5. Talk it out: Consider speaking with current students or advisors at each school, and involve your family or mentors in the discussion.
Ultimately, both options have trade-offs. It’s okay to miss your friends, but it’s also okay to follow your own path. The most important thing is to pick a place where you can see yourself growing, succeeding, and being happy. Good luck! I know you’ve got this!
Thank you, Emily for the advice.
kalynn
Paul Goetzinger MPA
Academic and Career Advisor | Freelance Writer | TRIO Program Director
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Paul’s Answer
I have always recommended that people stay as close to home as possible. The reason for this has to do with resources, social support, networking and other future opportunities. Here are some more examples to consider:
There are many financial benefits for staying close to home. For example, lower tuition. You can often qualify for significantly lower in-state tuition by attending a public college in your home state. If you go out of state you will pay a higher tuition rate until you establish residency.
You should also consider reduced living expenses. Living at home definitely eliminates costly expenses for room and board, utilities, and transportation, freeing up thousands of dollars which can be used for other expenses during the year.
There is also emotional and social support, and the familiar environment of being close to family resources. Staying close to home can provide a sense of comfort and reduce the stress of adjusting to a new and unfamiliar environment. There is always a stronger support system, on a local college campus. You remain close to your family and established friends, providing a vital safety net for emotional support and assistance during difficult and adverse times. Having the opportunity to visit home frequently or even commute can significantly alleviate feelings of homesickness and help you stay connected with loved ones.
There are also opportunities for future career and networking. Staying local allows you to build and leverage existing connections with family, friends, and local professionals, which can be beneficial for networking, future internships and job opportunities. You may find more accessible internship and job opportunities in your area, allowing you to gain valuable experience in a field where you already have established contacts.
Living at home or nearby also enables you to stay involved in your local community, such as volunteer groups, recreational activities or campus student life organizations.
I hope this has provided some insights to attending a local college or university.
There are many financial benefits for staying close to home. For example, lower tuition. You can often qualify for significantly lower in-state tuition by attending a public college in your home state. If you go out of state you will pay a higher tuition rate until you establish residency.
You should also consider reduced living expenses. Living at home definitely eliminates costly expenses for room and board, utilities, and transportation, freeing up thousands of dollars which can be used for other expenses during the year.
There is also emotional and social support, and the familiar environment of being close to family resources. Staying close to home can provide a sense of comfort and reduce the stress of adjusting to a new and unfamiliar environment. There is always a stronger support system, on a local college campus. You remain close to your family and established friends, providing a vital safety net for emotional support and assistance during difficult and adverse times. Having the opportunity to visit home frequently or even commute can significantly alleviate feelings of homesickness and help you stay connected with loved ones.
There are also opportunities for future career and networking. Staying local allows you to build and leverage existing connections with family, friends, and local professionals, which can be beneficial for networking, future internships and job opportunities. You may find more accessible internship and job opportunities in your area, allowing you to gain valuable experience in a field where you already have established contacts.
Living at home or nearby also enables you to stay involved in your local community, such as volunteer groups, recreational activities or campus student life organizations.
I hope this has provided some insights to attending a local college or university.
Thank you, this is amazing! I really needed it.
kalynn
Alvin Wong
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Alvin’s Answer
If I were in your shoes I would go to a college where I could pursue my dreams or career goals. Starting fresh at a new place doesn't necessarily mean that it's a bad thing because college is a place where you can gain new friends while also expand your network. I get that it may be difficult for you to not be able to see your friends in person and that you will be going to someplace new where it may be hard to adjust to, but the experience of being on your own and in a new place is something that is worth doing. When I was in college, I didn't have these experiences since I went to a local college that was a 15 minute drive away from where I lived. A couple of my classmates also went to this same college even though I didn't choose to go due to wanting to stick around with them. I didn't have the experience of being on my own and that is something I wished I had done differently while attending college. What I've also seen while I was in college was that a lot of the students who were roommates with one another became very good and close friends after college, so it's a good thing go out and meet new people in different places. You never really know who you might meet or become friends with. You've also mentioned that you have a full-ride scholarship, which is something that doesn't come by easily so I personally wouldn't pass up on it.
Thank you so much, Alvin!
kalynn
Phill Pezo
Industrial Design
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Nutley, New Jersey
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Phill’s Answer
Hey Kalynn,
It is great to hear that you are considering your atmosphere and who you will be around during your college years. To start, know that life is full of never ending starts and beginnings. It is filled with new chapters, small and large. You and your story continues on and is ever evolving. But that does not make your past go away. What ever you love, you can continue to love. What ever you want to grow past can be resolved with time and acceptance. In other words, just because you might not be with your friends does not mean they are not your friends any more. You will still be able to see them summer break. You will also have a place to stay when you visit and see a new town or city. If they are your friend, they are your friend no matter where in the world you are.
Beyond this, college will inevitably lead to new friends and new self discoveries, no matter which university you go to. The same will happen to your friends as well. The distance of university is in a way a test of fate and care for the relationship. Those that fade away were meant to be and those that stick around were. There is the possibility of this happening even if you went to the same school as well.
In other words, this is your time and your college experience. No one else's. Those who stay your friend will be what grounds you. Those who do not will give more space for those who care.
Best of luck on your journey!
It is great to hear that you are considering your atmosphere and who you will be around during your college years. To start, know that life is full of never ending starts and beginnings. It is filled with new chapters, small and large. You and your story continues on and is ever evolving. But that does not make your past go away. What ever you love, you can continue to love. What ever you want to grow past can be resolved with time and acceptance. In other words, just because you might not be with your friends does not mean they are not your friends any more. You will still be able to see them summer break. You will also have a place to stay when you visit and see a new town or city. If they are your friend, they are your friend no matter where in the world you are.
Beyond this, college will inevitably lead to new friends and new self discoveries, no matter which university you go to. The same will happen to your friends as well. The distance of university is in a way a test of fate and care for the relationship. Those that fade away were meant to be and those that stick around were. There is the possibility of this happening even if you went to the same school as well.
In other words, this is your time and your college experience. No one else's. Those who stay your friend will be what grounds you. Those who do not will give more space for those who care.
Best of luck on your journey!
I'm excited to put your great advice to good use!
kalynn
Karin P.
Lecturer, Academic Advisor, Career Coach
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Göttingen, Lower Saxony, Germany
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Karin’s Answer
Hi Kalynn,
Going to college is a big step and leaving your friends behind is a sad reality. On the other hand, you have goals and dreams and growth happens when you step out of your comfort zone. You'll meet many more people and find opportunities if you step out of your circle of friends and family.
Before you decide on a school, I would recommend that you look at the programs these schools offer and figure out what YOU want to do. Some schools will have exactly the program you want, others might be a stretch. But you should also look at the campus culture, opportunities for research projects and extracurricular activities.
What's the cost for each school? A full ride at LATech sounds good. How much more would LSU as the flagship university in your state be? Would you pay out-of-state tuition at UARK? Are the programs equally attractive? Maybe extend your search to some more universities. UNO and Tulane are pretty nice schools too if you want to stay in LA. Visit one or several campuses if you can.
At the end of the day, LSU, UARK and LATech are not that far apart. You can still see your friends when you visit or when you go home during breaks. You'll meet many new people and have many new experiences as you are finding your way into adulthood if you go to a different school than your friends.
I hope this helps! All the best to you!
KP
Going to college is a big step and leaving your friends behind is a sad reality. On the other hand, you have goals and dreams and growth happens when you step out of your comfort zone. You'll meet many more people and find opportunities if you step out of your circle of friends and family.
Before you decide on a school, I would recommend that you look at the programs these schools offer and figure out what YOU want to do. Some schools will have exactly the program you want, others might be a stretch. But you should also look at the campus culture, opportunities for research projects and extracurricular activities.
What's the cost for each school? A full ride at LATech sounds good. How much more would LSU as the flagship university in your state be? Would you pay out-of-state tuition at UARK? Are the programs equally attractive? Maybe extend your search to some more universities. UNO and Tulane are pretty nice schools too if you want to stay in LA. Visit one or several campuses if you can.
At the end of the day, LSU, UARK and LATech are not that far apart. You can still see your friends when you visit or when you go home during breaks. You'll meet many new people and have many new experiences as you are finding your way into adulthood if you go to a different school than your friends.
I hope this helps! All the best to you!
KP
James Constantine Frangos
SOFTWARE ENGINEER SINCE 1972; NUTRITIONIST SINCE 1976.
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Gold Coast, Queensland, Australia
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James Constantine’s Answer
Good Day Kalynn!
I know you love your friends, that is obvious! If you go away for a while, and get really successful, they will miss you and appreciate you even more, and that is so positive because not only will your new-found success impress them, but it will also influence them to get things happening in their lives. Success does rub off on associates, that is clear!
If you hang around Elon Musk, I cannot see you chasing mediocrity by a long shot. Even just communicating with Elon would be a plus, asking him for advice. The way he is going he is going to be the richest man on the planet. You just do not normally run into people that plan to amass USD $1,000,000,000,000, nor send a spaceship to Mars!
GOD BLESS!
I know you love your friends, that is obvious! If you go away for a while, and get really successful, they will miss you and appreciate you even more, and that is so positive because not only will your new-found success impress them, but it will also influence them to get things happening in their lives. Success does rub off on associates, that is clear!
If you hang around Elon Musk, I cannot see you chasing mediocrity by a long shot. Even just communicating with Elon would be a plus, asking him for advice. The way he is going he is going to be the richest man on the planet. You just do not normally run into people that plan to amass USD $1,000,000,000,000, nor send a spaceship to Mars!
GOD BLESS!
James Constantine, thank you!
kalynn
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Sarah Webb
Interior designer
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Bakersfield, California
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Sarah’s Answer
It's always great to have friends while in college, but you should never do something just because somebody else is doing it. At this point in your life, the decisions you make about college are going to pave the way for the rest of your life. You should consider schools based on the career you plan on pursuing and your financial situation. Take it from someone with experience, you might not think the decisions you make now will impact the rest of your life, but they will. You're decision should be based on your goals and what you want to achieve. Nobody said you can't still be friends just because you choose a different path. Your true friends will always be there!!!
Thank you for taking the time to help.
kalynn
Jasmine Morris, EA
Tax Manager in Public Accounting
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Bloomfield, New Jersey
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Jasmine’s Answer
Hi Kaylnn,
Thanks so much for your question. I will not belabor the points raised above, but agree, College is truly a time to discover yourself and expose yourself to as much as you can in that four year period. By expanding your horizons, you are working toward your growth and possibly avoiding a friendship breakdown, something that can often happen as your friends are experiencing the same growth and it will not always be toward each other. In addition to the above, going away from my friends made me miss them even more! We had so much fun together when I came home for breaks because we had a chance to miss each other and we came back with a lot to talk about and catch up on. I hope this helps.
Thanks so much for your question. I will not belabor the points raised above, but agree, College is truly a time to discover yourself and expose yourself to as much as you can in that four year period. By expanding your horizons, you are working toward your growth and possibly avoiding a friendship breakdown, something that can often happen as your friends are experiencing the same growth and it will not always be toward each other. In addition to the above, going away from my friends made me miss them even more! We had so much fun together when I came home for breaks because we had a chance to miss each other and we came back with a lot to talk about and catch up on. I hope this helps.
Thanks for your encouragement!
kalynn
Margarita Mendy
orthoptist
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New York, New York
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Margarita’s Answer
Hello!
Unless your friends are rich and pay for your tuition or give you a job, concentrate on yourself. You can still keep in touch and find ways to be close.
However, college is great time to make new professional connections with people that will be closer to your future profession.
Plus, graduating with no loans helps since you cannot predict your future life situation and circumstances and how you'd spend your future salary.
Unless your friends are rich and pay for your tuition or give you a job, concentrate on yourself. You can still keep in touch and find ways to be close.
However, college is great time to make new professional connections with people that will be closer to your future profession.
Plus, graduating with no loans helps since you cannot predict your future life situation and circumstances and how you'd spend your future salary.
Thank you so much!
kalynn
Zachary Kline
Digital Product Manager
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Boise, Idaho
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Zachary’s Answer
This might sound scary but the earlier you can embrace being uncomfortable the better; making new friends, living in a new city, finding different places to shop, and going to a new school are all things that will help you get better at adapting to change. That skill will be invaluable for you throughout your life. Your friends at ULM or LA Tech can always be visited and you can plan trips home to keep up your relationship with them as well. But the most important thing from this point on is to make intentional decisions for yourself and this is the start of your journey to craft the life that you want by studying what you need to study to get the job you want.
Thanks for the advice.
kalynn
zainab Alsalihi
Medical assistance
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Michigan, Michigan
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zainab’s Answer
That’s such a good question, and honestly, I’ve been in the same spot. I think it really comes down to what feels right for you and your future. Friends are so important, but college is also about finding your own path. If you feel like LSU or Arkansas are places where you’ll thrive, grow, and be happy, then it might be worth starting fresh, even if that’s a little scary at first. True friends will always be in your life no matter where you go.
At the same time, I totally get wanting to stick with the people you love. If you feel like you’d be happy at LATECH or ULM and the full ride makes life so much easier financially, that’s also a really smart choice.
What I’ve learned is that you’ll make new friends wherever you go, and the right people will always stick with you. So I’d say pick the school that feels best for you, not just for right now, but for the next few years of your life.
At the same time, I totally get wanting to stick with the people you love. If you feel like you’d be happy at LATECH or ULM and the full ride makes life so much easier financially, that’s also a really smart choice.
What I’ve learned is that you’ll make new friends wherever you go, and the right people will always stick with you. So I’d say pick the school that feels best for you, not just for right now, but for the next few years of your life.
Hamdi J
Analyst
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Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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Hamdi’s Answer
Your friends will always be there for you, so I suggest trying the new school. It will be a great chance to discover new things and grow beyond your comfort zone.
Alocka Stephens
Business Government
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Atlanta, Georgia
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Alocka’s Answer
Think about whether you're a leader or a follower. It's perfectly fine to be a follower, but remember, even followers choose their own path. You'll meet many friends and people along the way, so make choices that keep you happy and calm.
Friends can be really helpful, and they're just a phone call away if you decide to try something new.
Wishing you lots of luck on your journey!
Friends can be really helpful, and they're just a phone call away if you decide to try something new.
Wishing you lots of luck on your journey!
Komal C
PMM
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Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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Komal’s Answer
Totally get how tough that choice is. Honestly, go with the school that feels right for you. True friends will stick around—and you’ll make new ones too. Real friendships don’t fade, even if you take different paths. Starting fresh can be scary, but it’s also a chance to grow and find your own vibe.
Thank you for sharing your perspective.
kalynn
Chantelle Tomines
Compensation Professional
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Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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Chantelle’s Answer
Go after your dreams! Beginning something new might be challenging, but it's a great chance to grow and connect with others on the same path. Your dream schools are setting the stage for your success, so focus on yourself and take that leap. Changing schools doesn't mean leaving old friends behind. I moved to a school where I didn't know anyone, and it was the best decision of my life. Best of luck to you!
I'm excited to put your great advice to good use!
kalynn
Baljinder Bilkhu
Senior Compensation Analyst
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Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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Baljinder’s Answer
Hi Kalynn,
Great question! It's really important to step out of your comfort zone to grow. When I went to a university where I didn't know anyone, I ended up making new friends who are still very close to me. Plus, my high school friends remain my best friends. Friendships have a way of working out, and you'll find time for each other if they're meant to last. Right now, focus on following your dreams and going to the school you've always wanted. You won't regret it.
Wishing you the best!
Great question! It's really important to step out of your comfort zone to grow. When I went to a university where I didn't know anyone, I ended up making new friends who are still very close to me. Plus, my high school friends remain my best friends. Friendships have a way of working out, and you'll find time for each other if they're meant to last. Right now, focus on following your dreams and going to the school you've always wanted. You won't regret it.
Wishing you the best!
Baljinder, thank you!
kalynn
Kim Igleheart
Career Counselor | Police Officer
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San Antonio, Texas
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Kim’s Answer
Kalynn,
Life is full of decisions where you need to carefully consider the pro's and con's. This is one of them, as Emily and Michelle have explained. Sometimes it helps to write it down with multiple columns - pro's of going with friends, con's of going with friends. Pro's of moving away, con's of moving away. Learning to do this now will help you in things like - should I take the job in San Francisco or the one in Little Rock? Should I buy the new car or the used car? Should I stay married or get divorced? Unfortunately, major life decisions are not easy!
In the end, do what YOU think is best all the way around. There's only so much input you can get from friends, family, and us. The hard part of this decision-making is that, in the end, if you feel like you made a mistake, there's only one person responsible - and accepting responsibility for your own decisions doesn't come easy for some people. However, you cannot allow indecisiveness to stop you from living. So, we take all the facts that we can gather, seek others' input, analyze everything, make a decision, and, move forward!
Just the fact that you are asking this question shows that you are giving it serious consideration. I trust that you will make the decision that is right for YOU!
Kim
Life is full of decisions where you need to carefully consider the pro's and con's. This is one of them, as Emily and Michelle have explained. Sometimes it helps to write it down with multiple columns - pro's of going with friends, con's of going with friends. Pro's of moving away, con's of moving away. Learning to do this now will help you in things like - should I take the job in San Francisco or the one in Little Rock? Should I buy the new car or the used car? Should I stay married or get divorced? Unfortunately, major life decisions are not easy!
In the end, do what YOU think is best all the way around. There's only so much input you can get from friends, family, and us. The hard part of this decision-making is that, in the end, if you feel like you made a mistake, there's only one person responsible - and accepting responsibility for your own decisions doesn't come easy for some people. However, you cannot allow indecisiveness to stop you from living. So, we take all the facts that we can gather, seek others' input, analyze everything, make a decision, and, move forward!
Just the fact that you are asking this question shows that you are giving it serious consideration. I trust that you will make the decision that is right for YOU!
Kim
Thank you so much!
kalynn
You're welcome! Each of these life decisions prepare you for the next one. It eventually gets easier. Good luck in your studies!
Kim Igleheart
Rebecca Tang
Banking
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Hong Kong
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Rebecca’s Answer
Thank you for your question. I understand you would like to stay with your friends. However, your friends may go to different universities. And, different universities have strength in different subjects. I suggest you can starting to find out what careers you have interest first.
Below are my suggestions:
1. Think about what you have interest, eg your hobbies, favourite subjects, etc and identify the related careers
Eg if you like music, would you like to be a musician, singer, musical artist, music composer, music producer, etc
If you have interest in maths, would you like to be an accountant, engineer, banker, financial analyst, maths teacher, etc
2. Find out more on these careers and determine what you have interest
3. Speak to someone who are working in these careers. Seek guidance from your mentor, school career counselor, your parents, etc
4. Shortlist 1-2 careers you would like to pursue
5. Explore the college review on the relevant subjects and find out the entry criteria
Hope this helps! Good luck!
May Almighty God bless you!
Below are my suggestions:
1. Think about what you have interest, eg your hobbies, favourite subjects, etc and identify the related careers
Eg if you like music, would you like to be a musician, singer, musical artist, music composer, music producer, etc
If you have interest in maths, would you like to be an accountant, engineer, banker, financial analyst, maths teacher, etc
2. Find out more on these careers and determine what you have interest
3. Speak to someone who are working in these careers. Seek guidance from your mentor, school career counselor, your parents, etc
4. Shortlist 1-2 careers you would like to pursue
5. Explore the college review on the relevant subjects and find out the entry criteria
Hope this helps! Good luck!
May Almighty God bless you!
Thank you for the advice, Rebecca.
kalynn
Lili Su (US)
Merger & Acquisition
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Santa Monica, California
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Lili’s Answer
Hi there! First, I want to say that the decision you’re facing is a really important one — and the fact that you’re thinking about it so deeply already shows maturity.
I’d like to share my own experience because it might give you another perspective. I grew up in China and later came to the U.S. to study. That meant leaving behind all my family and friends, stepping into a completely different environment, culture, and even language. Compared to choosing between LSU, UARK, or staying close to friends at LATECH/ULM, my situation was a bit more extreme — but the essence is the same: choosing between comfort and familiarity versus stepping into the unknown.
Looking back, it was the best decision I ever made. Here’s why:
Growth comes from discomfort. By putting myself in a situation that was sometimes scary and lonely, I had no choice but to grow. I mastered a new language, learned how to take care of myself, built a new community, and absorbed another culture.
Friendships evolve, but don’t disappear. I had to put in effort to maintain old friendships, and yes, I wasn’t as close as I would have been if I stayed. But in return, my worldview expanded, and I built new friendships that continue to shape me today.
Time is your greatest asset. At your age, you have something even the wealthiest person on earth can’t buy — time and opportunities to take risks. This is the best stage in life to push yourself outside your comfort zone and build resilience.
That said, not everyone wants the same type of story. Ask yourself honestly: If life were a movie, and you were the main character, what kind of movie would you want it to be?
Do you imagine adventure, new places, and stretching yourself in new directions?
Or do you feel happiest when life feels stable, familiar, and deeply rooted in community?
Both answers are completely valid — the key is knowing yourself.
On the practical side, here are a few things to weigh:
Finances: A scholarship like the one you got at LATECH is a huge gift. But loans are not automatically bad if the school and program you choose position you for a strong career. You can calculate what monthly payments would look like after graduation, and compare that to the salary range for careers you’re considering. That way you’ll know if it’s manageable.
Opportunities at each school: Research the majors, career paths, and alumni networks at LSU and UARK. Reach out to alumni or attend events — schools are usually happy to connect prospective students with graduates. That will give you a clearer picture of whether the extra cost is worth it.
Final thought: Staying with your friends will feel comfortable, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But choosing the school that best fits your goals and vision for your life might mean stepping away from the familiar — and that’s where growth happens. Your friends will still matter, but your future self will thank you for making the choice that aligns with your dreams.
I’d like to share my own experience because it might give you another perspective. I grew up in China and later came to the U.S. to study. That meant leaving behind all my family and friends, stepping into a completely different environment, culture, and even language. Compared to choosing between LSU, UARK, or staying close to friends at LATECH/ULM, my situation was a bit more extreme — but the essence is the same: choosing between comfort and familiarity versus stepping into the unknown.
Looking back, it was the best decision I ever made. Here’s why:
Growth comes from discomfort. By putting myself in a situation that was sometimes scary and lonely, I had no choice but to grow. I mastered a new language, learned how to take care of myself, built a new community, and absorbed another culture.
Friendships evolve, but don’t disappear. I had to put in effort to maintain old friendships, and yes, I wasn’t as close as I would have been if I stayed. But in return, my worldview expanded, and I built new friendships that continue to shape me today.
Time is your greatest asset. At your age, you have something even the wealthiest person on earth can’t buy — time and opportunities to take risks. This is the best stage in life to push yourself outside your comfort zone and build resilience.
That said, not everyone wants the same type of story. Ask yourself honestly: If life were a movie, and you were the main character, what kind of movie would you want it to be?
Do you imagine adventure, new places, and stretching yourself in new directions?
Or do you feel happiest when life feels stable, familiar, and deeply rooted in community?
Both answers are completely valid — the key is knowing yourself.
On the practical side, here are a few things to weigh:
Finances: A scholarship like the one you got at LATECH is a huge gift. But loans are not automatically bad if the school and program you choose position you for a strong career. You can calculate what monthly payments would look like after graduation, and compare that to the salary range for careers you’re considering. That way you’ll know if it’s manageable.
Opportunities at each school: Research the majors, career paths, and alumni networks at LSU and UARK. Reach out to alumni or attend events — schools are usually happy to connect prospective students with graduates. That will give you a clearer picture of whether the extra cost is worth it.
Final thought: Staying with your friends will feel comfortable, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But choosing the school that best fits your goals and vision for your life might mean stepping away from the familiar — and that’s where growth happens. Your friends will still matter, but your future self will thank you for making the choice that aligns with your dreams.
Thank you so much for sharing your story and advice with me, Kalynn❤
kalynn
Darilyn Rivera
Student
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Meriden, Connecticut
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Darilyn’s Answer
Hi Kalynn!
Trust your instincts! If you feel you'll thrive more in a place that supports your career goals, follow that path. It's great to cherish your friends, but meeting new people in new places can bring exciting opportunities. Who knows who you'll meet along the way?
Ultimately, it's about where you see yourself growing and succeeding. Wishing you the best with your decision!
Trust your instincts! If you feel you'll thrive more in a place that supports your career goals, follow that path. It's great to cherish your friends, but meeting new people in new places can bring exciting opportunities. Who knows who you'll meet along the way?
Ultimately, it's about where you see yourself growing and succeeding. Wishing you the best with your decision!
Carolina Palazzo
Human Resources
1
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Rancho Cucamonga, California
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Carolina’s Answer
Pursue your dreams and school of interest. Relationships are SO important in life - HOWEVER - the exposure from attending the right school can make a huge impact on your future and don't limit yourself. If your relationships are as strong as you suggest, they will survive the test of distance. I went to a different university then my best high school friends and 15+ years later we are still going strong because....
1) We prioritized seeing each other when we could. Holidays, birthdays, any events we could come together. We were intentional, we planned in advance, and we truly made the time to enjoy each other and catch up.
2) No further advice then to really emphasize #1. Even if you only see each other 1-3x a year, the time together is meaningful and keeps your bond strong.
1) We prioritized seeing each other when we could. Holidays, birthdays, any events we could come together. We were intentional, we planned in advance, and we truly made the time to enjoy each other and catch up.
2) No further advice then to really emphasize #1. Even if you only see each other 1-3x a year, the time together is meaningful and keeps your bond strong.
Kaitlyn Corey
Occupational Therapy Assistant/Occupational Therapy Student
60
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Graniteville, South Carolina
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Kaitlyn’s Answer
It sounds like you’re really torn between heart and head here, which is totally normal. Your friends mean a lot, but college is also about finding your own path. If LSU or Arkansas feels like the place where you’ll grow and get the experience you dream of, that’s worth considering even if it means loans. On the other hand, that scholarship at LaTech is a huge deal. Graduating with little to no debt gives you so much freedom after college. And you’ll still make new friends and connections, even if it feels scary at first. Maybe ask yourself this: in four years, will you feel prouder that you followed your dream school, or that you set yourself up financially? Either choice can work out, it just depends on which trade-off matters more to you.
Sara Lane White
Drafting and publishing Policy
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Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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Sara’s Answer
Choosing a college is a big decision, but trust your instincts. You mentioned dreaming of going to LSU or UARK, so follow that dream! Your high school friends will still be around, and you'll meet wonderful new friends in college too.
Thank you, this is really helpful.
kalynn
Chavi case
1
Answer
Updated
Chavi’s Answer
It’s always best to do what’s gonna be right for you in the long run. I say choose what will make you happy. Choose the school that has a better program for your desired field.
Amit Menon
Sales & Finance
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Bengaluru, Karnataka, India
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Amit’s Answer
If the course fits your goals, I think you should try a new school. This kind of thing happens sometimes. Your friends will still be your friends, and you can keep in touch with them outside of school and later on in your career.
L D
Manager
36
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Killona, LA
Updated
L’s Answer
Kalynn,
This is a great question! Deciding on which college to go to is no easy task. It's important to choose a school that fits both your academic goals and your financial situation. To help you with your decision, I think you should create a pros-and-cons list for each college. Think about factors like the quality of the academic program, the financial cost, the potential for new friendships, and your overall gut feeling about each school. I also recommend visiting each college in person to see if you like the social atmosphere. While you’re there, you could talk to some of the students and faculty to which can help provide a new perspective and support you in making your choice.
Good luck!
This is a great question! Deciding on which college to go to is no easy task. It's important to choose a school that fits both your academic goals and your financial situation. To help you with your decision, I think you should create a pros-and-cons list for each college. Think about factors like the quality of the academic program, the financial cost, the potential for new friendships, and your overall gut feeling about each school. I also recommend visiting each college in person to see if you like the social atmosphere. While you’re there, you could talk to some of the students and faculty to which can help provide a new perspective and support you in making your choice.
Good luck!
I appreciate you taking the time to answer this.
kalynn
Richard Torres
Customer Support Training Specialist
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Makati, Metro Manila, Philippines
Updated
Richard’s Answer
Having your friends around as a support system as you pursue your studies and dreams is not a bad thing. You know them and as you said they mean a lot to you. Familiarity is comforting. However, one must take into account that in order to grow we need to face challenges head on. Moving to a different school doesn't necessarily mean that you will lose your friends. As time goes by, good and true friendships would remain alive. Also, you don't know what you may find in a new place. Opportunities, connections, they can all be there.
It is your future. College is an important stage in your education. So if you believe that another institution would serve you better, consider it. As for the loan, you need to evaluate if it is something you can handle financially. Scholarship options are available so seek options to make what you desire a reality.
Our origin, which includes our friends could be our anchor in this life. But an anchor can be two things:
- It could be something that keeps you as who you are, keeps you still and steady wherever you wind up
- Or it could be something that holds you back and prevents you from moving forward
You and your friends will grow one way or another. The decision is yours. Just make sure that whatever you choose, you'll move your best foot forward and not live with regrets. Once you choose, don't hesitate, don't falter. just go on. Enjoy your college life!
It is your future. College is an important stage in your education. So if you believe that another institution would serve you better, consider it. As for the loan, you need to evaluate if it is something you can handle financially. Scholarship options are available so seek options to make what you desire a reality.
Our origin, which includes our friends could be our anchor in this life. But an anchor can be two things:
- It could be something that keeps you as who you are, keeps you still and steady wherever you wind up
- Or it could be something that holds you back and prevents you from moving forward
You and your friends will grow one way or another. The decision is yours. Just make sure that whatever you choose, you'll move your best foot forward and not live with regrets. Once you choose, don't hesitate, don't falter. just go on. Enjoy your college life!
This was super helpful, thank you!
kalynn