When do you come to terms of accepting failure or deciding to quit?
I began college as a Animal Science major and realized it wasn't for me. I'm currently a Psychology major, but I'm hoping to still be eligible of becoming a vet student. I keep holding onto the idea that you don't have to be a traditional vet student to be qualified. I have no direction of what I want to do anymore. Currently, I'm planning my degree and I don't know if all the trouble of taking science classes is worth it. Since middle school, all I've wanted was to be a vet surgeon, and now I don't know if I'm holding on to that dream out of my own pride or genuine desire. Any advice or personal stories to get me through this emotional hurdle would be most appreciated. #veterinary #veterinarian #psychology #veterinary-medicine #college
Firstly - no knowledge goes waste. It will always add value to you, your personality and your intelligence if I may say.
Psychology on the other hand is one area which in a way is a base for any other degree or study that you may ever do. It will always help you understand people better. Animals have feelings too, right? I'm sure you'd agree when I say understanding animals is the basic requirement of being a Vet. You can never treat them / help them if you don't understand them!
On the other hand, career change may look a little difficult to settle in and out of place but as long as you have will to learn and adapt to new things, you are good to go!
Sharing my own experience - I started as a medical student, got my graduation done in Hotel Management, masters in Human Resource Management and am currently a part of a very reputed IT company.
There are setbacks, no doubt, all I would say is never stop believing in yourself and never compare your journey with that of others. We all work at our own paces and in our own directions towards success.
And I'm sure you will become a great Vet who is a well read Psychology grad because the first thing about Psychology is learning the concept of "Empathy" and you are gonna have that :)
I hope this helps!
A PERSON WHO NEVER MADE A MISTAKE NEVER TRIED ANYTHING NEW – Albert Einstein
Try something new forces us to grow. We'll never grow from taking action we have always taken. Growth requires us to take new action first, whether it is a new attitude or a new way of thinking, or literally taking new action. Thrusting yourself into new situations often forces beneficial change. A spirit of constant self-challenge keeps us humble and open to new ideas that very well may be better than the ones we currently have.
MENTALLY PREPARE YOURSELF FOR YOUR NEW GOAL – It is easy to do the research on the new journey you are embarking on, but preparing yourself mentally is a totally different story. If your fear is based on a lack of information, then get the information or knowledge you need to examine the situation based on the facts rather than speculation. If you are telling yourself “I can’t achieve my dreams”, your thoughts will create your reality and your mindset will hold you back from having the career you want.
NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE, THE WORD ITSELF SAYS “I’M POSSIBLE”! – Audrey Hepburn
The word perfect shouldn’t even be in the dictionary because it’s just not attainable, and who would want it to be? How boring would the world be if it were “perfect”? Perfect doesn’t exist. The truth is, we all start off as a beginner. Instead of holding ourselves back in fear of being a rookie among the veterans, we should jump at every opportunity to learn from those who’ve been in our shoes before us.
When my dad was teaching me to ride my bike, he would hold onto the seat to help me balance as I peddled down the road – sort of like training wheels 2.0. One day, he started off holding my place like he always did, and then suddenly, he let go. I trusted myself that I could make it to the end of the street without falling, but in the back of my head, I knew that even if I did fall, it wouldn’t matter. I would directly get back up and try again.
Envision your desires and dreams and try to think of them in the frame of mind you would have as a child. If you want to hit the restart button on your dream career, do it. If your dream is to be Veterinarian Surgeon, go for it. Most veterinary schools don't have a preferred major as long as certain science courses are taken. Who cares if you’ve never done it before. Try it all. Do it all. Don’t be afraid of failing, because that’s impossible. You can’t fail when you try; you only fail when you do nothing. Embrace the power of being uncomfortable and flaunt it like a badge, because one day you’ll look back and be so glad that you did.
THE ONLY PERSON YOU ARE DESTINED TO BECOME IS THE PERSON YOU DECIDE TO BE. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
John recommends the following next steps:
First, as I think back when I was feeling this way -I was just following my emotions and completely forgot about all the reasoning behind.no,w, I know that our emotions are sparkling ay to fast and our decisions need to be made on a much cooler head. With that being said, I always go by what I was told all my life by my parents-if you can’t make a decision-sleep on it and in the morning you most likely will make the right decision for yourself.
I am a firm believer -if you feel it in your gut that this is something you really want to do as a professional and you know why then you should not give up ever. Yes, the road to success is not an easy one and that’s why many give up and others move forward. But you need to know deep down in your heart that you never regret the decision you will make down the road.
If this is something you questioning now- it’s ok-you need to ask yourself why? Is it because the class is not interested and you just not liking it or it’s really not what you want to do. Trust me, after almost 16 years on being in my profession- I know it’s so important to love what you do because as you grow-you want to do something that you enjoy, make money and happy to show up to work everyday.
Do I wish I chose another career, yes absolutely but I was an immigrant, my expectations were different, I wasn’t sure what to choose, there was a language barrier, and many other obstacles but I can tell you for sure that it’s never too late to choose another phase, regardless of how old you are- the only issue is that it’s difficult to start when you already settled and other responsibilities take time and now it’s all about finding the time to move forward.
So, it’s ok that you are having all these mixed feelings- this is called soul searching-and you need to listen to you and make a decision.
Best of luck
Psychology can be a great stepping stone to lots of graduate studies. If you feel like you are losing enthusiasm for veterinary medicine then shadow a vet and see if it still seems cool to you. If you realize that it's not really what you thought it was when you were a kid, then good for you for seeing that early in your education before you invested too much time, energy and money in something you did not love.
The best advice I can give is to realize that it takes more courage to change courses than to continue down a path just because it's comfortable.
Best of luck!
As someone who is working through my own fear of failure while also being a recovering perfectionist and overachiever, I feel the anxiety and uncertainty you may be feeling. I made the difficult decision to leave a job of 10 years after many years of unhappiness. It was scary and I thought I was letting a lot people down by quitting. Please BE KIND TO YOURSELF and know that everyone (students, professionals, etc) have these same thoughts and feelings. Change is constant and having and pursuing new dreams is apart of growth. Realizing that you no longer enjoy doing something means you are self-aware and can advocate for yourself. This is a powerful and courageous muscle to flex.
I appreciate you sharing more details in the comments. I was the first person in my immediate family to graduate from college and know the pressure from parents, family & culture to be (their version of) successful. It took me many years and a lot of personal soul-searching, but I know that they wanted to best for me and want me to be happy. Sometimes, it's that simple.
You are not alone! I started off college as an architecture major because I loved to design and draw. I quickly learned there was a lot of math and physics involved in architecture, and had to abandon that dream. I ended up getting a BA in English with no real direction of what I wanted to do.
After college, I worked in retail while researching different jobs and defining what I wanted to do. I ended up in pharmaceutical sales and have a fortunate career that allows me to learn and grow.
I wouldn’t give up on your dream - but I would ask yourself what is it about being a Vet surgeon that interests you? Is it the technical challenge of surgery, is it working with animals, is it being able to help an animal? What is your motivation? Are there other areas in veterinary medicine that you would enjoy, if you are not able to get into vet school?
There is a world of opportunity out there! Don’t get down - you are ahead of the curve in asking yourself these types of questions. I suggest speaking with a vet or a career counselor to help you identify what your desires are in a career and then identify the skills and experience you need to get there. Good luck!
Without knowing why you are feeling this way, it's honestly difficult to address. Are you unable to get good enough grades in science classes? Do you find the material too hard? Are you truly applying yourself? Have you taken advantage of any tutoring assistance and on-line resources? When I was studying law, the professor was unable to put the material across in a way that was meaningful to me. The textbooks didn't help! I found online videos of discussions of the relevant cases, and it all started to make sense!
Perhaps instead of thinking of it as "quitting" veterinary science, you could look at it more as a transition to a different application of that specialty. What do I mean by that? There are all sorts of jobs involving people and animals! Doggy daycare, animal rescue groups, animal adoption counselors, seeeing-eye dog trainers, therapy involving animals, such as this one, which involves helping people with disabilities through a horseback riding program. http://thesaddlelightcenter.com/
I encourage you to explore other ways you can work with both people and animals!
It is not easy for anyone to make this decision so quick but it is only you have realized it may be beyond your skills, or expertise or control to handle the situation but until the best advice to keep trying with all alternative possibilities that are available from various sources (like thoughts, ideas, different approach, technique) and this may take time
Most of times we make these decisions in haste not realizing there is a way out but sometimes accepting failure is always positive sign to achieve something bigger or a valuable lesson learnt for something better tomorrow