Im in a wrong major and now my grades are falling and i feel guilty about it, what should i do?
Im a medstud, im goin in 3rd year right now. I was feeling that meds isnt for me since the begining, but i kept going bcause i dont want to let my parents down. I went through myfirst year good enough, 3.1 GPA and during second year i just couldnt bear it anymore and i got depress. I never told my parents about it, ive been keeping it a secret. My 3rd semester i only got 2.5GPA. I didnt go to any outside class activity , i withdraw my self from my friends cause i just feel i dont connect with them. I also broke up with my bf bcause somehow he just reminds me a lot about medschool. I cried at night , pretend to b okay at day, i still do it right now. Until last month, i cant takeit anymore. I cried in front of my parents, and told them that i dont want to b in meds, i dont want to b a doctor, i want to pursue design. And of course they turned me down. They said tht its okay if i dont want to b a doctro, if i finish meds i can do what ever i want. But honestly, i dont know i just feel so bad about it. I still go to college right now just bcause i dont want to see my mom dissapointed in me. It hurts me inside. I go ti college and study just for formality, and you know how hard meds is, my score falling even futher. Until i didnt pass my last exam. Now i feel im guilty, i waste time and my parents money, all i need to do is just study, and i dont even do it well. I feel lost, im afraid of my future. I used to b a straight A student but now im barely pass. What should i do? Help me. #college #psychology #college-major #clinical-psychology #psychotherapy #depression #personal-development
Please see someone in your school's counseling center ASAP. After you have stabilized your mood with appropriate counseling, go to your school's career development office to explore other academic majors that may be more in alignment with your interests and abilities.
I wish you the best, going forward in time. Please be patient AND kind to yourself right now, as you sound very vulnerable
Talk a deep breath and relax. That may be hard to do at first, but it is the important first step.
If you could present your parents with a plan and some clarity, perhaps they might be more inclined to work with you to achieve it.
A good next step would be to go to your school counselor and your professors and share your concern and ask his/her help in determining what you might want to do next with the education that you have so far accumulated and what career path you might want to follow and how you might get there. There might even be a way to combine medicine and design.Here are some examples:
I feel that you can make much lemonade out of this lemon!
Best of luck. Please let me know if this helps. I would like to follow your progress. Keep me informed.
I understand how you feel Stephanie! Unfortunately, many parents have plans for their children that have nothing to do with their children's desires. I think you would have had a better chance if you had talked to them during your freshman year. I suggest that you talk to your academic advisor or department chair at the University and share your how you're feeling. There might be an opportunity for you to take design courses while completing your degree. If that's not an option, other than completely dropping out you might just have to stick it out.
In addition to that I would suggest that you talk to one of the counselors at your school. In addition to feeling frustrated it also seems as though you're spiraling into a depressive state. This might be beneficial too because once you share the emotional toll that this is taking on you, your parents might have a change of heart.
You should sit with your parents and share this hardship with them. You need to tell them about the nights you cried and the depression your the degree is causing. No one is going to solve this problem other than you. Try to talk to them.