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Vivian
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how can I get my grades up while in a relationship?
my grades are okay but I have one F and that's in world history/ geography and in life science I have a D and in English I have a C and in math I have a D and I need to get my grades up how do I do that while in a relationship?
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Michelle M.
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Hello, Vivian !
People do not automatically start getting A's and B's at school because someone tells them how to. It's much more than that. I will assume that you are in High School because you didn't mention what level of school you are in.
Your low grades, which average to a grade of D which is a 1.0 GPA, have a cause and you will first need to look at what may be interfering with school before you can change your grades to A's and B's. Look at two possible reasons: you dislike school or you have a need to give your relationship priority time. After figuring out what the issue may be, you will have to set priorities and decide what is important. While you can still have the relationship, and many people do while in school, consider what your future plans are after High School. Will it be college, vocational school ? Do you plan to have a career or become a homemaker ? You will be a teen for only a few years and will be an adult for many decades, so what you do right now will greatly affect your life ten years from now. This is something to consider.
If you continue to receive low grades in high school, high school students can often get into vocational schools even with very low grades. Vocational schools typically place less emphasis on academic performance and GPAs compared to traditional colleges and universities. You're really going to have to focus on what you want to do in the future and how you want your life to be. No one can tell you what to do, you'd have to be ready to change and take the first move because you want to.
If you think tutoring may help, find someone to tutor you. I can't really advise you on how to improve your grades because besides not knowing you, people learn in different ways. It may help you to discover which way is best for you and make a commitment to spend more time studying and taking your subjects seriously. It's all up to you, however.
I hope this is something helpful to think about and I wish you all the best !
People do not automatically start getting A's and B's at school because someone tells them how to. It's much more than that. I will assume that you are in High School because you didn't mention what level of school you are in.
Your low grades, which average to a grade of D which is a 1.0 GPA, have a cause and you will first need to look at what may be interfering with school before you can change your grades to A's and B's. Look at two possible reasons: you dislike school or you have a need to give your relationship priority time. After figuring out what the issue may be, you will have to set priorities and decide what is important. While you can still have the relationship, and many people do while in school, consider what your future plans are after High School. Will it be college, vocational school ? Do you plan to have a career or become a homemaker ? You will be a teen for only a few years and will be an adult for many decades, so what you do right now will greatly affect your life ten years from now. This is something to consider.
If you continue to receive low grades in high school, high school students can often get into vocational schools even with very low grades. Vocational schools typically place less emphasis on academic performance and GPAs compared to traditional colleges and universities. You're really going to have to focus on what you want to do in the future and how you want your life to be. No one can tell you what to do, you'd have to be ready to change and take the first move because you want to.
If you think tutoring may help, find someone to tutor you. I can't really advise you on how to improve your grades because besides not knowing you, people learn in different ways. It may help you to discover which way is best for you and make a commitment to spend more time studying and taking your subjects seriously. It's all up to you, however.
I hope this is something helpful to think about and I wish you all the best !
Teklemuz Ayenew Tesfay
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Teklemuz Ayenew’s Answer
It sounds like your relationship may be taking more of your time and focus than your studies, and I want to be honest with you: this happens to many students, even the smart and motivated ones. Based on what you’ve shared and your current grades, it seems your energy is being pulled more into the relationship than into school. You might not fully realize it, but falling in love can make your subjects feel boring or difficult, and it becomes harder to stay focused, remember material, or keep up with assignments. If you're often distracted or daydreaming about your partner, it's natural that school starts to feel less important. This doesn’t mean you’re lazy or incapable; it just means your attention is being drawn elsewhere.
I know this because I’ve experienced it myself. Back in middle school, around eighth grade, I was a top student with strong focus and high academic performance. But when I got into a relationship, my priorities slowly shifted. I started spending more mental energy thinking about that person than about school. Subjects that used to come easily became harder to understand. My focus in class disappeared, and my grades began to fall. I went from first in class to third and then lower. I rescued myself from eventually failing the subjects, but only after realizing how far I was slipping and how much I was sacrificing without meaning to.
This isn't just about my story. I've seen the same thing happen to other students who were once top of their class. They got into serious relationships too early, and slowly, their goals faded. They began to care more about the emotional highs and lows of being in love than about their future. They didn’t intend to give up their dreams, but over time, they lost their drive, and the motivation to learn disappeared. Many ended up failing or giving up on their potential, and it all started with not setting clear limits.
That’s why it’s so important to be honest with yourself right now. You don’t necessarily have to break up, but you do need to seriously evaluate how much time and mental energy your relationship is taking. Are you avoiding homework, forgetting things you studied, or losing confidence in subjects you used to understand? Are you more motivated to text your partner than to finish an assignment? If so, something needs to change. A healthy relationship should support your growth, not take away from it. You must set boundaries, protect your study time, and keep school as your top priority. If the relationship is truly meaningful, it will support your success instead of distracting you from it.
The good news is that your current grades do not define your future, but your next actions will. You still have the power to turn things around. Make your academics your main focus again. Set clear study times and stick to them, even when it’s difficult. Let your partner know that you’re serious about your future and that your time needs to reflect that. If they truly care about you, they will respect your boundaries and encourage your growth.
Improving your grades while in a relationship is possible if you stay disciplined and structured. Use simple techniques like studying in 25-minute blocks with 5-minute breaks, known as the Pomodoro method, to stay sharp. Be active when you study, explain ideas out loud, use flashcards, and test yourself often. Focus on your most difficult subjects when your mind is fresh. Keep your study space distraction-free and avoid checking your phone during those sessions. If your emotions feel overwhelming, write them down before you study to clear your mind. With consistent effort, clear priorities, and firm boundaries, you can raise your grades and still maintain a healthy, balanced relationship without losing yourself in the process.
I know this because I’ve experienced it myself. Back in middle school, around eighth grade, I was a top student with strong focus and high academic performance. But when I got into a relationship, my priorities slowly shifted. I started spending more mental energy thinking about that person than about school. Subjects that used to come easily became harder to understand. My focus in class disappeared, and my grades began to fall. I went from first in class to third and then lower. I rescued myself from eventually failing the subjects, but only after realizing how far I was slipping and how much I was sacrificing without meaning to.
This isn't just about my story. I've seen the same thing happen to other students who were once top of their class. They got into serious relationships too early, and slowly, their goals faded. They began to care more about the emotional highs and lows of being in love than about their future. They didn’t intend to give up their dreams, but over time, they lost their drive, and the motivation to learn disappeared. Many ended up failing or giving up on their potential, and it all started with not setting clear limits.
That’s why it’s so important to be honest with yourself right now. You don’t necessarily have to break up, but you do need to seriously evaluate how much time and mental energy your relationship is taking. Are you avoiding homework, forgetting things you studied, or losing confidence in subjects you used to understand? Are you more motivated to text your partner than to finish an assignment? If so, something needs to change. A healthy relationship should support your growth, not take away from it. You must set boundaries, protect your study time, and keep school as your top priority. If the relationship is truly meaningful, it will support your success instead of distracting you from it.
The good news is that your current grades do not define your future, but your next actions will. You still have the power to turn things around. Make your academics your main focus again. Set clear study times and stick to them, even when it’s difficult. Let your partner know that you’re serious about your future and that your time needs to reflect that. If they truly care about you, they will respect your boundaries and encourage your growth.
Improving your grades while in a relationship is possible if you stay disciplined and structured. Use simple techniques like studying in 25-minute blocks with 5-minute breaks, known as the Pomodoro method, to stay sharp. Be active when you study, explain ideas out loud, use flashcards, and test yourself often. Focus on your most difficult subjects when your mind is fresh. Keep your study space distraction-free and avoid checking your phone during those sessions. If your emotions feel overwhelming, write them down before you study to clear your mind. With consistent effort, clear priorities, and firm boundaries, you can raise your grades and still maintain a healthy, balanced relationship without losing yourself in the process.
Doc Frick
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Doc’s Answer
If you are struggling with classes, it's normal to feel stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed. Acknowledging these feelings, both to yourself and to your partner, is the first step toward finding a solution. It's crucial to understand that failing is not a moral failing, but a difficult situation that needs to be addressed. It's important to talk to your girlfriend calmly and honestly about what's going on. Explain that your academic performance is suffering and that you need to prioritize your studies to get back on track. Focusing on your studies is a valid reason to set boundaries in a relationship, especially if your academic performance is suffering. A good partner will recognize that your long-term success is a priority and will support you in making changes to achieve it. Your academic success affects your future, and a relationship should not get in the way of that.
Rebecca Tang
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Rebecca’s Answer
Thank you for your question. This is more a question of your time management. Firstly, you need to find a time management tool to glow, eg ms outlook, Google calendar, your phone calendar, etc
Below are my suggestions;
1. Put down the time you need to attend classes
2. Assign some time every day on your assignment, projects.. review the material covered in the class every day. If you have any questions, ask the teacher on next school day.
3. Make sure you have enough time to sleep and do some exercise.
4. You can then allot the time on your relationship, leisure and friends & family gathering
5. Allocate more time for revision before assessment
Hope this helps! Good luck!
May Almighty God bless you!
Below are my suggestions;
1. Put down the time you need to attend classes
2. Assign some time every day on your assignment, projects.. review the material covered in the class every day. If you have any questions, ask the teacher on next school day.
3. Make sure you have enough time to sleep and do some exercise.
4. You can then allot the time on your relationship, leisure and friends & family gathering
5. Allocate more time for revision before assessment
Hope this helps! Good luck!
May Almighty God bless you!
Don Holland
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Don’s Answer
Hello Vivian,
There are many different solutions when it comes to doing better in school. You can meet with your teachers/professors to talk about your grades and solutions, you can go to tutoring with your teachers, you can create more time for your homework and much more. When it comes to your relationship, I would say that you should speak with your significant other about how you are doing in school and try to figure out solutions based on this conversation. It is possible to do well in school while being in a relationship but it will take more work on your part and I know that you can do it. Best of luck to you!
There are many different solutions when it comes to doing better in school. You can meet with your teachers/professors to talk about your grades and solutions, you can go to tutoring with your teachers, you can create more time for your homework and much more. When it comes to your relationship, I would say that you should speak with your significant other about how you are doing in school and try to figure out solutions based on this conversation. It is possible to do well in school while being in a relationship but it will take more work on your part and I know that you can do it. Best of luck to you!
Emily Bassett
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Emily’s Answer
Involve your partner. Have them quiz you while studying!
Eve Medina
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Eve’s Answer
I think maintaining a relationship while studying can be a very tricky thing. But what's most important to you is to have goal setting and adhere to that. You can actually balance your lovelife and studying by setting priorities and boundaries as well. Involving your partner is a good idea too that way you are both invested. Hope this helps.
Kim Igleheart
Career Counselor | Police Officer
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Kim’s Answer
Vivian,
You already have lots of good advice. So, I'm going to say this. D's and F's are not "okay." You should strive to have no grade below a C. What does this mean for your relationship?
If your significant other is not willing to spend your together time helping you study, then they do not have your best interests in mind. Approximately 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Yes, that means approximately 50% don't divorce, and we ALL think we will be in the second group. But, we need to prepare as though we will be in the first group. Every individual, male or female, needs to have the skills and self-confidence to succeed alone.
Young love is beautiful. It is strong. It feels like it alone will solve all your problems. It feels eternal. But, it often is not. Then you have to keep on going, while dealing with the heartbreak.
If they love you, they will prioritize your academic success, and, you will prioritize theirs. If not, it's not a mature love, and, you need to move on.
Navigating life is challenging. Props to you for recognizing that the relationship may need to be re-evaluated.
I saw elsewhere that you want to be a cop. You need to get your grades up. You need to learn how to study now, because, learning all the laws about burglary, murder, theft, criminal trespass, traffic laws, etc can be pretty dry material. You have to want to learn it!
Best of luck!
Kim
You already have lots of good advice. So, I'm going to say this. D's and F's are not "okay." You should strive to have no grade below a C. What does this mean for your relationship?
If your significant other is not willing to spend your together time helping you study, then they do not have your best interests in mind. Approximately 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Yes, that means approximately 50% don't divorce, and we ALL think we will be in the second group. But, we need to prepare as though we will be in the first group. Every individual, male or female, needs to have the skills and self-confidence to succeed alone.
Young love is beautiful. It is strong. It feels like it alone will solve all your problems. It feels eternal. But, it often is not. Then you have to keep on going, while dealing with the heartbreak.
If they love you, they will prioritize your academic success, and, you will prioritize theirs. If not, it's not a mature love, and, you need to move on.
Navigating life is challenging. Props to you for recognizing that the relationship may need to be re-evaluated.
I saw elsewhere that you want to be a cop. You need to get your grades up. You need to learn how to study now, because, learning all the laws about burglary, murder, theft, criminal trespass, traffic laws, etc can be pretty dry material. You have to want to learn it!
Best of luck!
Kim