What a great question - one that reflects one of life's ongoing, perpetual challenges: How Do I Balance What I Want to do for the pure pleasure of it and What I Need to do to ensure that my school work (which will become job and home) are well tended. If the balance goes too far in either direction, there are negative consequences.
The answer is time management and self discipline - easy to say, a challenge to do.
I do this by setting aside blocks of time for each. On the weekends, I often have 1 "be productive" day and 1 "play day" when I get to do all the fun stuff. When a weekend is coming up and I have lots of fun stuff planned, I set aside an hour a day prior to the fun weekend to do what needs to be done - clean my home, pay bills, run errands, etc. And then I get to play all weekend. (YAY!!!)
Balancing my time an energy leads to happiness that is well worth the effort.
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Thanks for your question. As others shared, it can be challenging to balance everything you have to do and desire to do. However, making time for yourself and the things you enjoy, can help you manage stress and enable you to do more of the things you want to do, like have a relationship or romance.
I found it helpful to block time on my calendar for studying or reading and then block additional time in between these and work meetings so I am not constantly getting booked in back-to-back events. That way, I have a little break in between.
I have two college age daughters, both of them are dating and one is in grad school. My daughter and her boyfriend will sometimes spend time together at the library or someplace quiet where they can both study, but can still spend time together. After they finish studying or ace a test, they can reward themselves with a quick meal out or walk in the park, etc. but only after they've finished what they set out to accomplish. They help keep each other focused on their goals.
Best wishes to you in your future goals.
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In my own experience i manage to balance my romantic life pretty easy, the thing here is that you need to find a partner that really understand you and shares the same goals as you, I found my boyfriend at a very young age and we are still together after 13 years, I will say the key is always communication.
I really want to express that I was lucky because I saw my friends getting into complicated relationships and not being able to find the balance between dating and studying, but what work for us was setting times either to dates and to study, I remember we went to the library together but there we study apart since we major in different areas, but we always keep the communication open and even now we talk about work and we give each other advice regarding our career.
I would strongly recommend look for someone that helps you be a better version of you, that does not hold you back and allows you to grow, so you can both grow together, because you never know if a simple date could become a relationship.
Everything in life is about balance and sharing experiences so don’t overthink and just enjoy!
Hi Kisan, this is an interesting question that I wouldn’t be surprised if you receive different responses to. Perhaps as a suggestion, I would limit interaction to schedule date time with slightly lesser dates around midterm and finals studying. Open communication to help provide the structure needed to get your schoolwork done would be super helpful in advance of when you need to hunker down. If your romantic partner has issues with understanding your study needs, vice-versa, your compatibility might come into question. Many romantic attachments have survived academic needs though, so you shouldn’t have to worry if you need to dedicate a little extra time to your school work.
Set priorities, that will help you with everything in life. You have to have a very clear goal and a plan to create success, write down why you want that and also think about what you will regret when you don't reach your goal. If your goal is a degree, make that your highest priority. A romance is sweet and nice but you don't know if that is the love of your life. A degree is. Plan time together when you have that time availble. When you don't, then don't
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Communication is huge in a relationship in general but especially when things become stressful. Once my partner graduated we went to the same school and sometimes we had the same classes. I was able to help him and he was able to help me.
My best advice is to be there and support one another. Things are going to be tough at some points. School can be stressful and understanding that and supporting one another through it can help so much.