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As a 9th grader, how can I practice making tough decisions and leading a team if I'm not in the student council?
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Maria Rehmet
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Maria’s Answer
Hi Fathimath!
You have opportunities everywhere to be a leader, not just student council. Join a club at your school and get involved in the committee, volunteer to lead group projects and help organize your team, participate in a sport and even go for team captain! Become a tutor and teach others in a caring way or organize a volunteer event at your school/in your community. Leadership is something you choose in your everyday life, it starts with the small things and prepares you for the big moments.
Good luck!
You have opportunities everywhere to be a leader, not just student council. Join a club at your school and get involved in the committee, volunteer to lead group projects and help organize your team, participate in a sport and even go for team captain! Become a tutor and teach others in a caring way or organize a volunteer event at your school/in your community. Leadership is something you choose in your everyday life, it starts with the small things and prepares you for the big moments.
Good luck!
Maria Alexander
UX Content Designer
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Maria’s Answer
Hello Fathimath!
The first step to being a good leader is being a good member of a team. Join a sports team, a chess club team, any kind of team to learn what it means to collaborate with other people. You'll learn a lot about how teams operate. As your knowledge grows, then look for opportunities to lead, and those don't have to be at school. They can be at church, clubs, volunteer organizations, and more. Find someone who can mentor you, too, and answer questions. Leadership is about developing relationships more than anything. You can work on that, too, without being on student council.
Good luck!
Maria
The first step to being a good leader is being a good member of a team. Join a sports team, a chess club team, any kind of team to learn what it means to collaborate with other people. You'll learn a lot about how teams operate. As your knowledge grows, then look for opportunities to lead, and those don't have to be at school. They can be at church, clubs, volunteer organizations, and more. Find someone who can mentor you, too, and answer questions. Leadership is about developing relationships more than anything. You can work on that, too, without being on student council.
Good luck!
Maria
Phil Nguyen
Senior Software Engineer
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Portland, Oregon
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Phil’s Answer
True leadership means wanting to help others without needing a title or recognition. When I was an engineer at Nordstrom, we focused on "servant leadership," and I still believe in that. You don't need to be on a student council to lead. Begin with small actions and be sincere. Help solve problems when others come to you.
Dianna (Crawford) Urbanucci
human resources
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New York, New York
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Dianna (Crawford)’s Answer
Hi Fathimath,
Your question is amazing, and your enthusiasm at such a young age is truly inspiring! Wanting to lead and make tough decisions shows that you already have leadership skills, even if you don't realize it yet. In my 10 years in human resources, I have always found that what distinguishes a leader "in title" from a leader "in practice" is their ability to build a culture of trust. True leaders build trust through honesty, empathy, and being a role model. The best part is, leadership opportunities are everywhere! Whether it's in sports, clubs, or other groups, you can start by getting involved and building connections with your team. Once you have a team around you, spend time getting to know these teammates to build a relationship with them, offer your knowledge and skills to help others and volunteer to take initiative as opportunities arise. Soon, others will look to you for guidance and inspiration.
You're on the path to achieving great things, so keep aiming high!
Your question is amazing, and your enthusiasm at such a young age is truly inspiring! Wanting to lead and make tough decisions shows that you already have leadership skills, even if you don't realize it yet. In my 10 years in human resources, I have always found that what distinguishes a leader "in title" from a leader "in practice" is their ability to build a culture of trust. True leaders build trust through honesty, empathy, and being a role model. The best part is, leadership opportunities are everywhere! Whether it's in sports, clubs, or other groups, you can start by getting involved and building connections with your team. Once you have a team around you, spend time getting to know these teammates to build a relationship with them, offer your knowledge and skills to help others and volunteer to take initiative as opportunities arise. Soon, others will look to you for guidance and inspiration.
You're on the path to achieving great things, so keep aiming high!
Kristen Dennis
Communications
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Washington, Washington
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Kristen’s Answer
Hi, Fathimath! You don't have to join the student council to build leadership skills. Joining clubs is a great way to find leadership opportunities and work with others. You can also consider part-time jobs, like babysitting, to develop these skills. When I was in high school, being on the dance team taught me a lot about teamwork and different leadership styles, like those who lead by example. If you're interested in reading more about leadership, John C. Maxwell has some excellent books on the topic.
Roy Potvin
Product Manager
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Yarmouth, Massachusetts
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Roy’s Answer
Hi Fathimath, First congrats 9th grade, that's awesome you have a great life ahead of you.
Keep in mind that in 9th grade what was of interest might change.
BUT, there are ton's of ways to learn those skills, many of the responses already talk to it.
Get involved, Church, Sports, look for volunteering opportunities. AND always learn from the best. Look around, read, do some research and see who are the best at this type of activity and learn from them. You may not like them or what they do, but you can still learn by oberservation AND always stand up and take something on that is OUT SIDE your comfort zone. I've found that one of the ways I learn best is by DOING, failing, getting back up and then try my best to not fail like that again. They do have Erasers on pencils for a reason, it's OK. Showing my age a little with pencils, etc. Just for the fact that your even asking this sort of question tells me you have a lot going for you. Good luck.
Keep in mind that in 9th grade what was of interest might change.
BUT, there are ton's of ways to learn those skills, many of the responses already talk to it.
Get involved, Church, Sports, look for volunteering opportunities. AND always learn from the best. Look around, read, do some research and see who are the best at this type of activity and learn from them. You may not like them or what they do, but you can still learn by oberservation AND always stand up and take something on that is OUT SIDE your comfort zone. I've found that one of the ways I learn best is by DOING, failing, getting back up and then try my best to not fail like that again. They do have Erasers on pencils for a reason, it's OK. Showing my age a little with pencils, etc. Just for the fact that your even asking this sort of question tells me you have a lot going for you. Good luck.
Alex Crispino
Inclusion Networks Senior Manager
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Sayreville, New Jersey
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Alex’s Answer
Hi! It's great to see your passion for leadership in 9th grade. Besides student council, consider joining another club at school or in your community. Start as a member and aim for a leadership role over time. Also, many nonprofit organizations need volunteers, which is another way to lead. Hope this helps!
Morgan Adams
Healthcare Administration
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Winston-Salem, North Carolina
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Morgan’s Answer
As a 9th grader, you can build leadership skills without being in student council by practicing decision-making and responsibility in everyday situations. Take initiative during group projects, help resolve conflicts fairly, and set personal goals to strengthen self-discipline. Get involved in clubs, sports, or volunteer activities where you can support and encourage others, mentor younger students, or help organize small projects. Speaking up with ideas, asking for feedback from teachers or coaches, and learning from leaders you admire will help you grow confident and capable, showing that leadership is about initiative and trust, not titles.
Alexandra Grashkina-Hristov
International Tax Professional
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Boston, Massachusetts
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Alexandra’s Answer
Hi Fathimah! This is a great question. Even if you're not on the student council, there are plenty of ways to practice making tough decisions and developing your leadership skills as a 9th grader. Here are some ideas:
Join or start a club: Being part of a club or starting one allows you to take on responsibilities, plan activities, and make decisions that affect the group.
Lead group projects: Volunteer to be the leader during class projects. This helps you practice organizing tasks, managing different opinions, and meeting deadlines.
Participate in sports or arts teams: These often require teamwork and leadership, whether it's as a captain or simply encouraging and motivating your teammates.
Volunteer for community service: Helping organize events or coordinating with others can give you experience in decision-making and leadership outside school.
Practice decision-making in everyday situations: Even small decisions, like planning a study group or resolving conflicts among friends, build your confidence and skills.
Give yourself credit about decisions you make and don't forget that leadership is about responsibility, not just titles. Taking initiative and being proactive in any activity is a great way to grow as a leader!
Join or start a club: Being part of a club or starting one allows you to take on responsibilities, plan activities, and make decisions that affect the group.
Lead group projects: Volunteer to be the leader during class projects. This helps you practice organizing tasks, managing different opinions, and meeting deadlines.
Participate in sports or arts teams: These often require teamwork and leadership, whether it's as a captain or simply encouraging and motivating your teammates.
Volunteer for community service: Helping organize events or coordinating with others can give you experience in decision-making and leadership outside school.
Practice decision-making in everyday situations: Even small decisions, like planning a study group or resolving conflicts among friends, build your confidence and skills.
Give yourself credit about decisions you make and don't forget that leadership is about responsibility, not just titles. Taking initiative and being proactive in any activity is a great way to grow as a leader!
Kate Kelly
Talent Management
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Kate’s Answer
Faithmiath - I am so inspired by you! Keep shooting for the stars and striving for big things.
One suggestion I have is think of your favorite brands or companies - go follow their CEO and leaders on LinkedIn or other social medias. You will learn what is top of mind for business leaders and understand how they are learning and growing to shape the future of those brands. It will continue to inspire you as well as likely shape how you design your own learning so that you can stay relevant and up to date on what is important in business today. Be sure to follow both the CEO and their leadership team (they likely have someone in an HR space, an Operations role, etc.) as the team that is sitting around them is also JUST as impactful.
Good luck and I can't wait to see your name as a CEO some day.
One suggestion I have is think of your favorite brands or companies - go follow their CEO and leaders on LinkedIn or other social medias. You will learn what is top of mind for business leaders and understand how they are learning and growing to shape the future of those brands. It will continue to inspire you as well as likely shape how you design your own learning so that you can stay relevant and up to date on what is important in business today. Be sure to follow both the CEO and their leadership team (they likely have someone in an HR space, an Operations role, etc.) as the team that is sitting around them is also JUST as impactful.
Good luck and I can't wait to see your name as a CEO some day.
Bianca Zavala
Humans Resource Manager
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Dallas, Texas
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Bianca’s Answer
Even if you’re not on the student council, there are so many exciting ways for you to build your decision-making and leadership skills as a 9th grader! Jump into leadership roles in group projects or clubs by helping organize activities and guiding your teammates. Take the lead in study groups, sports teams, or community service projects—these are great chances to make important decisions and inspire others. You can even practice making tough choices in everyday situations, like planning fun outings with friends or managing your time wisely. Leadership is all about stepping up, communicating confidently, and supporting those around you, so keep an eye out for opportunities to shine and grow your skills every day!
Melissa Brunner
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Melissa’s Answer
This is great start to be a leader - seeking knowledge! Role play scenarios with your parents or friends. There has been great tips that have helped me in my career to not only be a leader but lead others with me. When role playing practice these tips:
1. Stay calm and professional. This helps in diffusing tension and sets the tone for a constructive conversation.
2. Practice active listening. Listening is a powerful tool in conflict resolution. Make sure you fully understand the other person's perspective before responding. Show empathy and acknowledge their feelings, even if you disagree. This not only shows respect but also opens the door to finding common ground.
3. Focus on Solutions, Not Problems. Shift the focus from the problem to finding a solution. Encourage collaborative problem-solving and be open to compromise. This approach resolves the immediate issue and fosters a more cooperative work environment.
4. Stay Positive and Professional. Maintaining a positive attitude, even in the face of adversity, can be incredibly powerful. Focus on the aspects of your work that you enjoy and find fulfilling. This positive outlook can help you navigate challenging interactions more effectively.
1. Stay calm and professional. This helps in diffusing tension and sets the tone for a constructive conversation.
2. Practice active listening. Listening is a powerful tool in conflict resolution. Make sure you fully understand the other person's perspective before responding. Show empathy and acknowledge their feelings, even if you disagree. This not only shows respect but also opens the door to finding common ground.
3. Focus on Solutions, Not Problems. Shift the focus from the problem to finding a solution. Encourage collaborative problem-solving and be open to compromise. This approach resolves the immediate issue and fosters a more cooperative work environment.
4. Stay Positive and Professional. Maintaining a positive attitude, even in the face of adversity, can be incredibly powerful. Focus on the aspects of your work that you enjoy and find fulfilling. This positive outlook can help you navigate challenging interactions more effectively.
Christine Blades
Consumer Markets Sales Leader
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Tampa, Florida
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Christine’s Answer
By asking this question, you're already on the right path to finding leadership opportunities. You don't need to be on the student council to lead. In class, ask questions and follow up on them. Take charge in team projects and speak up confidently. Listen to different viewpoints and have constructive conversations. Develop inclusive habits to understand other perspectives, and use these insights to improve and expand your ideas. Volunteer whenever possible and get involved. You can do it!
Kimberly Jones
Human Resources
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Dallas, Texas
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Kimberly’s Answer
Look for other opportunities to practice your leadership. It could be in an organization outside of school, too, like your church if you have one or other community organizations where you might have an interest. You could potentially even be a mentor to younger students through an organized program; that shows leadership, too.
Anthony Kofi Hene-Amoah
Translation, Editing, Project Management, Research and Evangelism
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Anthony’s Answer
Please, note the following, relating to how you can make tough decisions:-
1. Consider the type of decision.
2. Consider the relevance or importance of the decision.
3. The time or period you make the decision is very important.
4. Determine that the decision is not the one that can hurt anybody.
Best regards.
1. Consider the type of decision.
2. Consider the relevance or importance of the decision.
3. The time or period you make the decision is very important.
4. Determine that the decision is not the one that can hurt anybody.
Best regards.
Alison Dickey
HR Manager
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Raleigh, North Carolina
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Alison’s Answer
Hi Fathimath,
There are so many ways to be a leader that don’t involve student council. Think about something in your personal life that you’re passionate about. If you have a hobby you enjoy—like art, reading, or cooking—you could consider starting a club at your school. Putting yourself out there is one of the most important parts of leadership.
You can also look for opportunities to tutor or mentor your peers, or even younger students. These experiences build confidence and help you develop real leadership skills.
Lastly, I’d recommend reading a few books on leadership. There’s no single style that works for everyone, so learning how different leaders approach challenges will help you make thoughtful, well‑rounded decisions.
There are so many ways to be a leader that don’t involve student council. Think about something in your personal life that you’re passionate about. If you have a hobby you enjoy—like art, reading, or cooking—you could consider starting a club at your school. Putting yourself out there is one of the most important parts of leadership.
You can also look for opportunities to tutor or mentor your peers, or even younger students. These experiences build confidence and help you develop real leadership skills.
Lastly, I’d recommend reading a few books on leadership. There’s no single style that works for everyone, so learning how different leaders approach challenges will help you make thoughtful, well‑rounded decisions.
Katelyn Stinchfield
Operations & Deployment
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Ridgefield, Connecticut
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Katelyn’s Answer
Fathimath - You don’t need a title to be a leader. Leadership is something you build through your actions, your courage, and the way you show up for others. Every time you take initiative, solve a problem, or step up when something needs to be done, you’re already practicing the same skills strong leaders use every day. You can become someone others naturally look to—not because you’re in student council, but because you’ve chosen to lead from wherever you are.
Here are three next steps to get started:
*Pick a project you care about—a club event, a fundraiser, or a volunteer idea—and take the lead on making it happen.
*Practice decision‑making daily by working through small challenges using a simple process: identify the problem, consider your options, collaborate, choose, and reflect.
*Look for moments to support others—help organize your class group project, encourage teammates, or mentor younger students. These small acts build trust and influence.
In no time you will be a fearless leader!
Here are three next steps to get started:
*Pick a project you care about—a club event, a fundraiser, or a volunteer idea—and take the lead on making it happen.
*Practice decision‑making daily by working through small challenges using a simple process: identify the problem, consider your options, collaborate, choose, and reflect.
*Look for moments to support others—help organize your class group project, encourage teammates, or mentor younger students. These small acts build trust and influence.
In no time you will be a fearless leader!
Elizabeth Mahoney
Executive Assistant
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Tampa, Florida
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Elizabeth’s Answer
Hello! You don't need to belong to or lead a formal "team" to show leadership skills. Take everyday scenarios and use opportunities to step up and make decisions that might positively impact a group. One hard decision made will have a positive impact on your confidence level to make more and more hard decisions. Always be open to feedback and take time to self-reflect on opportunities for growth for yourself.
If you are looking for more formal opportunities to be in a leadership role, seek out opportunities for school groups, clubs, activities or community activities you can be a part of and put yourself out there! Being a leader is about taking some risk and believing in yourself!
If you are looking for more formal opportunities to be in a leadership role, seek out opportunities for school groups, clubs, activities or community activities you can be a part of and put yourself out there! Being a leader is about taking some risk and believing in yourself!
James Chan
Director Solutions Consulting
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Portsmouth, Rhode Island
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James’s Answer
Hi Fathimath!
Thanks for asking such a great question. Rather than repeating the advice already shared in this thread, I wanted to add a few perspectives that have helped shape my own journey as a technology leader.
As you navigate your path, you'll likely find that the most effective leaders are avid readers. They actively seek out books on leadership, personal development, and domain expertise to constantly improve.
I highly recommend starting with:
"Developing the Leader Within You" and "Developing the Leaders Around You" by John Maxwell.
"How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.
One of the most important lessons from these books is that the hardest person you will ever lead is yourself. I suggest starting there: Can you identify a problem or a goal you want to achieve? Can you define a vision and strategy to reach it, and then maintain the discipline to execute that plan? If you master the art of leading yourself, you’ll find it much easier to inspire others to follow your lead.
Finally, remember that the Student Council isn’t the only place to grow. Every school project is a leadership opportunity. You don’t need a title to lead; instead, focus on the end goal. Ask yourself: "How can I make this project successful, and how can I best partner with my teammates to get there?"
Thanks for asking such a great question. Rather than repeating the advice already shared in this thread, I wanted to add a few perspectives that have helped shape my own journey as a technology leader.
As you navigate your path, you'll likely find that the most effective leaders are avid readers. They actively seek out books on leadership, personal development, and domain expertise to constantly improve.
I highly recommend starting with:
"Developing the Leader Within You" and "Developing the Leaders Around You" by John Maxwell.
"How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie.
One of the most important lessons from these books is that the hardest person you will ever lead is yourself. I suggest starting there: Can you identify a problem or a goal you want to achieve? Can you define a vision and strategy to reach it, and then maintain the discipline to execute that plan? If you master the art of leading yourself, you’ll find it much easier to inspire others to follow your lead.
Finally, remember that the Student Council isn’t the only place to grow. Every school project is a leadership opportunity. You don’t need a title to lead; instead, focus on the end goal. Ask yourself: "How can I make this project successful, and how can I best partner with my teammates to get there?"
Caitlin Canton
Human Resources Manager
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Cleveland, Ohio
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Caitlin’s Answer
Hi Fathimath,
This is a great question! I love that you want to be involved and think about leadership roles that you can access now. Are there any teams or clubs at your school that you can join? Do you have a teacher that you can share your ambitions with - they may have connections to get you started. Do you belong to a church, temple, etc that may have a youth organization that you can help lead? You could start your own business! Lawn care, babysitting, cleaning, etc - if you have time, especially over the summer, you can demonstrate a lot of leadership qualities even if you are your own boss.
Think about what 'leadership' means to you. Is it directing people? Helping people? My guess is you are already a leader in some way, even if you do not have a formal title. Think about leaders that you have worked with or have supported you - what qualities did they possess that made them great? Do you have opportunities to put them into action? Encouraging a classmate who is struggling in a particular subject? Sitting with someone at lunch who looks lonely? All of these things matter, and will shape you into a great leader!
This is a great question! I love that you want to be involved and think about leadership roles that you can access now. Are there any teams or clubs at your school that you can join? Do you have a teacher that you can share your ambitions with - they may have connections to get you started. Do you belong to a church, temple, etc that may have a youth organization that you can help lead? You could start your own business! Lawn care, babysitting, cleaning, etc - if you have time, especially over the summer, you can demonstrate a lot of leadership qualities even if you are your own boss.
Think about what 'leadership' means to you. Is it directing people? Helping people? My guess is you are already a leader in some way, even if you do not have a formal title. Think about leaders that you have worked with or have supported you - what qualities did they possess that made them great? Do you have opportunities to put them into action? Encouraging a classmate who is struggling in a particular subject? Sitting with someone at lunch who looks lonely? All of these things matter, and will shape you into a great leader!
Shannon Zulauf
Risk & Independence
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Myrtle Beach, South Carolina
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Shannon’s Answer
You don’t need a formal role to build leadership skills. Leadership is really about how you show up, not what position you hold.
One of the best ways to practice making tough decisions is in small, everyday situations. This could be in group projects, clubs, sports teams, or even among friends. Volunteer to help organize the work, suggest a plan when others are unsure, or step in to resolve disagreements. Making decisions—especially when not everyone agrees—is a big part of leadership.
You can also practice leadership by taking responsibility. If something isn’t going well, instead of waiting for someone else to fix it, ask, “What can I do to help improve this?” Leaders are often the people who notice gaps and step up quietly.
Another powerful way to grow is by learning from others. Watch leaders you admire—teachers, coaches, older students—and pay attention to how they communicate, make decisions, and handle pressure. Ask questions. Leadership skills grow faster when you’re curious and open to feedback.
Finally, remember that leadership includes listening and empathy, not just being in charge. Supporting teammates, encouraging others, and creating an environment where people feel heard are just as important as making decisions.
You’re already on the right track just by asking this question. Focus on practicing leadership in small ways now—those skills compound over time, and by the time opportunities like student council come around, you’ll be ready.
One of the best ways to practice making tough decisions is in small, everyday situations. This could be in group projects, clubs, sports teams, or even among friends. Volunteer to help organize the work, suggest a plan when others are unsure, or step in to resolve disagreements. Making decisions—especially when not everyone agrees—is a big part of leadership.
You can also practice leadership by taking responsibility. If something isn’t going well, instead of waiting for someone else to fix it, ask, “What can I do to help improve this?” Leaders are often the people who notice gaps and step up quietly.
Another powerful way to grow is by learning from others. Watch leaders you admire—teachers, coaches, older students—and pay attention to how they communicate, make decisions, and handle pressure. Ask questions. Leadership skills grow faster when you’re curious and open to feedback.
Finally, remember that leadership includes listening and empathy, not just being in charge. Supporting teammates, encouraging others, and creating an environment where people feel heard are just as important as making decisions.
You’re already on the right track just by asking this question. Focus on practicing leadership in small ways now—those skills compound over time, and by the time opportunities like student council come around, you’ll be ready.
Heather Lopez
Human Resources Director
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St. Louis, MO
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Heather’s Answer
Hi Fathimath, what a great question! I'm glad you are thinking about ways to demonstrate leadership. There are many areas outside of Student Council where you can demonstrate these skills. Think about other activities and hobbies you are involved in where you collaborate with other people - a sports team, family, or co-workers. If you are working with others, you may identify opportunities to demonstrate leadership skills. Teaching or mentoring others - if you have a skill or experience that others around you do not have, you can demonstrate leadership by sharing your knowledge or experience. You can get a group of friends or classmates together to volunteer in your community - organizing and setting ground rules for the opportunity can present an opportunity to demonstrate leadership. You may also have leadership opportunities if you work in group projects for a class. You can demonstrate leadership by navigating the dynamics of the group, gaining consensus on a topic or direction of the project, or motivating others to contribute and do their part in the project. These are examples and experiences that can help you in the future.
Jiaming Chen
Solutions Consultant
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Atlanta, Georgia
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Jiaming’s Answer
That's a fantastic goal! As a Solutions Consultant, I guide teams through technical challenges without being their official manager.
Leadership is like a muscle; you can strengthen it anywhere. Here are three easy ways to start practicing:
1. Lead Group Projects
Group projects are great for trying out leadership.
What to Do: Volunteer to organize deadlines and assign tasks.
The Challenge: If a team member isn't contributing, decide whether to talk to them or adjust the plan. Handling this is a valuable skill.
2. Create a "Mini-Project"
You don't need a formal club.
What to Do: Plan something small with friends, like a gaming tournament, a weekend hike, or a study group.
The Challenge: Decide on the "who, when, and where." When people disagree, practice making a decision that keeps everyone on track.
3. Volunteer for "Shift Lead" Roles
Check out local charities, food banks, or animal shelters.
What to Do: Don't just show up; ask for a small responsibility, like managing sign-ins or supplies.
The Challenge: Volunteering often means dealing with unexpected issues. Practice staying calm and suggesting solutions when things go wrong.
Leadership is like a muscle; you can strengthen it anywhere. Here are three easy ways to start practicing:
1. Lead Group Projects
Group projects are great for trying out leadership.
What to Do: Volunteer to organize deadlines and assign tasks.
The Challenge: If a team member isn't contributing, decide whether to talk to them or adjust the plan. Handling this is a valuable skill.
2. Create a "Mini-Project"
You don't need a formal club.
What to Do: Plan something small with friends, like a gaming tournament, a weekend hike, or a study group.
The Challenge: Decide on the "who, when, and where." When people disagree, practice making a decision that keeps everyone on track.
3. Volunteer for "Shift Lead" Roles
Check out local charities, food banks, or animal shelters.
What to Do: Don't just show up; ask for a small responsibility, like managing sign-ins or supplies.
The Challenge: Volunteering often means dealing with unexpected issues. Practice staying calm and suggesting solutions when things go wrong.
Arlene Demsyn-Jones
Sr. Engineering Manager
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Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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Arlene’s Answer
Hi Fathimath! That's a great question! I'm glad that at your age, you're thinking about these things!
Leading doesn't necessarily mean you have to be in student council or having an official title! It could be as simple as leading a school project. For example, if you have some group projects or activities, you can showcase and practice leadership through those. You can help your group achieve your goals by taking initiative. I imagine there's plenty of those opportunities in your school/class. I also recommend joining different school clubs/orgs/teams or outside school groups -- whether that's academic, sports, music, or something else... do something that you are passionate about and leadership will naturally show! The more you engage yourself with these activities with different people and groups, the more you'd be able to practice. It'd also be helpful to have someone or some people you look up to. Do you have people in school that you think are great leaders? What makes them a great leader? How can you do the same? Reflecting on those might be helpful.
Leading doesn't necessarily mean you have to be in student council or having an official title! It could be as simple as leading a school project. For example, if you have some group projects or activities, you can showcase and practice leadership through those. You can help your group achieve your goals by taking initiative. I imagine there's plenty of those opportunities in your school/class. I also recommend joining different school clubs/orgs/teams or outside school groups -- whether that's academic, sports, music, or something else... do something that you are passionate about and leadership will naturally show! The more you engage yourself with these activities with different people and groups, the more you'd be able to practice. It'd also be helpful to have someone or some people you look up to. Do you have people in school that you think are great leaders? What makes them a great leader? How can you do the same? Reflecting on those might be helpful.
Jerome Dees Jr.
Sales Professional and Networking Expert
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San Francisco, California
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Jerome’s Answer
I agree with the other post. There are so many opportunities that exist to get leadership experience. I think you were asking the right question and I hope one of the following suggestions will help:
Volunteer In Your Community
Run For Council
Join a student run organization
Start a student run organization
Take a leadership class
Jerome recommends the following next steps:
Jane Torres, PHR, SHRM-CP (She/Her)
Global Talent Consultant, Director at PwC
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Tampa, Florida
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Jane’s Answer
Hello Fathimath, thanks for reaching out about showing leadership and making tough decisions. Here are some encouraging ways to develop these skills:
1. Take Initiative
Leadership begins with action. You can start by organizing a study group or volunteering to help with class tasks. These small steps show responsibility and a willingness to help others.
2. Communicate Clearly
Good communication is key. Practice by encouraging quiet classmates to speak up, resolving conflicts calmly, and asking thoughtful questions to keep projects on track.
3. Show Empathy
Understanding emotions is important. You can lead by noticing when someone is upset and offering support, responding kindly in tough situations, and being aware of your impact on others.
4. Lead by Involvement
You don't need a title to lead. Join clubs or sports teams and take on roles like organizing events or supporting teammates. Leadership is about guiding and improving situations.
5. Start a Project
Show creativity by starting a volunteer effort or a project you're passionate about. These activities build skills like problem-solving and perseverance.
6. Be Resilient
Leadership also means sticking with challenges. Show resilience by pushing through tough classes and learning from setbacks. People notice and trust those who are dependable.
7. Be a Role Model
Lead through your everyday actions. Show respect, include others, and be reliable in group work. Acting with integrity, even when it's hard, is powerful leadership.
You have many ways to show leadership and make a difference. Keep going, and you'll inspire others along the way!
1. Take Initiative
Leadership begins with action. You can start by organizing a study group or volunteering to help with class tasks. These small steps show responsibility and a willingness to help others.
2. Communicate Clearly
Good communication is key. Practice by encouraging quiet classmates to speak up, resolving conflicts calmly, and asking thoughtful questions to keep projects on track.
3. Show Empathy
Understanding emotions is important. You can lead by noticing when someone is upset and offering support, responding kindly in tough situations, and being aware of your impact on others.
4. Lead by Involvement
You don't need a title to lead. Join clubs or sports teams and take on roles like organizing events or supporting teammates. Leadership is about guiding and improving situations.
5. Start a Project
Show creativity by starting a volunteer effort or a project you're passionate about. These activities build skills like problem-solving and perseverance.
6. Be Resilient
Leadership also means sticking with challenges. Show resilience by pushing through tough classes and learning from setbacks. People notice and trust those who are dependable.
7. Be a Role Model
Lead through your everyday actions. Show respect, include others, and be reliable in group work. Acting with integrity, even when it's hard, is powerful leadership.
You have many ways to show leadership and make a difference. Keep going, and you'll inspire others along the way!
Rick Kneisley
Retired Investment Broker and Investment Sales Manager
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Rick’s Answer
Fathimath,
This is a thoughtful question, and I’ll answer it by sharing a bit of my own business journey, from being managed by others to eventually becoming the one doing the managing.
As I’ve shared many times here on Career Village, my life experience led me to a belief I hold strongly: everyone is brilliant at something. The challenge isn’t talent, it’s recognizing that truth early and then actively searching for where your own brilliance lives.
After a lot of trial and error, I discovered that sales was my greatest professional strength. I loved working with people who genuinely needed my company’s services. But being in sales also meant always reporting to a manager. That experience taught me a great deal, sometimes the hard way.
Let me start with what not to do.
The worst managers I ever worked for led with anger. They belittled people in group meetings and used public criticism as motivation. The result was always the same: morale dropped quickly, trust disappeared, and motivation vanished.
From that, I learned an important leadership lesson: never punish a group for the struggles of a few. Real leadership focuses on what’s working and helps those who are struggling privately, with respect.
When I later became a manager myself, I handled things differently. If someone on my team was working hard but not getting results, I didn’t call them into my office. That alone sends a frightening message. Instead, I went to their office and sat down with them.
I always started by acknowledging what they were doing well. That mattered. It set a positive tone. Then we talked honestly about what wasn’t working, and together we looked for solutions. The goal wasn’t fear, it was growth. That, to me, is leadership with respect.
Now to your specific question:
“How, as a 9th grader, can I practice making tough decisions and lead a team if I’m not in student council?”
“I want to improve my leadership skills.”
Here’s the truth: leadership doesn’t start with a title. It starts with how you treat people.
One of the most powerful leadership tools I ever learned was surprisingly simple, it was respect. I treated everyone with respect, even people I didn’t personally like. Why? Because leadership requires people to want to follow you, not fear you.
And one of the best ways to earn respect is through genuine, thoughtful compliments, given privately or in small moments, not loudly or all at once. Compliments are one of the most powerful human motivators when used sincerely.
So, here’s my advice to you, Fathimath:
Start your leadership journey now. Treat all students with respect, including the bullies and those who ignore you because you’re not in their social circle. Begin offering sincere compliments when you see effort or kindness. Do it calmly. Spread it out over time.
Leadership isn’t about being elected. It’s about being trusted. And trust is built long before anyone hands you a title.
Rick
This is a thoughtful question, and I’ll answer it by sharing a bit of my own business journey, from being managed by others to eventually becoming the one doing the managing.
As I’ve shared many times here on Career Village, my life experience led me to a belief I hold strongly: everyone is brilliant at something. The challenge isn’t talent, it’s recognizing that truth early and then actively searching for where your own brilliance lives.
After a lot of trial and error, I discovered that sales was my greatest professional strength. I loved working with people who genuinely needed my company’s services. But being in sales also meant always reporting to a manager. That experience taught me a great deal, sometimes the hard way.
Let me start with what not to do.
The worst managers I ever worked for led with anger. They belittled people in group meetings and used public criticism as motivation. The result was always the same: morale dropped quickly, trust disappeared, and motivation vanished.
From that, I learned an important leadership lesson: never punish a group for the struggles of a few. Real leadership focuses on what’s working and helps those who are struggling privately, with respect.
When I later became a manager myself, I handled things differently. If someone on my team was working hard but not getting results, I didn’t call them into my office. That alone sends a frightening message. Instead, I went to their office and sat down with them.
I always started by acknowledging what they were doing well. That mattered. It set a positive tone. Then we talked honestly about what wasn’t working, and together we looked for solutions. The goal wasn’t fear, it was growth. That, to me, is leadership with respect.
Now to your specific question:
“How, as a 9th grader, can I practice making tough decisions and lead a team if I’m not in student council?”
“I want to improve my leadership skills.”
Here’s the truth: leadership doesn’t start with a title. It starts with how you treat people.
One of the most powerful leadership tools I ever learned was surprisingly simple, it was respect. I treated everyone with respect, even people I didn’t personally like. Why? Because leadership requires people to want to follow you, not fear you.
And one of the best ways to earn respect is through genuine, thoughtful compliments, given privately or in small moments, not loudly or all at once. Compliments are one of the most powerful human motivators when used sincerely.
So, here’s my advice to you, Fathimath:
Start your leadership journey now. Treat all students with respect, including the bullies and those who ignore you because you’re not in their social circle. Begin offering sincere compliments when you see effort or kindness. Do it calmly. Spread it out over time.
Leadership isn’t about being elected. It’s about being trusted. And trust is built long before anyone hands you a title.
Rick